I wish it was this, but dh and I are thrilled to be done. It has not been an easy road with his siblings. They all arrived with behavioral problems, no knowledge of English, and not being accustomed to rules of any kind. We both worked vary hard, made many sacrifices to our careers, living situation, and money wise. At the same time, we endured meddling from his family with no financial help. Years ago, we even had to move away from the city his aunts and grandparents live in.
Without going in to much detail, I think it is a combination of burnout and lack of regard or respect for what we have done. Now that these kids are older, they have this attitude that it was nothing special, because DH is the oldest and that's his job. They pay lip service, but that is about it. Anytime a need comes up, they think it should all fall to us. I guess we just are feeling that our hard work has not bared fruit. Obviously, my head knows they are better of than they would have been, but seeing them revert back to the examples their mother gave them, and her same attitude of entitlement and "it's all about me", is very hard for us. For me, I think if they acted differently, it would make me feel more encouraged, give me the feeling that my hard work meant something, and that the sacrifices were worth it.
I don't really know how to put it in to words.
I think you are very right about needing to take some time off. Thank you.