I would not forbid. You have discussed your concerns. Unless you think he is a possible rapist, you have to trust your dd at this point. Unfortunately, these are her mistakes/problems to deal with. Hopefully, she will stick to her guns. Maybe big brother can give the big brother glare and possibly speech to the guy.

It would be hilarious if he and C crossed paths. Too bad they wouldn't know each other!

They will likely be preemie size when they come home. Mine (three of mine were preemie) all stayed there for quite a while. The hospital sent diapers home with us. At that time, you couldn't purchase them elsewhere. Newborn swallowed them, but we used them when we ran out of preemie. My favorite gifts were preemie clothes. We had/received very few because everyone figured they would outgrow them quickly. Not so in our house. I still have those little outfits; they are extremely dear to me.

With today's shipping rates, it is the only way to be able to afford it!

Amazon Prime for sending little stuff. They text and call me a lot. I try to be available and usually am. Dd23 I hear from about once a day. Dd21b about 4 times a day. We are usually on the phone at least an hour every day. I have been able to go up and have dinner with her several times this year. Dd21a lives in town (but a different location). She usually texts a few times a day and calls once. We see her at least 4 or 5 times a week. The only thing I make a conscious effort with is sending dd23 a package every month or two/minimum of on small holidays. We aren't able to see her as often as the others due to distance.

My only all nighters have been as a parent. I am not one for long time periods without sleep. I do not do well. My girls have not reported all nighters to me. I doubt they have. They tend to be meticulous planners. (One has an unnatural attraction for Excel spread sheets...Seriously, she even has a grocery/meal sheet where she keeps up with how much she spends per meal.) Reports are usually finished well in advance. Tweaking happens the day before it is due if it hasn't already been submitted. They study for tests as they go along. The dd who had a professor who procrastinated and ended up cramming almost all of their material and tests into the last couple of weeks of school did have to do some later nights of studying those two weeks. They wonder at their friends who report how hard they studied for a test, but know they didn't start studying until a day or two before. They all have a need for sleep similar to their mother, which means that staying up all night is generally going to mean a useless crying heap of human well before morning. Ds would have most likely been one to wait to study, write papers, and do projects the night before they are due. One of my girls was wondering about the all nighter sensation this exam period. She decided it is a romanticized notion that most students feel is required of college students. It does perplex her a great deal. She has one friend who is in multiple classes with her who uses this as their routine method of studying. According to them, it is "what works for me". Only, they are constantly and consistently surprised by their horrible grades. Dd cannot figure out how that = "works".

I think you were correct. Time to move up the ladder and complain. I'd include a copy of your picture.

And, today, Dd called to say that her advisor wants her to continue working on research related to the project to write up and submit to some CPA journal and a law journal.... Dd named them. I recognized the law one, but it has flown my brain. The judge involved wants it to go further. Dd is going to try to continue with it if her summer internship allows the time. If not, her advisor is going to go forward with it. Dd will contribute when and what she can. Yes, Creekland, this is the best kind of feedback.

My dd is the only person I had ever heard of with a mint allergy until now. I knew they had to exist, but... Strawberries are also off her list. All of the spices that are in the mint family. It makes food quite bland. When I looked up salicylic allergy from your post, I was surprised. Dd reacts to pretty much every one of the foods in the high and moderate ranges. Then again, she reacts to most every food period! Fortunately for her, she has zero problems with gluten. Eggs and dairy she is not allergic to, but she also cannot handle them in any quantity. At least she can eat products that have trace amounts! Her seasonings are almost limited to salt and pepper. She didn't have food allergies until she was a teenager. It has been a drastic change. Currently, the last 2 months, the only things she can eat are a few breads, turkey, potato, rice, and chicken. Doctors haven't been able to figure out what is going on. If she eats more than a tiny amount of anything, she gets sick. She has an appointment with a new GI Friday. This doesn't seem to be allergy related though. In fact, her last endoscopy showed no irritations. Guess that is one good thing from only being able to eat potatoes for a month? Oh, another great food item: sweet potatoes! Dd has found them to be a good friend.

Beef, chicken, pork. potatoes, beans, and rice. The salicylic acid allergy is the tough one. Did the allergist give you any suggestions? Brussel sprouts, green beans, cauliflower, asparagus, pears (no peel), some varieties of apples, bananas, You may have to try different fruits and veggies one at a time to see if they are okay.

Dd23 is in her final semester of classes. One is independent study for a business law class (nothing offered this semester for her and she needed 3 hours). She and her advisor decided that she would design a business law class (they don't have enough of these!). She tremendously enjoyed the project. For one portion, she was granted an interview with some hoity-toity judge who doesn't grant interviews. Anyway, the BIG part...the class she designed all on her own is going to be being taught next semester as an honors level business law class. She is so tickled!

Update: Dd decided to write an email to the dean. All the advice y'all gave was very helpful. She kept to class specifics. After consulting the syllabus, it turns out he isn't following it at all. The syllabus is standard for all of the A&P classes. He is not following the grading procedures outlined. Basically, he is just winging it other than basic content topics. She received a reply within 30 minutes. It was a perfect response. Something will definitely be done to keep it from happening again. (I have a feeling someone will be retiring immediately or after this semester.) This gives dd a good leg to stand on if she requests to be allowed to retake the class and have this one dismissed from her record or given an incomplete.

No. Just stated that I didn't realize anyone actually counted hours. I truly have never met anyone who did, and I do know a lot of people who homeschool. From that point, I was pretty much just answering questions. I do admit to having a problem with not ignoring posts that are directed to me. "Just personality differences most likely. If it makes people more comfortable to count hours, more power to them." A quote from one of my posts above. See, not trying to convince anyone they are wrong. Also, I never called counting hours ridiculous. Only place I used the word ridiculous--"As a ridiculous rule, I would ignore it and just make something up to turn in.". I find it ridiculous for the state to have rules that dictate the number of hours required for a class to be considered completed. I find it ridiculous that the state dictates a certain number of days are required for a subject to be considered to be enough to move forward a grade. If someone else finds it beneficial to themselves, then (as I quoted myself above) that's great.

I admit, I am at home and keep an eye on what/when my kids are working. Most of them preferred to work outside of their bedrooms. I notice what they are working on. Usually, they tended to be on a schedule of sorts that just naturally evolved. If they were spending two hours a day on one subject, I would notice it. If they tended to take one day a week and use that entire day for one subject, it would catch my attention. If X came to me and complained or bragged about his history work taking up all of his time, I would look into why. So, I guess technically I was keeping track of how much time they worked. I just did it in my head. There was no formal recording of X spent 1 hour working on math problems today. That is keeping track of hours to me. A casual observation is not. My kids were athletes, so with NCAA requirements, I did usually have a standard curriculum as a base. I added/subtracted from that as needed/wanted/desired/interest led. edit: I thought of a more specific example. One of my girls decided she wanted to learn about architecture while in high school. We found 3 books that seemed to be an appropriate level for a beginner at a high school level. She read them taking notes. We took a few trips to look at specific buildings in the extended area. She decided on a research topic after reading one book completely, and sections of the other two. She wrote an in depth research paper on that topic. I believe it was about 8 pages total length. I did not specify a length. If it had been only a couple of pages, I would have asked for another paper to be produced on a different topic (probably two more). But, with the depth and time she took on the one, it was sufficient work. She added a few more sources to the three we had when researching. I did submit this one to an outside source for grading. (I am a bit biased when it comes to her writing.) I gave her a credit for her work. This one I have no idea how many hours she put into it total. None. I have no idea what a high school level architecture class should cover. I still don't. And, I don't actually care. Dd studied. Dd learned. Dd got a credit. The credit is the least of those three things. She still has those three books on her shelf in her apartment at school. I believe she still pulls one in particular out and looks through it. I also must admit that I learned a lot. I don't remember exactly what the paper was about, but I still know what a buttress and flying buttress are and the difference in the two. And, the history of gargoyles...quite interesting stuff. Oh, and the physics behind the arch. Not in the paper, just a kid who learned something cool excitedly chattering on that one. That was a fun year with her. Since this was not a core class, I didn't have to worry about NCAA accepting anything/could have free reign and not worry about if it would be accepted or not.

Not allowed. Period. I know a boy who was kicked out of school because he forgot and left an airsoft gun in his trunk. A girl was suspended because she left her Girl scout knife in her jean pocket one weekend and wore the jeans to school. Zero tolerance.

Check the local laws. It will vary by location. I would probably call it 3 plus and office. If it is in a highly desirable rental area, I might put up a door and call it four. I believe here bedrooms have to have a door and a window. No closet required. They also must open into a heated space. We have an obvious bedroom in an unfinished basement. It has a door, closet, large window, and private adjoining bath. We can't call it a bedroom because it opens into the unfinished garage area. Of course, it is a bedroom anyway. We have a full bed, three twin beds (not bunks), a dresser, and a desk in the room... If we listed it, we would have to call it an office with a full bathroom...

6 people sharing one bathroom? You need another bathroom.

Gut. Student response. Knowing your kid to a good extent. Is complaining normal for them? Are they overly stressed? Do they have no/too much free time? Are they spending too much time on this one area? You can easily do that without writing down each hour spent on each task. Basic communication with your teen will usually be sufficient to judge. I'm a good bser. I could wing it. Not true for everyone. Having content written down for a class is far different from each hour spent. Just putting down the expected # hours for a class would be all they would look for, if they cared. True that my kids did not aim for highly selective schools. We discouraged that actually. We are not believers in Ivy educations. Our more selective state schools were happy with test scores, extra-curriculars, and basic classes with grades. They did not want to have minutely detailed transcripts submitted. I would say that is true for 95% of colleges if not more.

