I have tried everything I can think of to NOT have nightmares, but, for the life of me, I just don't know how to solve this on my own. Almost everytime I go to sleep (and it takes me awhile to get there!) I am confronted by these dreams, always the same theme: watching my brother die/what happened around the time of the diagnosis/the funeral/etc. I keep reliving this same routine over and over and over again. It's like it wasn't enough for it to really, really hurt IRL, but now I get to see it/feel it all over again when I just really need to sleep! Last night I dreamed that I saw TWO of him, they were standing right next to each other. One was him as a younger man and healthy, the other was him when he was sick. My favourite cousin Cheryl was standing next to him and I thought,"YAY! We are all together again! ONE of them has to be really him", then I realized that they were both strangers (both of the men) and then felt really sad and disappointed again, realizing, once again, that he is really dead. I am on an anti-depressant and in therapy and I journal: All things I would suggest to my clients. I have been trying hard not to talk to dh about this because he is in a class this week and he needs to concentrate and study for a certification exam. He sent me a text message today, "what were you dreaming about this morning?" (I talk in my sleep) Any ideas? Is there anything I can do to actually get restful sleep and not be so consumed by this? When we got the diagnosis the Dr. just left so I had to tell Jim what he was dying of and I was there when he died. While I consider it a privilege to have been there for him, I'm starting to think that I can't handle it. I used to love sleeping, but now? Not so much. Any ideas?

This is just my opinion, but...... The children that you already have deserve to have/keep their mother. Your husband deserves to keep his wife. FOR ME it would feel irresponsible to try to get pregnant/not prevent if I knew that there was a good chance I could die. yes, I know that "we could go at any time", etc.....but, if the odds are higher, then....no, couldn't do it.

Should you get involved? NO Should you contact anyone? NO An emphatic and very loud and undeniable NO NO NO NO NO!! I am being gentle, but you should know that this can turn out VERY, VERY badly!! This is one of the things that I just absolutely HATE about the military: when they want you to hurry up and do something, they want it YESTERDAY, but when YOU want something, you are advised to hurry up and wait.....then wait some more. I'm so sorry that you are going through this, but getting involved has the potential to make him look bad.....very bad.

I don't remember Bush being referred to in this way during his presidency. It is a not-so-subtle way to demote him from role of President to ordinary citizen, imho.

It doesn't seem like a gender thing. I think it would just depend on the person. If your daughter wants it and you are fine with it, then......??

My oldest will continue with archery and will probably add piano lessons. 4 1/2 year old will start with piano lessons. 3 year old is hoping to start dance class.

I am planning on doing the same thing. The program I am applying to is only ten months long, it is a Bachelor's to ADN program. I can then apply to a Bachelor's (any bachelor's degree is required, as long as the applicant has earned an RN) to MSN program at OU. Total time in intense coursework? 10 months. Even if it is horrible, it is only ten months. I keep telling myself that I can do ANYTHING for ten months.... .....right? .....right? My husband's mother-in-law lives with us, which, in some ways is a good thing, and in some ways means that I have a 67-year-old teenager in my house. :tongue_smilie: I, also plan to work nights/weekends/holidays. I would ideally work three 12 hour shifts and/or Baylor. Our city offers nurses the Baylor plan which is VERY family-friendly. You might want to check out www.allnurses.com for more info. Good luck with whatever you decide!

This isn't a homeschooling, public schooling or private schooling issue, imho. This is a MANNERS issue. It is not okay for this person to continually berate you about the choices you have made. The same holds true for breast vs. bottle, circ, vax, etc. It is just RUDE. I would say, "we can either agree to disagree.....or discontinue communication."

Thank you, Happy and Swim and Drama. I worry about my kids losing one of THEIR siblings, too. Now that I know how it feels....I would hate for one of them to feel this, too.

But, telling people how to run their sex lives is similar to telling them how to educate their children. We can't have it both ways: "have sex only with the people we approve of, but give us freedoms when it comes to the education of our children."

I sat here trying to figure out how to respond to the question. I am happy with the life I live with my husband and children, yes. But,.....many days I wish I could just die. We have life insurance policies on dh, me, etc. We have planned and planned and planned about what the other spouse should do if we were ever widowed. I never ever in a million years thought about losing a sibling,though, someone I had known for my entire life. Watching him die, holding his hand as he took his last breath, and then dealing with the emotional aftermath has proven to be more profoundly difficult than I had ever imagined. And some days it just hurts more than others. (yesterday was his birthday) I'm not suicidal. But, if a car were coming at me I'm not so sure I would get out of the way.

The phrase "When you're a hammer everything looks like a nail" comes to mind. I think that they have far outlived any perceived usefulness. It seems that they are reluctant to get involved in most cases, citing "custody issues" which they refuse to help with. I don't think that they are necessary, imho and some of their legal advice is ....sketchy, to say the least. (how to deal with social workers, for one)

Thanks! I set up a profile over there. I love Ree's stuff! (her writing, pics, recipes, etc.)

Ooh, thank you for that lentil recipe, Jan! I think we will have that tomorrow for dinner! OP, thanks so much for starting this thread! I just bought a big tin of curry at the Indian market last week and now I have a bunch of new recipes to try out!

