ThatCyndiGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I just realized last night that people I grew up THINKING were my cousins.....maybe are not. Their father is the brother to my grandma. ???? Their father is my great uncle, right, since he is my grandmother's sibling. So, what are his kids called in relation to me and my (real) cousins? (the children of my mother's sister) Are you confused yet? I grew up calling them cousins, but I don't think that is right. They are the children of my great uncle, but I'm not sure what that name is. I sincerely wish we were a Farsi-speaking family right about now! They have different names for all of the various relationships! ETA: I found it. They are second cousins. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Here's a chart that is about as clear as mud. You would pick the common ancestor, which would be great-grandparents, is that right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Here's a chart that is about as clear as mud. You would pick the common ancestor, which would be great-grandparents, is that right? I think that somewhere in this chart, way before the phrase, "three times removed," there should be at least a few boxes labeled, "complete and total strangers." ;) Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatCyndiGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Author Share Posted January 27, 2011 Thanks! That chart is great! I used to have one of those when I worked in child welfare. We had to enter the relationship 'just right' and we looked it up on one of those. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 When you pick the common ancestor do you pick the one you have the same relationship with or one that you are both related to? greatgrandparent to both or one that is a grandparent to one and a grand aunt of some kind to the other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 (edited) Sounds like 1st Cousin Once Removed. They are technically your cousins...Cousin is a correct term ;) I'm in contact with all kinds of cousins and we refer to each other as such (ex "Cousin Helen" is my 1st Cousin Twice Removed...she was my Grandmother's 1st Cousin). Edited January 27, 2011 by mommaduck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I think that somewhere in this chart, way before the phrase, "three times removed," there should be at least a few boxes labeled, "complete and total strangers." ;) Cat Cat, you crack me up. :smilielol5: There are some cousins I couldn't remove far enough for true peace! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 When you pick the common ancestor do you pick the one you have the same relationship with or one that you are both related to? greatgrandparent to both or one that is a grandparent to one and a grand aunt of some kind to the other. The first one that you are both directly descended from. In this case it would be her great grandparent and their grandparent...since her grandparent and their parent were siblings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Negin Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I sincerely wish we were a Farsi-speaking family right about now! They have different names for all of the various relationships! :lol: Yes, as a fluent Farsi speaker, I can attest to that. Persians/Iranians live and die for their families and blood, etc. Sometimes/oftentimes, it's just way tooooo much for dh and I. ;) I remember in once speech communication class in my undergrad years, our professor told us that any language has many words for whatever they deem to be important. Eskimos, for example, have 20-something words for snow. Iranians have a different word for pretty much every single relative. And well, Iranians (like most Middle Easterners unfortunately) do not particularly care for dogs or most pets. They don't have different names for different breeds. They're all just called "dog". :lol: Our family is not that way, btw. We're Iranian, but we're also very international. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 There are some cousins I couldn't remove far enough for true peace! :lol::lol::lol::lol: Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoyfulMama Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Sounds like 1st Cousin Once Removed. They are technically your cousins...Cousin is a correct term ;) :iagree: You would be second cousins to his children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Sometimes you have to live in another state just so your kids don't marry a cousin (for me, that's SC LOL! Related to dang near everyone, including the politicians!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I sincerely wish we were a Farsi-speaking family right about now! They have different names for all of the various relationships! When I was in high school, a friend who is Iranian told me that the name for your great-great-grandparent is your "never seen" (I might have that slightly off) but she was calculating how if you had kids young enough in every generation you could see your "never seen" and how cool would that be? Is the root question here if second cousins can marry?;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Their father is my great uncle, right, since he is my grandmother's sibling. So, what are his kids called in relation to me :iagree: His kids are your first cousins- once removed. Their kids are your second cousins. Technically speaking. In our family there are cousins (meaning first cousins), second cousins (other cousinly people we're related to and are happy to know,) and "some kind of distant cousin" (other cousinly people we're related to and are happy we don't know who may be closer relations than the previous category.) :) Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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