I'd try your safe yogurt with the new granola, and your new yogurt with the safe granola, and at least try to narrow down which one it is

I don't think I'd go so far as to change my name legally, but I could see myself changing it socially, definitely. My grandmother in law is ALWAYS called Rose, ALWAYS. I found out on her birthday that her name is actually Eunice, which she hates, apparently it was old fashioned even when she was born lol, and she has gone by her middle name of Rose since teenager-hood. I have another friend who changed her name socially to something completely different and unrelated to her birth names (first or middle). Having said that, I wouldn't be upset in the slightest if they changed it socially. I would be upset if they changed it legally, but that's because, in my experience for someone to legally change their name is usually a sign of a new identity, an independence from family of origin, a separation, a statement that the child who grew up as Sally is no longer Sally at all but Betty and the difference is more than just the name. Someone who just doesn't like the sound of their name usually just changes it socially or finds a nice nickname, I've never seen someone who just dislikes their name actually change it legally. If it truly was just a case of the child hating their name so much that they wanted a legal change, I think I'd be fine with that, I don't care about the name, what would carry the emotion and sadness for me is the circumstances under which it is changed. And speaking of name changes, my husband used to work retail. A man came in, in a trenchcoat and all, to the game store my husband worked in. He needed to show his ID for some reason I don't remember, I think he was trading in games, and, no joke, his name was Righteous Paladin, right there on his drivers licence. There's name changes, and then there's name changes, lol.

Wow, thanks for that! I'd never heard that before, but it completely makes sense in my case.

Not pregnant are you? :laugh: I've had it pretty bad, but only in pregnancy, sorry, so I can't help with causes. My sympathies, it's not pleasant. All I figured out was being careful what time of day I had a shower, not to eat a big meal before needing to do anything, and DEFINITELY to NEVER have a hot shower after a large warm meal. I never fainted but I would be hit with a sudden wave of complete exhaustion where I actually could not open my eyes even when I tried, along with dizzyness and nausea, and coloured spots, and I learned to just put some TV on for the kids and sleep it off. It sounds like it doesn't quite follow that pattern for you, but, if it's an option listen to your body if it does get very tired and go lie down until the wave passes. Better to nap than faint. Good luck

I'm fascinated by what you said about the Egyptian plagues, I never studied mythology myself as a kid. About all I know of ancient Egypt I got from that TV show, Stargate, lol. Do you have any resources that go into this (or other) correlations in more detail?

Letting go of the super hands-on, teacher-led stuff and letting independence happen. The book lover can independently read their book, the workbook lover can independently do their workbook, maybe you can do an activity together, and both can come to mum afterwards and discuss their work. Try to line workbook and reading up, so you're doing the same basic time period with both. But, it does mean letting go of some desires if your dream is a very teacher-intense school.

I actually think I would really enjoy project management. I looked into it pre-kids. It's high stress and hard, but I think I would actually be cut out for it, and it pays very, very nicely from what I hear. I kind of regret not looking any further into it, but I don't see it really fitting into my chosen lifestyle at this point, even post-kids. Oh, or one of those paid organizers/declutterers, I would LOVE to do that. Now, that is something I could consider doing post-little-kids lol. I couldn't handle anything which requires me to be entirely 'switched on' socially the whole time. My husband can, he did retail and thrived in it, but I need time to just space out and clear my head frequently

Back in September I miscarried, 6 or so weeks along. I believe it was twins, as after the first bleed (which included tissue) I has a positive test for another three weeks, and then a milder repeat of the same symptoms but with no tissue, after which I finally had a negative test. Then, in early December, we had another very early miscarried, no more than 10 or 12 days post-ovulation. I'm certain I was pregnant, I am someone who knows within a day or two and I had a very faint positive test. I've been for some testing and all the initial tests are good and healthy. We decided we would give it one more try. If I lose another one, we will start on the road of more involved testing/monitoring, which isn't quite as simple or easy in my country. But since I've carried 3 babies completely healthy, and only had one miscarriage before this row of them, we are praying it was an anomaly, rather than a true medical issue. We've just found out we are pregnant again. I'd been stalling on taking the test because of the last early miscarriage, so I think we are a good 4, maybe 4 and a half weeks along at this point. I would really appreciate prayers for the baby. Since all the miscarriages have been so early, I think I'll relax a bit once we hit 8 weeks, which isn't too long to wait. But I am so afraid we will lose it again, and if we do I think I'll end up blaming myself for not insisting on further testing sooner (my doctor says the miscarriages were just my body's way of telling me to wait, because I was trying again 'too soon' of course. My youngest is 21 months, but my doctor is obviously very anti-large family, and we need to try and find a new one soon... but, I let her convince me to leave it alone and try once more. I'm kind of regretting it, but I suspected I could be pregnant by the time I had the appointment last week anyway, so I suppose it's all redundant, even if I had gone for further testing I wouldn't have even seen an OB yet in such a short space of time. Our healthcare system is amazing, but, unless you're in an emergency it IS slow.... )

