shinyhappypeople Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I'm usually fine on Father's Day, but this year it's hitting me really hard. Please pray for me. Without going into detail, my dad was abusive and, as far as I can tell, never felt any normal father-daughter emotional connection with me. I loved him anyway. He died when I was 14, so there's really no way to fix things between us now. As I see all the people change their facebook profile pictures to their fathers and publicly praise these good men, I find my heart breaking a little. Nothing to do but push through and be strong, I guess. But, will you please pray for me today? I don't want to spend the day fighting tears. My husband is an amazing daddy to our girls and I want today to be about celebrating HIM, not grieving for the evil that passed through my life so many years ago. Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Aw, you got it! :grouphug: I'm sorry you went through that. I wish your father had been a real dad to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I'm usually fine on Father's Day, but this year it's hitting me really hard. Please pray for me. Without going into detail, my dad was abusive and, as far as I can tell, never felt any normal father-daughter emotional connection with me. I loved him anyway. He died when I was 14, so there's really no way to fix things between us now. As I see all the people change their facebook profile pictures to their fathers and publicly praise these good men, I find my heart breaking a little. Nothing to do but push through and be strong, I guess. But, will you please pray for me today? I don't want to spend the day fighting tears. My husband is an amazing daddy to our girls and I want today to be about celebrating HIM, not grieving for the evil that passed through my life so many years ago. Thanks. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I could have written this. I am really sorry. Sometimes I imagine if my dad had lived he would have changed. Turn off facebook. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors and people usually only write the good things anyway. You are right to want to celebrate your DH. Get involved in Father's Day plans for him and hopefully the fun you are having will push the bad memories away. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 :grouphug: My father just disappeared when I was about 10 years old. They'd been divorced, and my mother was taking us for the weekend visit we'd expected to have, only when we got there, one of his roommates informed us that he and his girlfriend had taken all their stuff and just disappeared. I make Father's Day about my husband, and knowing that my children have a better father than I did, and that makes me happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 :grouphug: No words of wisdom, but I will pray for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 My husband is an amazing daddy to our girls and I want today to be about celebrating HIM, not grieving for the evil that passed through my life so many years ago. :grouphug: This would be my goal, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nature Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I'm sorry you're hurting. Praying for you here. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. I don't have a relationship with my father. I stopped trying after he had 2 heart attacks and prostate cancer and still didn't care to be involved in his children's lives. There is no guarantee that if he had lived longer that you would have been able to patch things up. Some people spend their entire lives emotionally unattached. Try to enjoy the day with your family, and don't let others relationships with their fathers be a measuring stick for yourself. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiegirl Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Not only do you have my prayers, you have my hugs, too. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelaughs_times_three Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I am praying for you today. Praying that through the pain you can find yet another level of healing. Praying that this day will bring surprises full of unexpected joy. Praying that you can feel the love of your truest Father - your Heavenly Father in a new and even more real way than ever before! Thanking God for your husband and family that will give you the love you need today. Praying for soothing for your heart. and sending lots of virtual :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:s your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shinyhappypeople Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Thanks for the hugs and prayers. They helped so much!!! :) Today has turned out to be very nice. Girls gave daddy gifts, we took him out to lunch, and spent time at the park flying kites. It was a GOOD day and I am so grateful!! I had an epiphany this morning - regardless of the past, I can be happy for one thing in particular: I BROKE THE CYCLE. I come from a long line of little girls with abusive, neglectful daddies. The cycle ends with me. MY girls will not grow up with that ugly legacy and that is so amazing and gratifying. My upbringing still stings, but my present is pretty wonderful. I'm blessed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks for the hugs and prayers. They helped so much!!! :) Today has turned out to be very nice. Girls gave daddy gifts, we took him out to lunch, and spent time at the park flying kites. It was a GOOD day and I am so grateful!! I had an epiphany this morning - regardless of the past, I can be happy for one thing in particular: I BROKE THE CYCLE. I come from a long line of little girls with abusive, neglectful daddies. The cycle ends with me. MY girls will not grow up with that ugly legacy and that is so amazing and gratifying. My upbringing still stings, but my present is pretty wonderful. I'm blessed. I am glad to hear about your wonderful day and even happier to read about your epiphany! It is amazing to see the love between DH & DD and not any fear. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glennis_b Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Sorry you are having a hard time. Try to focus on what your children will remember about your wonderful husband. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 May the Father who loves you always take you into the palm of His hand and heal you of all hurts.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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