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  1. Did your son need to do a lot of prep for the AP exam, some, or hardly any? I know each kid is different, but since AOPS doesn't prep and I have to constantly manage my kid's anxiety by clear and early expectations... it helps to know ahead of time how much outside time he will need to be ready for the exam! I also have signed him up for the AP Chem exam after he took Connie's class last year. He plans to self study all the extra bits and take that exam as well. Mostly because the thought of taking a chem class that is mostly a repeat would kill him. So basically a kid that hates repet
  2. I think this was answered by the need for consistent messaging from the top administration. Support for all governors, not just the ones of a particular party. Using actual doctors and epidemiologists on the Covid task force and not just political loyalists, so that the messaging is data and science based.
  3. Isn't that pretty much how different parts of Asia got it under control? Not all countries used severe lockdowns, but they all went very fast in ramping up testing, contact tracing, and providing masks for everyone. That and the strong social compact really seems to be effective. https://globalhealth.duke.edu/news/how-some-asian-countries-beat-back-covid-19
  4. This is what my kids' public school is going to try to do. They are thinking that 70 percent of the kids will come back to school, they will split that 70 percent into two groups that will each go two days a week, 30 percent will stay home, and if teachers want to stay home the school will hire subs to monitor the kids as they zoom from school. The teachers aren't thrilled about having to teach to the computer for the virtual and to the in person students, as a parent I wouldn't be thrilled if they went to school only to be monitored by subs, zooming in surrounded by other kids, and they rea
  5. I think any diagnosis is a good idea -- I know my kid with adhd was so relieved to find out that is what she had, and my kid with anxiety knows that he has a lot of family members that struggle with the same thoughts and that he's normal. When you see everyone else doing something one way and you do it another way, knowing WHY you do it is huge, and takes away the feeling that you are somehow wrong.
  6. I was very much of this mindset and could not understand why when I was doing my part, the kids were really only fulfilling their part of the bargain maybe 3 out of 5 days? I could do my best to do my job even when I had background stressors, and I wondered why they couldn't do their's when their life had much less going on in the background! So I had to reframe my expectations and shoot for the 80 percent rule -- if they did 80 percent of what I expected I had no reason to be frustrated. I just basically tried to be happy with less, lol. Now, the issue was always the balancing act -- I wou
  7. Yoga with Adrienne online has a yoga for when you are in a bad mood. I have had to do it a number of times. 🙂. It helped....some. The waves emanating from me decreased by about 50 percent so the danger zone surrounding me was a bit smaller!
  8. Wow! I'll have to suggest that. Especially since my dinners are often light (chicken and rice, sometimes tomato soup and grilled cheese, etc) it might be good to have a pre-dinner! Now that I think about it, I remember when I was a teenager and my boyfriend (now husband) would come over to dinner, he was usually done with his whole plate before the rest of us had had 3 bites. My mom cooked small portions since they and my sister and I didn't eat a ton. My boyfriend was 16 and still growing, however. AND he had two brothers so him mom cooked tons of food all the time!
  9. This is how my son feels -- like THIS is it and he will always feel this way, and unfortunately I have always responded to the emotions by trying to help/fix things ,which lasts like 15-20 minutes until he says maybe I'm hungry... and then after eating magically all the problems go away. But the cycle just repeats, and impacts things like homework, whether he feels up to attending his clubs online, how well he deals with appointments, whether he goes to bed and reads or goes to bed and cries...
  10. Well this all makes me feel a lot better. It looked so extreme, and when combined with the move and no friends here had me questioning what was related to what. And I really have no experience with boys. My two closest friends have girls and they have been wondering along with me what the heck is going on with him. My other two are girls, and one literally exists on air -- really I don't know how she survives on so little and yet she NEVER has mood swings. She is the same all day and night. It's so weird. I think with my son he does fill up when he eats -- so he doesn't like eating
  11. So my son, who is 14, has always had underlying anxiety. My parents both have pretty severe anxiety, I struggle with it but have made a lot of great progress, and my son seems to have had it since he was young. It's always been relatively manageable, but the last couple of years he's been lonely and we knew that homeschooling wasn't quite working well enough, especially where we lived. We have moved to our forever home and put them in school, only to have the pandemic and virtual school and no in person events. (sister goes to ballet in person every other week, but his main extras were going
  12. Yes! They all come to me and I shift right into "let's fix this" mindset. I am always ON, thinking about their problems, their worries, and thinking of ways to help them cope or change their ways of thinking. My day is so broken up by their needs, so I never feel like I have a chunk of time to myself. My son has always had anxiety, but it's definitely worse now. Often I am the only one who can basically get him through the day. I realize there might be a level of dysfunction with this model at this point, but I am not sure how to fix it. I feel like I am always in a putting out f
  13. We are homeschooling/public virtual schooling right now. This isn't what we wanted to do -- we moved across the country and were so excited to put them into high school to make new friends and to dive into extra curriculars that we couldn't get in our semi rural town on the East Coast. Now everything is virtual and I just wanted to have the house to myself for a few hours a day! And get a small part time job! (no libraries hiring near me right now). And my oldest could be in school in LA instead of bouncing back and forth from our place and hers with no reason to go to campus at all. Don't g
  14. So I am 44 too and I have been using something that makes me feel rather silly, but totally works for me. We have a Nintendo Switch and I use Ring-fit, the latest fitness game. It has been the only thing I have stuck with. It's like a combination of pilates, yoga, and cross fit. It totally gamifies exercise -- you kill monsters by doing plank or squats or tree pose, you run fast in short bursts, high knees, etc. I feel so much stronger than I did before and I actually look forward to exercise. Plus there's no set time limit, but it asks if you want to take a break and come back tomorrow
  15. This really meshes with my own experience with my kid -- which granted she is older now and I didn't have the tools when she was younger to even know what to do. But all of these diagnoses are things that they have to live with and account for, so approaching it with the mindset that they will be taking on the burden of the adhd, etc and your job is just to provide them the tools that you have or know of and seeing what they can use (and understanding that they might dismiss something at one age and embrace it later on) and then just let it go. Which is hard in the moment when you are
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