Yep. I'm a 36B, but most ranges of bras have either 36C, or 34B. I can't shop in any of the nice stores, but it has made a big difference.

I don't understand how someone can be charged for treason against a country that isn't even his own country, frankly.

Wow. This is actually too ridiculous to be offended by.

I'm not even entering that debate. People falsely accuse rape, I know it for a fact, I know people who have done it, and admitted they did it. I have a very broad experience/knowledge base from which I am commenting. That doesn't mean most, or even a large portion, of accusations are false. The majority are real victims. But there are false allegations, on a regular basis. Of this I have no doubt. But, I know some people honestly believe that no one falsely accuses rape, ever. Those people are deluded and naive. There's no point arguing it further.

They can, however, believe that a sleeping person has a standing default of "yes unless I say no" with her partner/husband/boyfriend. I guess your husband never wakes you up in the morning with sexual touch, never touches you sexually during the night, and has never, ever had sex with you while you're under the influence of alcohol. That's your choice, and that's fine. But many many other couples are fine with those things because they have a standing agreement of consent or a default of yes. It's not unreasonable for him to have assumed he had the same with someone he had a currently active sexual relationship with. A relationship blunder, yes. A criminal act? Many would say no.

Well... ok. I must say, that's not something I've ever been accused of before, given my past! It's kind of novel actually. I don't know what views you gleaned from that paragraph. The only view that I was expressing was that, if a man touches his not-quite-sleeping girlfriend, on the assumption that as someone he has a current sexual relationship with this will be ok, and stops when she wakes up and says no, that this can hardly be called attempted rape. If she was a stranger, that's bad. If he was trying to keep her asleep until he finished without prior consent, that's bad. If he was her ex, that's bad. But I think most people would agree there is a certain amount of implied consent between people with a currently active sexual relationship. That doesn't mean she can't say no, of course she can and did. It means that it's not entirely unreasonable to assume, in the absence of comment either way, that the beginnings of sexual activity are permissible, with the assumption she will wake up before they get too intense. We see this implied consent all the time. You wouldn't touch a strangers butt, but many people will randomly, without gaining explicit consent, touch their partners butt. If the partner doesn't feel in the mood to be touched at that time, that's fine, they can say stop. But to call that sexual assault is beyond a stretch. I've certainly never heard of anyone charged for it. When you give consent, consent is generally implied until the time you do not give consent, not asked for every single time. My husband doesn't ask me every time we have sex, he assumes yes unless it's not (and, in the same way, when I do say no, he does not try again until I explicitly say or indicate yes again) The answer holds until it is changed, it's not a default no within an active sexual relationship. What was the answer last time? That remains the default answer until the person changes it, which they are completely entitled to do at any time, but until then, is he supposed to ask beforehand every single time he initiates sexual activity? Does that mean, when I have been drinking and my husband gets frisky, but I'm not in the mood that night and he stops when I tell him to stop, he has assaulted me? Does that mean when he wakes me up in the morning for a quickie and I roll over and say not this morning, he has attempted to rape me? Believe me, I have an awful lot of knowledge and experience with the topic of sexual assault. But if all she's got is that someone she had said yes to recently, and had not yet said no to in any way, touched her and then stopped once she said no, I think that police resources could be spent elsewhere. As for the condom, that's not a matter of my view on rape, of course if it's true it is wrong. That's a matter of ability to prove it legally. It sucks, but sexual crimes are the hardest to prove, and the most common for people to falsely accuse. It's an awful situation, and we can't even do anything about the false accusations because it's so hard to prove that it's inevitable, if we tried, we would end up punishing real victims. There's no good answers to this. But her claim the condom had a hole, with no way of proving it wasn't already damaged or torn during the act, no way to prove she didn't put the hole in herself, and no admission at any time from him, means she has almost no case. It's a stretch to LEGALLY extrapolate, from a broken condom, that this man intentionally pierced a hole in it. If the accused wasn't as high profile as he is, the police likely would have never gotten involved at all. Now, I'm off to go tell people that I just got accused of having permissive views of rape, lol. People who know me in real life will find that hilarious. It's amazing what people think they know based off one paragraph on the Internet about an extremely biased and polarizing topic.

