Ester Maria Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I was absolutely, absolutely sure I was "done", for years. We never planned a lot of children, one or a few maybe, though three was always our secret number, even at times we dated and had none :D; but the second one surprised us VERY early after the first one (they're not even a full year apart, it gets crazy when every year for few weeks they're same age). We didn't actually actively want children after the second one (which doesn't mean that we wouldn't have gladly accepted another one, that third one we always had somewhere in the back of our minds - it was only the lack of active desire for another child, though had we been "surprised", of course that we would have the child and adore it), for various reasons... First it was them being very small and us being exhausted; then it was stress over moving and work while having so very small children; after that it was changing the continent and going into the completely unknown with two just-past-toddlers and uncertainty over how everything is going to work out, and tons of legal issues to handle; after that, and the huge initial stress and everything, it was "wait, how about schooling them at home while we're here for the next few years, we're going back soon anyway, and let's make sure we don't get an extra child here, but we have that third child somehow in the air, maybe it surprises us back home"; after that, it was "wait, how about not returning to Italy so soon?" and taking birth control less seriously, on and off, but without any serious attempts to get an extra child, and even though we got ourselves a relatively stable life, and relatively decent circumstances to raise a child or two more. We always kinda had that extra child somewhere "in the air", like an unfulfilled promise, but the girls were getting big, taking time and attention and fulfilling us, so we got peaceful with no more children, and were totally mentally positive no more children would come (though we had no grounds to be that sure). So guess what? I saw a doctor today, after weeks of just "knowing" it, and got it officially confirmed. We WILL be getting that third child, and I'm happy beyond expression. :D The girls still have no idea :D, they're spending holidays away, and I know there will be a huge age gap between the kids (they'll be 13 and 12 when this one is born), and that many many changes will come to our home, but so far I can only think about feeling so full and happy, what an amazing New Year gift. (On a side note, we're atheists, but if I was ever really close to believing there's "something", it was this morning.) Sorry for posting the whole topic about it, just thought I'd share. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 congrats :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennefer@SSA Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 How exciting! Congratulations. :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Congratulations! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amydavis Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :001_smile: Congratulations!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaSheep Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Oh how wonderful! If it helps, I am 12 years older than my youngest brother, and he was my cute little buddy when he was little, and now that he's married and in medical school and expecting child #2 he still calls me just to chat sometimes and we have a good adult sibling relationship. His wife is fun, though it took her awhile to adjust to me as a sibling in law at first because I'm the same age as her aunt. Now we just laugh about it. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Yay!! What a great story--congratulations!! :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladydusk Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Congratulations! How exciting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freetobeme Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 how exciting! congrats to you all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merry Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 .... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Congratulations! I'm 13 years older than my brother, and we could not be closer. I love seeing how much my older kids adore my "babies". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
at the beach Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 What a sweet, sweet gift. Enjoy!!! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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