He is transferring within his company but nothing formal from what I could gather. He's waiting for his license to sell insurance in that state. I'm fuzzy on those details.

The first time he asked dh, dh asked me if he could crash in our living room. Then he started planning other dates and acted like it was going to just a regular thing. Dh told me he hoped he didn't think it was going to be happening all the time. I said he was going to keep asking. I think he sees it now. He just can't help but want to help. He drove 3 hours to help unload their moving truck in November and took them out to dinner.

He has no money. My dh was on the verge of making that our problem. Many of his "poor me" fb posts were about how he wished he could do xyz but couldn't afford it.

He recently moved from the east coast where he lived for the last 20 years to a state next to ours. He was looking forward to seeing dh and all their old friends more often, using our house as a hotel. At first dh said yes but then T started talking about doing it more frequently and messaging about various dates. I think dh realized he would be here every weekend if he could. It is a sad situation and I know he is very lonely. 😞

Not that I know of. 😂 Dh said he is done with him and he's a stalker. I'll let them figure it out but I am not engaging with him anymore.

True. And when I could see his facebook, there were often "poor me" jabs at others. I really dislike discord but I need to learn to not care what they think.

All of our mutual friends. I could probably predict what his passive-aggressive FB post says. Oh, well. I need to not worry about that. And yes, he divorced a couple of years ago.

He doesn't know our address, thank goodness, just the town.

This is petty but I would want to text BIL "BIL, you're right, you didn't hurt ds's pinky when you picked him up. It happened when you grabbed the controller away from him from behind."

Definitely. Divorce/custody issues. Dh says he has always been needy but it has escalated. That's why I feel badly but I needed to block him for my own mental health.

It's not new but it's not ever been this bad.

Oh, yeah He's unfriended me before when I wouldn't respond fast enough to his messages.

DH and his friend, T, have been friends since elementary school. He calls and messages dh a lot, like several times a day. Whenever dh gets on messenger his friend notices he's on on messages him every single time. Dh hates texting and only does it when necessary. So T calls him and dh can't talk much. He's busy at work and it's not the kind of job you can just talk on the phone at. So friend has started messaging me to get answers that dh hasn't provided. Like, T wants to stay at our house when he comes out to our state. He wants to know if DH will be around x date. If I say I don't think we have anything going on he'll text dh and say I said we are free that weekend. Basically, he's pressuring for an answer. I have just started saying I'm not sure because it's true. So yesterday, on Christmas no less he texts early before anyone else is awake and asks if I can do a big favor for him and check if we're busy this Saturday. I read the message but, hello, Christmas morning, and I didn't answer. A few hours later I see another preview that says, "can you do that for me?" I don't open the message and he tries to video message me. I'm in the middle of cooking. Our home phone rings and dh says it's him. He doesn't pick up. Then a message, "Are you guys home?" Dh said T had already messaged him a few times earlier in the day and dh told him he would call him the next day since we were with family. So I wake up today to the preview message "I'm removing you from my friends list." I didn't open the message and immediately blocked him. I messaged dh and told him what I did. Then dh tells me that T called him first thing today when dh got to work(6 am!) and asked why dh sounded grumpy when he answered the phone. Dh reiterated that he was going to call him today and not to go after me when he couldn't get ahold of dh, and that he "just didn't know when to quit." T hung up on him. Then messaged dh that he thought they were family and he was removing his contact information from his phone. 10+ messages and calls when you've already been told to wait a day is ridiculous. I'm just annoyed that we will be painted as horrible when really, he is a pest! I feel better typing it out. I apologize for the length!

That is the best! I have places like this my dad used to take me I would love to visit and my word, that's an amazing gift!

I got a mug when I was in 3rd grade or so. I used it up until about 3 years ago when ds broke it. I'm 45, so it had a long, loved life. He found another one and gave it to me today. It was seriously the most thoughtful gift ever and I am so happy. I don't know how he found it as it seemed pretty hard to find. I'm pretty much a person who uses things rather than collect and display them so I'm torn on what to do. He put so much thought into this and I dont want it to break. Maybe it will be my "Christmas Day" mug.

Sorry for your loss. 😞

It's about 4 posts up.

I think people are conditioned to like the stronger artificial flavor because it's in so many processed foods. That's what they expect vanilla to taste like now.

Yeah, I add the new beans to the old and just keep adding vodka as we use it up.

Bacon-wrapped apricots with sage https://www.realsimple.com/food-recipes/browse-all-recipes/bacon-wrapped-apricots-with-sage-recipe

Do you all top off your bottle with fresh vodka to keep it going? I just bought beans for the first time in almost 10 years. They were at Costco and under $20. That doesn't seem high for years and years of extract.

Thanks. I'll toss them. Maybe my neighbor's chickens will like them.

She did have some looser stools that day so I'll just not use them.

Did the orzo turn out? I have some but I don't have converted rice and don't really know what that is. Or could I use long grain rice?

I bought some Minties at Target for my puppy for her chewing needs. She seemed to do pretty well chewing for several minutes but she ended up swallowing whole the middle potion after the ends had been chewed off, so about 1 1/2 inches. I have been afraid to give her another one. Are these dangerous? She is eating the tiny, which says it is for her weight range, but it seems so small.