My understanding is, he was wanted by the US for wikileaks. Out of nowhere rape allegations came up and he was wanted for questioning, and questioning only. It seemed fishy from the beginning. He does not want to go to sweeden because he convinced (justifiably) they will extradite him to the US for being a whistleblower (yep, that's the side I'm on). Many people think the rape allegations are false, and I believe there were multiple allegations but all but one were dropped? And none of them were violent, they were coercive. If true, they're still wrong and punishable, but, a little different from a violent offender. And, to be honest, I have my doubts anyway. How do we prove an intentional hole in a condom from a tear or damage? And the half-asleep thing? I don't think it's that uncommon for someone to get frisky with their half-asleep girlfriend who they have previously slept with (so they have a certain level of assumed consent, just like your husband doesn't directly ask before surprising you with a sexual touch I assume), waking them up. Provided he stopped when she woke up and said no, when did that become rape? Trying to have sex with a sleeping stranger is quite different to attempting to have sex with your sleeping girlfriend who you have a sexual relationship with. I admit, however, that I have not read the allegations in full yet. But this is in so much grey area legally from what I've heard. Regardless of all that. NOTHING has stopped Sweeden from interviewing him and questioning him in the UK. They have done so for dozens of people in the past few years. I believe he even said he would go to Sweeden if he could be promised, absolutely, that he would not be extradited. They are welcome to come question him in the embassy, he has never refused to co-operate with anything that does not involve him risking extradition. And the UK is kicking up a fuss now because they don't want to have wasted MILLIONS of dollars keeping an around-the-clock watch on the embassy to arrest a man wanted for questioning over, they claim, non-violent sexual assault of one past girlfriend based almost entirely, as I understand it, on her word. Seems a little extreme if that's truly all that's at play here, don't you think? I look at all the obvious violent rapes of multiple women that authorities will barely look at because there's not enough evidence, but this deserves millions of dollars and thousands of man-hours. If it's true, I'm sorry for that woman and what she went through, and Assange isn't exactly a likable person (though, when you learn about his history and childhood there's good reason for that). But there's way too much that doesn't add up here.

No, we don't use cheques in this country anymore. It was cash So after a dozen phone calls and making it clear we weren't backing down, the lady has claimed she was selling it for her father (complete contradiction to the original story) who has packaged it wrong, and we may be getting a refund since we're obviously going to be annoying and not let it drop. Fingers crossed.

I found one on the coast, identical to the one we already owned so we'll end up with spare parts by putting the two together. Just have to make sure the mat is in great condition. I wish, so much, we had gone with that one first :( The other one appeared a little better quality, with a standardized mat size unlike what we have, that's why we went for it. But, yeah, finding one doesn't seem to be too big a problem, lots of people moving who don't/can't take the trampoline with them. It's the cost of buying two second hand trampolines, which wont be much less than buying a new one would have been as it turns out, that's hitting us. $100 is a lot of money for us right now, spending it TWICE just to try and get a single whole trampoline sucks.

Ooh, that's a thing? I'll have to remember that.... But, no, we've not gotten eldest formally diagnosed, and I'm not under 8 anymore :P

I have copies of the ad saved. Small claims court is an option, but it's a lot of effort and time. The problem is, it's generally accepted that you 'accept' the item when you do the transaction for these sorts of things, it was DHs responsibility to inspect it thoroughly, and we can't prove that we didn't, say, switch it out with our own damaged mat or something. As far as I can tell we would have a case in small claims, but there's a fee involved to even file a complaint.

