Jodi-FL Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 you'd think after 31 years as a child of divorce it gets easier, but no. there's no way both my parents can come here as part of their mandatory evacuation, but they can't both come here (mom's remarried, dad's been remarried 3 times and has children from his 3rd marriage that he might have to bring the youngest with him). i hate divorce. vent over, thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Why can't they both come? After 31 years they are still fighting? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 I'm sorry. I have learned that divorce is never easy, no matter the age. I am glad your parents are moving to safety, however. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kchara Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 After 20 some odd years mine are still fighting. :grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry you've got to deal with this, Jodi. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elise1mds Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 Mine have been divorced for 10 years. Dad's remarried, but he still refuses to be in the same room/house/vicinity as my mother. Whatever. :glare: OP, I feel your pain. It just makes you want to rip your hair out and scream, "GET OVER IT ALREADY!" :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dsmama Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 Sorry! I don't know from personal experience, but my DH's parents could barely stand to be in the same stadium for graduations, etc. We are hosting my folks during evac, and DH has already bought tons o' liquor, LOL!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 Sorry, OP, that it is still this way after so many years. I guess it is more common than I thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 There is absolutely no way on earth both my parents could stay in my house! I wouldn't do that to my mother! :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 :grouphug: I totally understand. I had the same sort of problems until my father died in a motorcycle accident. They barely tolerated each other for my wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 :grouphug: I am sorry to hear that due to their fighting you can't help them out. Makes me even more determined to keep making things work with my ex so the kids never have to worry about us fighting now or still in 31 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 you'd think after 31 years as a child of divorce it gets easier, but no. there's no way both my parents can come here as part of their mandatory evacuation, but they can't both come here (mom's remarried, dad's been remarried 3 times and has children from his 3rd marriage that he might have to bring the youngest with him). i hate divorce. vent over, thanks :grouphug: well, you could lay down a rule that the first parent/spouse to make a remotely snotty comment - as determine by you - will get sent packing out in the rain. in the wind. in the middle of the night. with no appeals. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I'm so sorry. My cousin's parents (my uncle and his ex-wife) have been divorced for almost 30 years and still can't even say each other's names without a sneer. There is no way they could be in the same house. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I will forever be grateful that my parents split peacefully and stayed friendly and able to both participate in the same family activities (holidays, weddings, graduations, birthdays of grandkids, vacations etc) until my mother's death, about 10 years after they separated. My ILs went the other way and as a result put their adult children between them all the time (FIL would not even come to our wedding because my MIL was going to be there). Barring abuse, kids tie people together forever, like it or not. I hope your parents both stay safe! I am sorry you are dealing with this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 I will forever be grateful that my parents split peacefully and stayed friendly and able to both participate in the same family activities (holidays, weddings, graduations, birthdays of grandkids, vacations etc) until my mother's death, about 10 years after they separated. My ILs went the other way and as a result put their adult children between them all the time (FIL would not even come to our wedding because my MIL was going to be there). Barring abuse, kids tie people together forever, like it or not. I hope your parents both stay safe! I am sorry you are dealing with this. My father and his new wife and my mother all managed to attend the viewing and funeral for my brother-in-law (my sister's dh), who died way too young of malignant melanoma. They totally ignored each other, until, upon leaving the church to drive to the cemetery, my mother gunned it and cut them off, thus securing a spot ahead of them in the funeral procession. Dh and I watched from our van and cheered her on! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 :grouphug:. Sorry you have to deal with that. Mine have been divorced for twenty years. One of them refused to come to my wedding because I invited the other one. At this point in my life I can usually just laugh off the immaturity of others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelweiss Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 My parents divorced long ago and have been civil to each other on the few occasions that they have been together since then. But, even so, there is NO way that I would ever host them (even for an evacuation) in my house at the same time. It would be awkward and uncomfortable and we'd all be miserable!!! My house is very large and I still think it would be absolutely horrible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jodi-FL Posted August 26, 2011 Author Share Posted August 26, 2011 y'all made me feel so much better. my dad and half brother and his dog are now coming here, and my mom and her husband have found friends to stay with (just east of phila. but still better than right on the coast). thanks again- jodi now in pa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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