Jenn, do you use an actual recipe or just sprinkle in some curry when you cook the lentils/peas? Do you then serve them with rice?

Here is my recipe: Chicken Curry 2 T. oil 2. c. chopped onion ½ c. chopped green bell pepper 2 cloves garlic 6 pieces of chicken (I used one pound of boneless, skinless breasts, cubed) 1 t. curry powder (HEAPING!!!) (plus at least 1 t HOT curry powder ½ t. cumin ½ t. coriander 1 ½ t. salt ½ c. water ¼ c. lemon juice 1 8 ounce can tomato sauce Heat oil in heavy pan or Dutch oven. Add onions, pepper and sauté one minute before adding garlic. Continue until all are softened. (I blended the vegetables at this point so they can be smooth and un-chunky in the sauce, because that’s the way I roll, but, you know…..whatever works for ya!) Keep vegetables (or vegetable paste if you went with my modification) separate for now. Saute chicken in pan until nicely browned. It should resemble the colour of a finely aged leather portfolio. After chicken is mostly cooked through, add vegetables back in as well as the remaining ingredients. Let simmer on stove until you get an inner sense that it is ready. You will know. Serve over rice with Naan.

Infants CAN'T 'learn how to think of others first'. I think that is the whole point of the controversy. Infants have basic needs and they should be honoured. These authors really don't have the wisdom that one would expect from something called "God's way".

Thank you so much for starting this thread! I had a Keeper years ago, but lost it in the move (Why didn't I think to just WEAR IT to the new house?!) I replaced it with the Diva Cup which never did fit right. Even after trimming the stem I felt it poking out. (If I put it any higher it hit my cervix. Maybe I'm just vaginally-height-impaired?) Anyhoo, I have been perusing the links and really want to try the other brands, but can't find suppliers in the US. I wonder if my British friend would be willing to mail them on...?

(In reference to the OP's sister working for a ministry) I can't imagine 'bringing up to a supervisor' what someone is doing in bed. If it doesn't involve children,etc then OMG!!! NO!! To me, this would fall into the category of NONE OF MY BUSINESS!

Dr Keller is a proponent of "Intelligent Design". We use RS4K and do NOT belive in ID/Creationism, but we teach what we believe and discuss the rest. Just wondering....are you opposed to the word "design"? Or the idea of ID?

I think it is foolish and dangerous, but it is being done for publicity, to raise not only funds, but awareness, too, .....I'm guessing. I see the point, but think that it could be made in other, healthier ways.

That must have been SO uncomfortable. If it were me....later on, I would talk to her, if I got the chance to do so one-on-one and say,"I'm sorry if I brought up something painful for you" even though I don't believe I would have done anything wrong, I would still feel the need to apologize for bringing up something painful. (If it sound like I'm blaming you-I'm NOT, that's not the way I meant it. My words are not coming out right, sorry.) I wear a "CURE CJD" bracelet because that is the disease that killed my brother. I have only had a few people ask me about it. I wear it because it increases awareness. (of a disease that only strikes one in one million people, so the odds of me ever knowing anyone who is even remotely affected by this disease are remote.....) Anyway, when people ask I tell them the quick one line version. "It's the disease that killed my brother. Cows get Mad Cow Disease, people get Creutzfeldt-Jakob Disease." (It's the same prion, but different name when it attacks different species.) In a way I feel bad about it because I think that it makes THEM feel bad and that is NOT my intent. We felt blindsided by the diagnosis and the fact that he died so fast. (he was given 4-6 months and he was dead within a month of diagnosis) I guess that there is this glimmer of hope that if it helps ONE PERSON that it is worth it. But, maybe that's a pipe dream. All that to say: it's a weird situation, huh? It is making me re-think the bracelet.

Yes, it worked, but I think that it had less to do with what I consumed and more with the fact that this child was born in the backyard on the patio in water delivered by my husband ......in tranquility. It was such a HUGE difference from the hospital births I had had with the first two. (NOT knocking hospital births!! The home waterbirth was what I wanted and turned out perfectly.) What I wouldn't do: Give up Dawn dishwashing detergent, like others said. Give up henna. (It's so cheap, anyway.) Go back to generic Diet Dr. Pepper. ("Dr. Schnee is Not For Me!!" Say it with me now!) :tongue_smilie:

I'm from Southern Illinois, so Scott is high on my list. We were stationed at Howard for four years, but since we shut it down you don't have to worry about that one. We are currently stationed at Tinker, homesteaded here, actually. DH is now Reserves. I am NOT a fan of Tinker/Oklahoma. :glare: I have met GREAT friends here, but......I think Oklahoma leaves a lot to be desired. It feels too 'small town/Redneck' to me. VERY conservative, very religious. We had our choice of Holloman, NM or here or Langley or the Pentagon. This was closest to family. There is no medical center here so all medical care is now off-base, which you may find good or bad, depending on your military healthcare experiences. What, specifically are you looking for? I should mention that Oklahoma is homeschooling-friendly, so that's a plus! :001_smile:

Well, ahem....not offended, but some people didn't consume it due to economic necessity, but out of fear of experiencing post-partum depression again. (PPD was so bad I would have done ANYTHING to prevent it.) DH put it in a shotglass and I held my nose and chugged. He said, "It was like Fear Factor-Cyndi Style!" :tongue_smilie: