Do you think she should be paroled?

I am late to the party but leftover ham gets made into split pea soup with ham.

Well, I agree if he is hot he is hot. But he just went straight for AC. We just can’t be running AC upstairs when windows are open downstairs.

He has a really great set up imo. A big window on one end, a full screen door on the other, a ceiling fan and an oscillating floor fan. I am not quite over weight but I am much hotter natured than dh who is a bit overweight. Thank you menopause.

Oh yes Houston is hot. Worse than OK I think. A little.

Our summer electric bills get to about $400 for usually 3 months straight. So I like to do everything I can to keep it down.

When it is actually summer temps (not 64 degrees) we sleep with it around 70. We have central downstairs and a portable unit upstairs for dss18 which has helped tremendously because before we got that portable unit we could not get it cool upstairs at all. Then come morning as I walk out of our bedroom I turn the AC to about 80 and it needs to stay there until late evening when we begin to cool it down to sleep. One issue we have had in the past is dss18 being home during the day when everyone else is working and he turns his AC upstairs on. I have told him if he is hot up there (I know it gets hotter up there) he needs to abandon his bedroom and come downstairs for the afternoon. Sorry, that is just the way it has to be. Go jump in the pool to cool off. He wants to lie in his bed and watch movies all afternoon while running the AC.

Yes, this is pretty much me too. I need it cool to sleep or clean house or cook. But 64 outside? Yeah lets open the windows you people who don't pay the bills. 😉

My ds19 won't open his window at night. And he keeps his door closed. He just turns on his ceiling fan. I asked him if he was hot and he said no he never gets hot.

He wasn't home. He was working. Believe me, I thought to do it for him last night so he wouldn't feel the need to turn the AC on.

I don't know. I didn't check it. But I went up there last night around the time I went to bed and opened the windows and door and could feel a nice breeze coming in.

Ours does.

Well he didn't get home from work until 12:30 a.m. so I know it wasn't that hot up there. It may have been a little stuffy, but his immediate solution was to turn on the AC instead of open the window and let the cool breeze in.

I do think it is normal to want to have family members get along with each other. Heck I even tried to talk my XBIL into seeing his mom.....but he hasn't spoken to her in 10 years and I think like Carrie he is pretty well ok with that

No asthma in our house....and I feel like I need it pretty cool to sleep. But 64 seems cool to me. The windows were open and the house was as cool nearly as it was outside. I am just annoyed. I guess I will get over it. He didn't turn it on last night. Because dh told him not to. When we went to bed I went up and opened up the windows and the back door and turned on the floor fan to get air moving around.

Said young adult has great cross breeze in his room. He has the entire loft area--about 400 square feet. We put in a huge roll out window on one end and a new door with old fashioned full screen door on the end.

We live in OK, so there is not much of the year where windows can be open and no AC or heat is needed. Night before last we had our window open in our room and there was a wonderful breeze. Chilly even....we had to snuggle up under blankets. I woke up at 6 a.m. and it was 64 outside. Dss18 had his portable AC on. I was not happy. He had it set to 64 which of course he had to or it would not have come on since it was so cool outside.

I am with Ellie and think 'high school experience' is a terrible reason to send a kid to public school. Sounds like you have him involved in many social things so he will be fine. My son DE for junior/senior years of high school. He went to vo tech in the morning and did high school at home and worked a few hours every afternoon. He loved vo-tech and he adjusted very well. And same when he started CC...he did fine. He has had no social issues at all. He does much prefer his face to face learning experience over the on line stuff he had in high school. But overall it was worth it.

I just wondered what is normal. Or average. Or something.

Not me. Sometimes the closer you are to someone the more it hurts when they do you wrong. And then add to that your dad doesn't think he has done anything wrong....sometimes it is hard to undo those bad feelings.

We have had the forgiveness discussion on this board about 1000 times. I am of the mind that forgiveness, in the Christian sense, DOES require remorse, repentance whatever. But even if/when there is repentance that would allow for forgiveness that does NOT require the relationship to be completely restored or at all. And also, even without forgiveness a person who has been harmed CAN let it go and move on but the relationship won't ever be the same. I think it takes quite a bit of work to get back to the same place after something like blowing up a family with an affair/s.

Thank you! Very informative.

At what age did your daughter come to live with your family?

When he mentions to you he misses the boys what do you say? When my XH apologized to my ds it did go a loooong way toward repairing their relationship.

Wow. If the builder is having financial issues that may be the bigger concern. Maybe she IS trying to get him to get going or maybe she knows what the deal is (money) and so she doesn't bother. Still seems like you could get out of the deal completely for breach of contract.