The notes probably wouldn’t tell you anything anyway. It’s not like the guy would record that he did a half-assed job or just faked it because he doesn’t approve of sterilization.

This conversation is entirely based on the fact that not everyone has it. But that a particular group of people could have had it if another particular group of people hadn’t violently stolen/destroyed it.

I’m not talking about having an income from or even a job in a family business. Not top 1% stuff. Things like having a comfortable childhood with a stay at home mom where the kids don’t have to work after school and can focus on schoolwork and activities. College with no debt. A safety net that makes it possible to hold out for a better job instead of taking anything you can get, or risk starting your own business because you know you won’t starve or be homeless if it fails. The idea that the loss of a successful business wouldn’t have impact three or four generations later makes no sense.

To believe that I would have to believe that things I provide for my children are meaningless. I know I’ve benefited directly from the business my grandfather built. Had it been destroyed by arson it would definitely have impacted the start that my father had, I had, and my children are having.

I’m decluttering a closet, and I’m being much more ruthless about getting rid of stuff that I have been sorting and labeling and storing for years. I have a big box of lanyards — from conferences, Disneyland, college tours, camp, etc. I’ve been saving them because someday we might need lanyards! Except I can’t actually think of any reason why we would. But I hate to just throw them away. Can anyone think of an organization that might use them? (Or just tell me to quit being ridiculous and toss ‘em.)

With these particular people there is no way to explain. Because they don’t think there’s something wrong with you because you have a tidy home. They think there’s something wrong with having a tidy home because you have one. They are starting from the assumption that you are wrong, and they’d be doing that whether your home was tidy, messy, or halfway in-between. Don’t explain or justify anything to them, it just gives them more ammunition. Don’t get sucked into trying to come up with arguments to justify your housekeeping, even just in your head. That’s letting them steal your time and mental energy.

That makes sense. The defining feature of the romance genre is the happy ending, and I can see why that might be very unsettling to you.

Why are all your books non-fiction? Have you tried reading fiction when you need a break from productive activities?

Security Officer dude is coming from a “high security” perspective. If there is an incident knowing who is there means you know if everyone is accounted for or if there needs to be search and rescue. Your board will have to decide how to weigh the chances of needing this vs the hassle.

How about super low tech . . . a board with a card that is flipped or a magnet that is slid over when you arrive and leave?

I’m curious what would happen if you told your DH you would like him to buy you a donut for an afternoon snack.

I have a friend who used to make jokes about needing postmodern Christian music. Not in the sense of the philosophy, but just because “Contemporary” Christian music means 1970s.

I think there are different levels. “Weaponized,” to me implies both intentional and aimed at hurting the person who asked you to do the task. I’m sure that happens, but either the relationship is deeply dysfunctional or the person is abusive. Or both. Calling this out is not going to help, because doing damage is the point. Much more common is what I would call “self-serving incompetence.” It’s not intended to hurt the other person, and it might not even be a fully conscious choice, but the purpose is to not be assigned the task in the future. Not getting good at something because you don’t want it to be your regular chore. Then there’s not developing competence because you just don’t care much about or see the importance of the task, or because it’s really not in your skill set/natural ability, or because you have a neurological difference that makes it harder, or . . .

I think there is a specific term that OP is looking for that quiverfull types borrowed from the intelligent design folks for this particular distortion of natural theology. I can’t think of it off the top of my head, though.

The only time I boil hot dogs is if I’ve cut slits in them to make arms and legs for Frankie Doodle Dandies or threaded dozens of spaghetti noodles through them to make millipedes. But since my kids are teens I haven’t done either of those in years.

Here is a lovely video for you with the basics of white sauce and cheese sauce. You can use this base in any recipe that calls for canned cream of anything soup.

I bet it’s both.

I would not pay for a teacher for this. It sounds like what you need to learn is information, rather than someone assisting you to develop skills. That you can get by reading or watching videos. If it were learning a complicated skill where it would help to have someone watching you do it and pointing out how you could improve, that would be worth paying for.

Not so. There’s a men’s only college not far from here and I’m sure there are more.

It says, in the part that you quoted, that it’s about early social transitioning.

I wonder how much this is complicated by a shortage of trained providers. I live in a state that has declared itself a “sanctuary state” for transgender healthcare. And I happen to have had a conversation today with a person who is a therapist at the University’s Gender Creative Children and Adolescents program. (Side-note, I love that that’s what they call it.) It doesn’t seem to me that kids in that program are being rushed into transitioning, or even steered in that direction. But it’s pretty staff intensive. The intake process is multiple appointments with kids and parents over the course of a month. At the end of that process a treatment plan is developed which is often behavioral/therapeutic with no medical intervention. Testing and support for ADHD, autism, anxiety, depression, and other mental health diagnoses are available. If a kid does want to present more masculine or feminine non-invasive and reversible options are offered first. For example there is a vocal therapist who’s a trained opera singer that will help extend vocal range higher or lower without damaging vocal cords. For families that want to explore medical options there is then another set of three appointments 2 weeks apart with a physician. The first is informational only, about puberty blockers or hormones, depending on the age of the child/teen. Apparently many (most? I don’t remember if he said many or most, so let’s go with many) families stop after the first appointment. They get the info and decide to stick to therapy and not proceed with medication at that time. I don’t know if there is a specialized definition that you mean when you say “exploratory therapy,” but what was described to me was exploring why the child/teen is unhappy with or has concerns about their gender. Separating out issues with gendered roles or expectations from discomfort with body parts, that sort of thing. But, you know, public University, not a for-profit clinic.

Double check to make sure of the interest rate on the cash advance. Cash advance on a credit card is often at a higher interest rate than spending with the card and doesn’t have the no-interest grace period even if you pay your statement in full.

Insurance rates are (often? always?) based on licensed drivers living in the home, whether or not they have a car. Once your kid gets a license the rate will go up. No way an insurance company is going to trust the customer’s word that the kid will not be driving the car.

The district almost certainly has a handy chart that shows pay levels and what the increase is for education and for experience.

It’s not even fundamentalism. Fundamentalism is much more concerned with traditional doctrines and sticking to “the fundamentals.” IBLP et. al’s preoccupation with hierarchies of authority and reproduction and theocratic government is its own thing. Dominionism plus sex cult.