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SanDiegoMom in VA

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    Managing three kids with a husband in the military
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  1. I think I make the most brinksmanship parental statements to my kids after reading a book or watching some new parental advice video. The kids, however, don't have that same sense of urgency, so they end up feeling blindsided when things suddenly change and whatever they are doing is now wrong. Even at 17 there is still time. And if they launch with no skills around the house? Well, then they will have to learn them when they have an apartment or their own house. I was petrified over my daughter's sloppiness and had visions of her roommates complaining about her. But turns out everyone else is rather messy too. I know, I saw the room halfway through the school year. My daughter's side was actually the cleanest! I was shocked. She even makes her bed now at almost 20, and she NEVER did before. EVER.
  2. One thing I would look into is whether transferring in would affect his ability to get any internships or jobs through the four year university. For instance, my daughter is on the newspaper and might end up working as a journalist after college while she figures out the next step. This is going to be made easier by the fact that she started as a freshman and worked her way up and is now an editor getting some pretty key experience. There is a senior who transferred as a junior and is working in her section as a reporter. He didn't really have a chance to move up very fast since he started later. Getting to know professors to write letters of Rec, getting summer research -- these might be affected as well.
  3. Weird. We just called our local high school last year and they said "No problem, we have homeschoolers take AP's here all the time." It was super easy and the front office took care of almost everything.
  4. Seconding Terry Pratchett, and plugging in my all time fantasy novels of middle school, the Dark is Rising Series by Susan Cooper. High vocab level, great suspense, low pain/death/sadness.
  5. Not a history or literature suggestion, unfortunately, but Edward Zaccaro math books have a short story and then problems to solve, which are pretty fun and engaging. If you need any other writing tools, yoga for the brain is a great creative writing prompt book that can be used in a non-linear fashion. It was a great back up for us. Joy Hakim's Story of Science is a great read aloud which combines history and science, but no real questions at the end. At that age we just read history and mostly read science 🙂 . Not a lot of output! There is a teacher guide for Story of Science with activities and we used it for one of the years, but not all the books.
  6. This has got to be one of my least favorite phrases -- it was thrown at us when our first "surprise" pregnancy occurred and my husband asked his flight instructor for a weekend off to have a small honeymoon for our shotgun wedding. It was said extremely sanctimoniously and his weekend off was denied. It's been a great example for my husband over the years of what NOT to do for young Marines under his command, lol.
  7. My dd absolutely believes her life would have been better with more structure (she has at 19 been diagnosed with adhd). While she blamed me a little at first, after talking multiple times at length about what her childhood was like she was able to be more mature and understanding. They have to be able to see their parent as just another fallible human being, not the supreme Parental Figure who knows everything, to be able to show empathy towards any mistakes along the way. (and she can somewhat see that I have my OWN EF issues, making it pretty darn hard to create structure for someone else, let alone myself!) Another for instance (sorry if this is tmi) my dd just found out she has a nasal polyp that basically has cut off her air in her left nostril, and she suspects it has been there for YEARS. It has really affected her quality of life, and at first she blamed me and my distrust of doctors me for not getting it diagnosed. But I had to go through telling her all the times I DID bring her in and was always told it was allergies, was prescribed medicine, and then sent on our way. She built the narrative (mom's fault!) and it wasn't completely accurate.
  8. YES to all of this! Thank you for bringing all my vague thoughts into clarity:) It makes me think of the aforementioned link to the teen who plays all 144 instruments -- which is awesome! But he has a website, fb, is getting interviews, is on local news-- I can't help but be cynical and assume it's him and his parents paving a way to appear unique when he applies to college. It reeks of self promotion. Then I think of my father-in-law who everyone describes as a Renaissance man -- he paints, he knows around 10 different instruments, he can quote whole passages of Shakespeare, and can also literally fix anything in a house, has run two businesses, and is commonly described as a "Man of the People" because he is everyone's friend from every walk of life. He won't get any awards and never sought them but he is interested by EVERYTHING and always learning. And I hated those award ceremonies. I hated them when I didn't win anything (middle school) and when I did (high school). They seemed so meaningless. Especially after all of us "academically oriented students" still floundered in college after our high school underprepared us!
