This is probably silly, but I'm just not sure how to respond to my 2 yo. Background: She had massive amounts of fluid built up in her ears and had surgery this past March to clear it out because she wasn't talking, wasn't responsive to speech, etc. Right after her surgery, it happened that my husband was off of work for four months (injury, surgery, & recovery), and so for her first four months of real hearing after her surgery, she heard almost exclusively English (we speak English as a family whenever dh is around instead of doing OPOL). Now, six months later, hubby is back at work, and I speak lots of German again during the day and my 2 yo is angry about it. This morning (just as an example), she felt my hair after my shower, and I asked her if my wet hair felt cold and wet (in German) and she said "wet". So I agreed with "Yes, it's really wet!" in German and she got really upset. One more round of me saying it in German, and she screamed at me the English word "WET!!" and then ran off and threw a massive tantrum on the couch and wanted nothing to do with me for at least ten minutes.
Fine, I don't really mind her throwing a little tantrum, but I'm not sure how to best handle this sort of situation in the future, when it's clear that it's the language itself that is the source of conflict. I didn't even start speaking German to my oldest until he was 2, and he adjusted to it right away and was speaking it back with me within six months, so I had expected a smoother transition with the little one (but she does have three older siblings who speak a lot of English at this point, so I'm not sure how much that plays into things). Should I not have repeated it 2-3 times? Should I have agreed with her that it was "wet" (in English)? Other alternatives?