I don't at all understand how or why you and DH have allowed it to get this far in the first place. Why have you not told her no, like months ago? How does it benefit you or anyone else to continue to let her think that you are going to all live on some compound together when you have no desire to live with them? I am really confused about the whole situation.

It is unkind to her to let her think that you are going to move in with her. By your silence, you are telling her that her plans work great for you.

Yes. I had nap time/rest time which continued into elementary ages daily, and nights out with friends.

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My local university has a list of recommended vaccinations for students, but does not require any.

I am far from a helicopter mom and do encourage my kids to solve their own problems when they are able, but learning to work things out and be kind is a skill that kids need to be taught. It takes years. It is not something that they are born knowing how to do or can learn how to do by the time they are 5. They need to be shown how to walk through the situation again, but this time, respond the right way. That requires a watchful and involved parent. And if you don't intervene, you (collective you) might be unaware if one child is bullying the other. The victim needs to learn to stand up for him or herself and the bully needs to learn to be kind and have self control. But if mom always tells the kids to go work things out on their own, they won't learn how to do this.

So is there no supervision by the coaches in high school locker rooms?

I think she probably has already. I wouldn't think that she still has this problem three years later.

OP, have you gone to the administration? That is where I would start.

OP, Is this kind of behavior allowed by the coach/school?

I don't think the OP still has this problem. It was something she posted three years ago.

I heard that that tomatoes message board closed but it looks like the website is still there.

I think that doing what he is told is important. But that is just me. I realize that others parent differently.

There is nothing wrong with confrontation. Sounds like he needs to realize that you are the mom and in charge.

Oh man! I was all interested in how the OP handled the situation-then after 4 pages, read that it's a zombie thread!

I like the idea that some one else posted of her wearing that smily face recording device.

It may not help the current situation, but I read a book many years ago that might help you and your daughter overall. It does have Christian content. His book, No More Christian Nice Girl is wonderful as well. http://www.amazon.com/More-Jellyfish-Chickens-Wimps-Assertive/dp/0764202421 ETA-I am not saying or implying that your DD is a wimp at all. It is just a good book.

The apple does not fall far from the tree. Guess who likely taught MG to be an MG?

I am in the same situation. I sent you a PM with how my resume is worded.

I mean is her chest caved in all the time. Like this--https://www.google.com/search?q=pectus+excavatum+mild&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjDpcPvuZnMAhVD42MKHWbPArYQ_AUIBygB&biw=1366&bih=634#imgrc=ZW3Ggd9FTTUwnM%3A

Does her sternum look like it's caved in?

Sounds like costochondritis to me.

I would text her.

I didn't just mean , are you worried about porn because your son has looked at porn in the past....but also are you worried he WILL look at porn. I read that like 98% of teens look at porn on their phones. If you are not worried he will look at porn, is that because you trust him, or don't think it is a huge deal if he does? Just trying to figure out if I am being too helicopter-y.

Who has a phone..... Do you check his phone? Do you have any monitoring software on his phone? Are you worried he will look at porn? I am curious how other Christian moms handle this.