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SanDiegoMom in VA

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  1. However super dependent on personality! My somewhat introverted younger kids hated summer swim here -- we had such high hopes! It's right down the street, they would be meeting friends in the neighborhood, good exercise, etc. However it to my kids it was chaotic, loud, swim meets were boring and loud and crowded, and they were so over it by the second season.
  2. Is it driving for two hours or a short drive and staying for two hours? And what will the younger kids be doing? Will they be able to free swim or will you have to entertain them? If it's the latter I would definitely lean towards the school instead.
  3. Seconding Dicentra's videos -- my son learns best by teaching me, so he taught me according to her explanations. And I understood it. And I slept through high school chemistry and was an English major. 🙂
  4. I have been reading (or attempting too, as we are in the process of trying to buy a house and plan a move so it's a very sporadic attempt!) The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap by Stephanie Coontz. The 1950's especially has always been held up to be the ideal form for the nuclear family, but as she says in her article here (, "I found that the male breadwinner family of the 1950s was a very recent, short-lived invention and that during its heyday, rates of poverty, child abuse, marital unhappiness, and domestic violence were actually higher than in the more diverse 1990s." She says that immediately after the advent of no fault divorce the female suicide rate declined by 8 percent. The book traces the history of American families over the years and examines the economic and cultural trends that influenced the prevailing ideals of "family life" for their time. It's pretty fascinating. One of the parallels she traces between the Gilded Age of the 1870's and the second "Gilded Age" beginning in the 1980's was that the Industrialization of the 1870's and the emerging globalism and more aggressive and individualistic capitalism both created huge shows of conspicuous consumption. Therefore the backlash against this was by setting up the nuclear family as the repository of virtue and morals to counteract this dissolution of public morality. There is a whole lot more to unpack in the book but now we are on the phone with the mortgage loan officer!
  5. I took the younger siblings on two tours with my daughter but felt like I was short changing her. The rest of the tours were alone. Even though mine were well behaved it was a lot harder to concentrate, I missed things that were said, and we weren't able to discuss as much about college in general because younger kids just need more stimulation. College is such a big decision as it is -- you really want to have your wits about you!
  6. Intro to Alg is more straightforward than Pre-A, imo. So if she is doing well with PreA, then Intro shouldn't pose a problem, I would think.
  7. Good reaction, I agree. It honestly doesn't sound threatening if it's in a Cafeteria -- sounds awkward and uncomfortable and I would have felt the same way as your dd! I had something similar happen to me while I was out watching my kids at an outdoor ice skating rink -- plenty of open benches and this 20 something year old guy sat down uncomfortably next to me, and tried to engage in conversation a little. I spent a little bit of time trying to figure out the situation and then decided that he was going to probably try to ask for money. I invented a reason to get up and walk away casually and immediately afterwards the guy packed up his stuff and left. I never felt unsafe since it was pretty public. But it was obvious something was a little off. There are plenty of gradations between uncomfortable and dangerous.
  8. We also have no experience with BT but Clover Chem has been amazing for my son. Not only is she an amazing instructor, but her class is so well organized and she is extremely responsive. You can tell how much she is invested in her students' learning. Hon Chem has a substantial workload, so I would say if your student is not super interested in Chemistry, it might be a little tough. My son regularly spends about 1 1/2 hours a day on the material, though it does vary and after a steep learning curve he is getting much better at managing his time.
  9. Everyone's personality is different -- you see your son becoming independent because he is so far away, but that might also be personality coming into the mix. Where some kids are ready to embrace independence, some need a few more years. I can't remember if your dd is 2e, but for mine with adhd living across the country was more than an uncomfortable stretch that forced her to grow. We ALL recognized that she's a few years behind in maturity and she would have benefited from staying somewhere closer to home. That being said, I try to emphasize to my kids that we don't try to make everything EQUAL, we try to provide for what they need at the time. And as they are all different kids, their needs are very different as well. Maybe also have further goals in mind -- like if she goes to CC first and then a four year, maybe make plans for her to study abroad? Or do an internship in DC? If she is still interested in Library Science, they have internships for graduate students at the Library of Congress that are awesome, especially if the student can live in the city with other students. (I commuted by car and train 1 1/2 each way which wasn't quite as fun, lol).
  10. I would take the recommendation seriously. Middle school is where everything starts to fall apart for kids with adhd. Increased EF load plus puberty = recipe for disaster or at the very least severe hits to self esteem. Ok, just reread and realized you will be homeschooling. Still definitely keep it in mind -- my daughter has the combined type adhd but she has stated many times that when her meds are working it's like putting on glasses. Time moves slower for her, she is able to plan ahead better, to understand how long tasks take, and she doesn't get "stuck" as often. (She can get stuck in the bathroom doing her makeup and suddenly it will have been 45 minutes, showers that she thought took 10 minutes actually took 45 minutes... etc. It makes her feel so out of control when it happens and then she becomes very frustrated with herself)
  11. Possibly Sjogren's? I have a friend who has similar issues - she's had the eye issues and connective joint issues.
  12. I went to the ER last summer after getting bitten by a copperhead, and got a pretty serious lecture about my untreated BP in addition -- it spiked up to 185/24. They were shocked I was still just walking around (especially after being bitten on the foot). I went to the doctor the next day and got medicine. It was genetic so I should have been a little quicker, honestly, but even with having such high bp my pill dosage is the smallest and I have had no problems since. It's such a treatable issue. I do have a normal to good diet (take out only once a week) and I exercise 4 days a week. But it's now always around 115/80, so I will take that. Glad he went in and will be taking care of it! I was just very tired when first going on meds. I also had issues with the sun and dizziness until I cut my dosage in half. I felt pretty off until I realized it was too high.
  13. Just wondering, does he also have writing problems assigned? Those tend to take up a good amount of time -- some are more challenging than others, but the writing itself can often take quite awhile, especially as the material covered gets more complex. When ds was in Intro to Alg B and Geometry there were challenge problems, the writing problem, and then Alcumus problems assigned. Once he got to Intermediate Alg the Alcumus dropped off and the challenge problems got more difficult, so the amount of time spent stayed about the same. The biggest impact sometimes, honestly, is whether ds paid attention during the online class or not. It's 7:30 at night, usually he's home alone so it's pretty quiet, and he can get pretty bored. Text based classes that last an hour and a half take a lot of willpower! So a few bad weeks have been caused by having to go back and read the entire transcript again, or pore through the chapter (which otherwise ds doesn't touch) and he has to relearn the material. That's probably happened 4-5 times over the past three years, but it definitely caused an impact that week. We have not done number theory, but I can't imagine it would be anything like geometry was. That was just rough! Though also part of it was the speed of the teacher -- for that class and for his next Algebra class he said they would post big blocks of text and he often couldn't read fast enough to keep up. It was like drinking from a firehouse. It might be different with different teachers though. For Precalc he hasn't complained at all about the pace and the workload has been very reasonable.
  14. That's unfortunate -- I have read of other 55+ that have exceptions for if the grandparents have to raise a grandchild -- the rules over all were a lot more forgiving. If I were in that situation I probably would make one attempt to ask for an exception to be voted on, just to try. It's worth a shot. And then just be prepared to move. That's a bummer though.
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