  9. Your poor daughter! When we moved to this area I mentioned I was looking at Russian Ballet and was told to stay away from them because they are just too hard on the body and fostered an unhappy environment. We have had a few dancers come from the nearby Russian studio (which had sent performers to YAGP) who would flinch when our teacher touched their backs because their Russian teachers had been so... physical. They also put girls on pointe at nine. Our studio stresses a lot of conditioning, has fewer hours and doesn't put girls on until at least 12 or 13. The whole environment is so positive.
  10. This attitude really formed my oldest dd's judgement of herself, and to be honest the judgement of a lot of our family members about her. There were certain relatives who seemed to have it all together and attributed it all to their discipline, structure, good moral and habits. Meanwhile my undiagnosed Adhd'er was just a train wreck. She felt the difference acutely, but just could never understand -- she knew she was smart but she just couldn't do what they were doing and she always felt like she was Kramer (from Seinfeld) around them. She finally got her diagnosis, she is learning to manage herself and her life and loving everything she is doing now, however she is also working through extreme social anxiety and self esteem issues from those years. So, yeah, I am not a big fan of awards, accolades and trophies, or assumptions that someone's success is due solely to their own hard work or self discipline. Because I've seen a kid that is crazy smart and so determined to succeed at life but whose actual performance has always been either all in or non-existent, and by all standards growing up was always "not trying hard enough, smart but doesn't apply herself, disorganized ,messy, lazy, or just doesn't care." Whereas she did care deeply, but couldn't get her brain to function the way so many other's did so easily.
  11. It happened to me when I was 17 -- a stray cat that my mom fed WITH the two kittens were right behind my tire. The mom and one kitten got out but the other one didn't. It was so awful. I am so sorry!
  12. Just as another data point -- If your daughter really likes Wm and Mary and would be happy there, they really give preference to those that apply Early Decision. As in 58 percent are accepted, vs 37 percent overall. For instance, looking at the stats on their page, 923 applied early, and 528 enrolled. The rest of the class (around 1000 students) was filled by the other 13,000 people who applied. (I'm sure more than 1,000 got accepted, but it's still a lower rate than ED) . If we had to do it over again and my dd had wanted to go to WM and Mary (which she did at first, until she didn't) we would have applied early decision. She got waitlisted regular decision. The acceptance rate for males is much higher there because they are trying to keep the numbers balanced somewhat but the amount of woman applying greatly exceeds the amount of men.
  13. Turning Points in Modern History is really good - and you can use single episodes of you are just studying something in particular... though I enjoyed it most in order. We have enjoyed Foundations of Western Civ 2 (and I have heard 1 is good too- different professors but both enjoyable) The one on the Pharaohs is good. Personally I enjoyed the Quest for Meaning: Values, Ethics, and the Modern Experience. I didn’t listen to it with the kids though - just on my own. My oldest say the Black Death one by Dorsey Armstrong and the three Middle Ages ones by Daileader.
  14. I was going to suggest Connie's course as well. . My son just started this course and halfway through the orientation video he exclaimed "Mom! This course is so well organized! I love it!" Of course I had read all the previous years reviews so I knew it would go over well.
  15. I agree with this. Case in point -- I have a relative who runs a REALLY tight ship at home and her kids rooms were ALWAYS clean. She went to go pick up her kid from college and was shocked (disgusted) at the state of his room. All those years of teaching for naught! My dd, on the other hand, did actually live for years with clutter and mess in her room and now keeps her room pretty clean in college. You never know. Plus she has ADHD. So her room was a disaster growing up and now in college she works really hard to keep things neat because she knows she won't be able to find anything otherwise. Plus visual clutter is even more distracting.
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