Oops, duplicate account :/ Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 (edited) Thank you! Need to delete now for privacy reasons. Edited August 27, 2011 by JENinOR Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trish Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I have never had a similar situation, so I hope you find peace. Also, paragraph breaks, if you want people to understand the situation more easily. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 Book recommendation: "Toxic Faith" by Stephen Arterburn. My bil & sil were in a similar situation in a church by the same name. It was a horrific experience, especially for sil. Hope you find healing and peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oops, duplicate account :/ Posted August 26, 2011 Author Share Posted August 26, 2011 I have never had a similar situation, so I hope you find peace. Also, paragraph breaks, if you want people to understand the situation more easily. Good luck! Thanks you Trish and I did the paragraph breaks. :001_smile: Book recommendation: "Toxic Faith" by Stephen Arterburn.My bil & sil were in a similar situation in a church by the same name. It was a horrific experience, especially for sil. Hope you find healing and peace. Thank you for the book recommendation! I read the reviews on Amazon and they were really eye opening. I'm going to wait to see if any more books are recommended here and chose 1 or 2 to begin reading. I know there will probably be some stuff to wade through, but I've gotten practice with taking the good and leaving the questionable. I am sorry for your families similar experience. :grouphug: Many years after I left the V church my former pastor asked me if I felt that time of 'refreshing' was beneficial or something like that. I did not think it was and had several specific bizzare and sad instances that came to mind, but I just did not have the courage to tell him no. :001_huh: I actually NODDED MY HEAD and he smiled and hugged me and seemed to be happy he led the church in that direction. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloversandlions Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I have no advice, but for completely different reasons, I can absolutely relate to some of the feelings you've described - especially the vulnerability, the loss of trust, and sick feeling of dread as something approaches. :grouphug: My husband and I have struggled with differences on matters of religion, and it can definitely be a strain on a marriage. That makes it doubly painful - when the person who should be your refuge is either causing, or at least cannot empathize, with the struggle you are experiencing. I hope others will be better able to provide you with the information you seek, and mostly, I wish for you to reach a place of peace, courage, and strength. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I have no advice, but for completely different reasons, I can absolutely relate to some of the feelings you've described - especially the vulnerability, the loss of trust, and sick feeling of dread as something approaches. Me too. It's especially bad when you feel trapped in the situation. Praying for you to find peace. I think simka2 might have some words of wisdom and very likely some book recommendations... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Nyssa Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I've been where you are, friend. :grouphug: Time will heal, and the Lord will give you peace. But you must allow yourself time to grieve your loss and then embrace the wonderful new things He will provide for you. Try not to look back...keep going forward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 try these websites. at least this can get you started. Remember that God doesn't let people down. Keep your eyes on him and not those who hurt you, http://www.hopefortheheart.org/site/DocServer/OLQR_Spiritual_Abuse.pdf?docID=409 http://www.hopefortheheart.org/site/PageServer?pagename=hlp_topic_spiritual_abuse also I googled spiritual abuse and found multiple websites, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oops, duplicate account :/ Posted August 27, 2011 Author Share Posted August 27, 2011 Thanks all. I've had a busy day, but I do really appreciate your understanding and compassion. I know God allowes these things for our growth and I'm looking forward to whatever it is He is working though all this. I was really discouraged last night, but am reminded that God cares and your taking the time to listen and offer a word of encouragent has really been a blessing. I'm also looking forward to reading up and seeing things clearer. Just the reviews on Toxic Faith were so good! Again, thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted August 27, 2011 Share Posted August 27, 2011 I have recommended it many times on here, but what was instrumental in my understanding and healing was the book The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse. It is writing by a Pastor and Psychologist together. There is a follow up book called Soul Repair that is also wonderful. On there site is a forum much like this one, but devoted to recovering from spiritual abuse. Take care! Here is the site http://www.spiritualabuse.com/?page_id=58 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lakotajm Posted August 27, 2011 Share Posted August 27, 2011 See if you can find The Apple You Were Fed. You might find that helpful. Love and :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iona Posted August 27, 2011 Share Posted August 27, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelAR05 Posted August 27, 2011 Share Posted August 27, 2011 i enjoyed reading The Misunderstood God and I heard, but have not read, that this one is good too Pigs in the Pulpit. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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