It's a home designed class, so whatever you choose is what it is. If you find it is less material than you thought, you add. If it is too much, you take away. If it is too much and they are enjoying it immensely, you just let them go with it. You can increase the credit hours, or you can just leave it as originally designed and figure it as hobby time. The whole point of high school is to learn, know how to learn, and be prepared for college if it is the next step. The paperwork should be an after thought. Eh, I am just relaxed about it all. Just personality differences most likely. If it makes people more comfortable to count hours, more power to them. I've just never known anyone to actually do it. I've been suggested to several people as someone for their friends to talk to when they are considering homeschooling. They have all been overwhelmed with the idea of all the requirements (which aren't all that much, but come down to technicality stuff like this). I dislike that regulations like this scare people away from homeschooling. It isn't what it is about. It is too easy to get caught up in the recordkeeping and red tape and leave the learning behind. In fact, that is one of the problems with public schools... The last mother I counseled left me with a whole new idea of what school was. She has now finished her first year of homeschooling her son successfully and happily without having to worry so much about the red tape.

No, I didn't. We were required to have 180 days of instruction. I just marked days off on a calendar. Usually I did it at the end of the semester. Once, I did it before we started school for the entire year. I have no ideas what days we actually had school. Yes, I lied. It was a stupid rule. All that mattered to me was that we covered the material. While colleges have semester hours for classes, some classes do not require student attendance. My kids have been shocked with home many students do not attend class. One of my girls has a class this semester where you fail if you miss more than X days. It is written in the syllabus. (Wellness I believe.) They are working out during class. Being in class is critical. One girl in her class has not attended other than for tests. She has A's on all the tests. She is going to fail because she did not meet the attendance requirement. Another class has no attendance penalties. There are few people in class other than on test days. Those kids get the grades they receive on the tests. They may not be putting in nearly the number of hours that class would be having them rack up. Learning a subject/class is not dependent on the number of hours spent on the material. Some kids may be able to get through an algebra book in 6 weeks. Others may take 2 years. It is the material covered that matters, not the number of hours put into the class.

1. As a ridiculous rule, I would ignore it and just make something up to turn in. Because I am bad like that... I checked off days on a calendar that we had school and counted them as 7 hours of school. 2. I would just wing it. If my dc were not spending enough time with their work, I would increase what I required. If they were too stressed and it was taking too long, I would cut it back. It doesn't require writing down hours. It also isn't at all fair. Some students, like dd21b, work extremely quickly and efficiently. I could count on her taking half the time as one would assume it would take to finish most required coursework. Others, like dd21a, take much longer than average. Is it fair to require 21b to do twice as much work in order to receive credit for a class? Not in my opinion. (I did require more of her in school though. She also received more credits while working less hours.) This really just isn't something that makes any sense to me.

People actually LITERALLY count hours? I have never counted an hour in my life for school. I line up what is required and they did it. When it was finished, it was finished.

At the most, I just use a sheet. Said sheet is usually only covering a very small portion of me. Dh just gets all the covers. The bed is a mess in the morning.

I prefer them frozen. Easier, less work, less mess, more nutrition retained.

Honestly, this has been the semester from H#11. Oldest has 5 classes. One is independent study (it is awesome). Two Japanese with the same instructor who is almost violent with the students. (But, she did win the state speech contest in Japanese.) Two business classes with the same instructor who is awful. According to dd, he doesn't actually understand the material himself or simply doesn't speak/understand English well enough to know what he is saying. But, it is her last semester of classes. As long as she passes them, she is good. In addition to the bad teachers, which she is not used to having to deal with, she has been throwing up for a couple of months and cannot eat anything but very basic food (lives on potatoes at this point). Doctors have not been able to find anything. I am just glad this is her last semester. (She has a summer internship as a final class.) She no longer cares due to the incompetence of her teachers this semester. This is a woman who has been an incredible college student. She has never made a grade lower than a B, and very few of those. Now, she is just hoping to pass and be done. Amazing how a semester of horrid teachers can kill a love of learning. Second dd is taking 21 hours. (making up some credits due to transferring schools to be admitted into next level for Fall/old school didn't have those required Freshmen check the box classes)Fortunately, 3 of those credits were taken over Christmas break! She has two science classes and a math, so things have been quite hectic. She loves her new school (transferred before fall). Things have gone well but been hectic. Well, other than a group presentation yesterday that had a group that would not communicate. at all. Seriously, they finally emailed the night before!!!! She managed to snag one boy after class two days before; the rest ran out of class. Only reason they did email the night before was because she had contacted the instructor. She should have a 4.0 this semester. Third dd had a great first part of the semester. Then, her Anatomy and Physiology professor realized he hadn't even begun to cover the material he had to cover. The last two weeks has been cramming over 3/4ths of the material in and testing every other class period. Her grade is quickly falling. She still has two tests and a final left and tomorrow is the last day of classes. They will be taking a test tomorrow, one Monday (during finals week), and the final Wed. She will likely have a D because of his poor organization. Her other three classes should be A's, but they are sliding as she is having to put absolutely everything she has into the one class just to survive it. Ds graduated with a 4.0 a week ago. Has a test run on a thick pipe (welding) on Monday for a job. Hopefully, that will go well. He is the only one who has had a good semester! It is really odd because (other than problems with the science department at dd21b's previous school/they were nuts) my kids have had an overall very positive college experience. I do admit that incompetence in teacher is something that I don't tolerate well, but I am not overly critical. I DO believe that college teachers should be teaching not just giving assignments randomly. I DO believe that they are responsible for setting a pace in the classroom that is reasonable for learning. I DO believe that they should be truly proficient in English.