Impish Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 *headdesk* I swear, some ppl are just...odd. Emailed w/someone whose dd I used to mind. She now has 3 dd. I caught her up on our newest addition, move, etc. She commented on me having 3 ds, 2 dd..."Must be nice. I didn't get even ONE son." :001_huh: I mean, what the heck? Am I supposed to apologize here? I didn't realize that my having 3 sons had anything to do w/her having all girls, for pity sakes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Actually, I can see myself saying something similar, but about your girls - I have four boys and would have loved a girl (so much so that I'm actually looking forward to having daughter-in-laws). I definitely wouldn't want you to apologise for having daughters though, I'd want to hear all about the lovely girly fun you have together. Cassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 *headdesk* I swear, some ppl are just...odd. Emailed w/someone whose dd I used to mind. She now has 3 dd. I caught her up on our newest addition, move, etc. She commented on me having 3 ds, 2 dd..."Must be nice. I didn't get even ONE son." :001_huh: I mean, what the heck? Am I supposed to apologize here? I didn't realize that my having 3 sons had anything to do w/her having all girls, for pity sakes! Tell her I said to suck it up. I didn't get a daughter. The suck it up attitude might be why, though :tongue_smilie:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBear Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Some folks aren't grateful for their blessings. We have two boys - sure I'd love a girl, but at my age, it's not going to happen. We're friends with a couple that has two girls - the husband is seriously pressuring his wife to have another baby. But not just have another - he wants her to undergo IVF with sperm sorting and PGD to pick the embryos that are boys! She doesn't want another baby. He's actually threatening to divorce her now because she won't do it and he wants a boy. He has two absolutely beautiful girls, a gorgeous wife, and he is insistent that if she doesn't do it, he'll walk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted April 16, 2012 Author Share Posted April 16, 2012 Actually, I can see myself saying something similar, but about your girls - I have four boys and would have loved a girl (so much so that I'm actually looking forward to having daughter-in-laws). I definitely wouldn't want you to apologise for having daughters though, I'd want to hear all about the lovely girly fun you have together. Cassy Tell her I said to suck it up. I didn't get a daughter. The suck it up attitude might be why, though :tongue_smilie:. Funny thing...Parenting girls makes me far more nervous than boys. I grew up w/3 brothers, pretty much all the babysitting I did was for boys, and I have a lousy relationship w/my mother. Worry a LOT about screwing up my daughters. Some folks aren't grateful for their blessings. We have two boys - sure I'd love a girl, but at my age, it's not going to happen. We're friends with a couple that has two girls - the husband is seriously pressuring his wife to have another baby. But not just have another - he wants her to undergo IVF with sperm sorting and PGD to pick the embryos that are boys! She doesn't want another baby. He's actually threatening to divorce her now because she won't do it and he wants a boy. He has two absolutely beautiful girls, a gorgeous wife, and he is insistent that if she doesn't do it, he'll walk. What an a$$ :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBear Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 What an a$$ :glare: My advice to her was to call his bluff - pack his stuff, leave it at the curb, change the locks and tell him to not let the door hit him when he knocks and she doesn't let him back in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 We're friends with a couple that has two girls - the husband is seriously pressuring his wife to have another baby. But not just have another - he wants her to undergo IVF with sperm sorting and PGD to pick the embryos that are boys! She doesn't want another baby. He's actually threatening to divorce her now because she won't do it and he wants a boy. He has two absolutely beautiful girls, a gorgeous wife, and he is insistent that if she doesn't do it, he'll walk. Wow. :001_huh::001_huh: Gob-smacked is the word that comes to mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ssavings Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 My SIL says these types of things, followed by a long rant about how much easier girls are to raise. (She has two boys.) People need to be thankful for their kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 That's a horrible thing to say on both ends. Aren't girls good enough? :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 She commented on me having 3 ds, 2 dd..."Must be nice. I didn't get even ONE son." :001_huh: I mean, what the heck? Am I supposed to apologize here? I didn't realize that my having 3 sons had anything to do w/her having all girls, for pity sakes! [/b] I dunno...I would have absolutely taken that as one of jokey things that people say to fill conversational space. It would probably not have occurred to me that she was serious, or that I should be offended. Could she have been joking? Sometimes things like that don't come through very well via email. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted April 16, 2012 Author Share Posted April 16, 2012 That's a horrible thing to say on both ends. Aren't girls good enough? :confused: I'm grateful to have all my kids. I dunno...I would have absolutely taken that as one of jokey things that people say to fill conversational space. It would probably not have occurred to me that she was serious, or that I should be offended. Could she have been joking? Sometimes things like that don't come through very well via email. B/c I've known and worked for her for a while, I'd say this def wasn't a joke. She was not pleased to find out that Baby #2 was a girl. You can't tell the tone behind the message, so I would just respond in a sorta flippant way and let it go. "Yes, in some countries I would be worth many goats!" :D :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in AL Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 You can't tell the tone behind the message, so I would just respond in a sorta flippant way and let it go. "Yes, in some countries I would be worth many goats!" :D :iagree:I agree with this. I would chalk it up to one of those problems translating thoughts through e-mail and leave it at that. I *love* the goat comment!! :lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 I'm grateful to have all my kids. I didn't mean that against you, by "both sides," I mean either having you apologize for having sons or her implying that girls aren't good enough. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 *headdesk* I swear, some ppl are just...odd. Emailed w/someone whose dd I used to mind. She now has 3 dd. I caught her up on our newest addition, move, etc. She commented on me having 3 ds, 2 dd..."Must be nice. I didn't get even ONE son." :001_huh: I mean, what the heck? Am I supposed to apologize here? I didn't realize that my having 3 sons had anything to do w/her having all girls, for pity sakes! You don't apologize as in it is your fault for having sons. You apologize as in extending empathy; she wanted a son and didn't get one. So I'd say something like, "Awww. I'm sorry! Maybe you will have a great son in law some day!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Tell her I said to suck it up. I didn't get a daughter. The suck it up attitude might be why, though :tongue_smilie:. LOL. You sound like a boy Mom! Of course I say the same kind of stuff and I have both. So.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 She commented on me having 3 ds, 2 dd..."Must be nice. I didn't get even ONE son.":001_huh: I mean, what the heck? Am I supposed to apologize here? I didn't realize that my having 3 sons had anything to do w/her having all girls, for pity sakes! she needs to get over herself - even if just for her daughters sake. My grandmother was one of TEN girls (no boys), and lack of boys affected my grandmother - boys were overly fawned over . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Can I make that my new handle, "Worth Many Goats"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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