I'll be honest, I actually use it as much, if not more than, the kids which is why we need a large one. I'm ASD and have used a trampoline as a way of calming down and focusing my thoughts since I was, like, 10 (and riding a bike, but I can't do that anymore where we live). I've tried other things and I have a treadmill and indoor bike for pregnancy, but, at this point, after using a trampoline so long nothing else feels the same. And now as an adult who also has PTSD it's become a core part of my daily coping techniques, to be able to decompress and ground myself once the children go to bed. I suspect eldest is ASD as well, and she uses it a fair bit but isn't really old enough to realize it's calming her down yet. It's me that's struggling the most here! lol. Not that the person who sold it to us knew that, as far as she was concerned it was for a bunch of kids, as evidenced by the three child-seats in our 7-seat van.

We needed to replace our trampoline. NEEDED. Due to special needs and mental health in this house the trampoline is a vital piece of furniture for us. The mat is tearing so we can't just wait, but we couldn't really afford to buy one new this month either, money is tight for us. We found someone selling one second hand! It sounded perfect, they said it was second hand but only used for 6 months, and was in great condition. It was only $100, vs the $250 we would have had to spend new for one of a lower quality and similar size (things are more expensive in Australia). DH goes to pick it up and it's already disassembled. Because it's a big heavy lot of stuff he quickly inspects it but does not unfold the mat or anything, because he doesn't want to be obnoxious and waste the lady's time. He does, however, directly ask 'are all the pieces there' and 'are there any holes in the mat'. He gets it home. The mat has multiple large holes, and we actually have assorted pieces from two trampolines, one of which was much smaller than what we thought we were buying. The mat was the worst part though, replacing those for the cheap models is as expensive as buying a whole new trampoline. The kids are crushed, DH is having a bit of a panic over wasted money and the upcoming confrontation. There's very little doubt that this was an intentional scam,. the only way it could not be, due to the configuration of the parts we did get, was if we are missing an entire box, which is unlikely. DH has been trying to call her all evening and she's not answering her phone, surprise surprise. We barely had the money for this second hand trampoline, we were stretching as it was, but now we are left with three half-trampolines (our old one plus the two she 'sold' us), and not a single mat for any of them that's safe to use. I'm trying to find a way to calm my husband down, but in between the financial stress and the stress of confrontation he has felt sick and been attached to his phone all night trying to get ahold of this person. It's one thing to scam people on electronics or lie about the condition of furniture. But to sell a completely useless CHILDREN'S toy? That's a whole other level of low. My eldest is very, very disappointed and has gone to bed crying. I'm just so angry We know it was partly our fault, we should always inspect, and he did have a cursory look, he just didn't want to be that guy that insists on unfolding the huge heavy mat to inspect it, he still trusts people are generally good. He's learned his lesson.... I just don't understand people sometimes.

I was homeschooled through high school, and so was DH. We're both extremely grateful for it We're in it for the long haul with our own kids. We're far off from high school right now, but, especially given the experiences of myself and my husband, I definitely intend to homeschool high school.

I love block scheduling. I took it to an extreme, as a homesxhooled high schooler I usually only did two subject a day lol! But yep, everything other than math and basic language arts is block scheduled here, mostly into 'units' of 6-9 weeks, and with science and history alternating alongside that

Ace is an extremely popular form of homeschooling in australia because the first private distance education school here uses it It has its flaws but it is a good, solid education for the most part. One family of 7 that i know used it exclusively and they are lawyers, accountants, etc. Dh was friends with a few ace families growing up, they are all doing well, and their relationships with their parents are great too. So don't let stress about the program add to your uncertainty. It might not be perfect, we both know it's not, but perfect can be the enemy of the good. If it's working for you right now then it's good right now

Oh I'm so sorry.... I could give a bunch of advice for what should have happened before now and throughout the pregnancy, but, at this point she's labouring and it's too late for all that. She needs a strong advocate who will keep hounding people and stay on top of co-ordination, a solid plan from here to be worked out that she agrees to now (preferably with her high risk OB) and lots of prayer. You'll be in my thoughts.