Nicole M Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 This morning I took a long walk, and ended up at the library, where I had some books waiting on reserve. Since they weren't open yet, I sat on the cold bench and waited. This guy about my age came up the steps with books for the drop box and smiled and looked at me in a sort of "what are you doing?" kinda way, so I said, sorta perkily, "Gosh, I didn't plan my walk very well. I got here too early." He took out his phone and said, "Six minutes. Can you make it?" I said, "Sure, it's a nice morning, I can wait." Then he very quickly said, "Got your kids with you?" and I said, "No!" because, frankly, I was thankful to be away from the house. Then right quickety-snip he said, "You married?" and that confused me, but I said, "Yup!" in the same way I'd said, "No!". It was a rapid fire exchange and it took me aback. Afterwords I felt a little tricked, like he caught me off guard and extracted information out of me that really isn't any of his business. It made me feel icky. He went away, and I went into the library, thinking, what just happened? Then a while later, when I was checking my books out, he was behind me in line with his son. I felt like he was following me. Again, felt creepy. I'm sure he's totally harmless, but really. What was that about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabeth in IL Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Maybe he is a single dad, thought you were cute and was trying to get information or his courage up to ask you out. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Maybe he was a single dad, hence the questions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renthead Mommy Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Single or not, he was probably hitting on you. Take it as a compliment. You looked good enough even after a long walk that he figured he'd give you a shot! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted March 1, 2009 Author Share Posted March 1, 2009 :svengo: I guess the thing that worries me is the idea that I might have been too friendly, like I have an "available" badge. I feel like we aught to be able to be civil and convivial without inviting, um, overtures (as my dad used to say). But I'll take a deep breath and let it go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted March 1, 2009 Author Share Posted March 1, 2009 Single or not, he was probably hitting on you. Take it as a compliment. You looked good enough even after a long walk that he figured he'd give you a shot! Love the "or not"! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renthead Mommy Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Nah. You were out on a Sunday morning with no kids. That can go either way. But some guys just think they are god's gift to women, and who wouldn't want a piece of them? So that's their standard operating procedure! And for some guys, having kids with you, even wedding rings, doesn't always deter them. On the other hand, he could have just been being friendly. Sometimes I think we forget people are like that anymore. But yeah, take as a positive for your day and tell yourself "I've still got it!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted March 1, 2009 Author Share Posted March 1, 2009 You are good. I feel a lot better now. Your check is in the mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 I'm sure he's totally harmless, but really. What was that about? Ok, now, so, if you were an intelligent single guy, where would you rather pick up women? In a bar? In a supermarket? Or at a library where a pretty woman was waiting, having WALKED there? You've been out of the game too long, darlin'! ;-D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Ok, now, so, if you were an intelligent single guy, where would you rather pick up women? In a bar? In a supermarket? Or at a library where a pretty woman was waiting, having WALKED there? You've been out of the game too long, darlin'! ;-D :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted March 1, 2009 Author Share Posted March 1, 2009 Ok, now, so, if you were an intelligent single guy, where would you rather pick up women? In a bar? In a supermarket? Or at a library where a pretty woman was waiting, having WALKED there? You've been out of the game too long, darlin'! ;-D Holy smokes, you're funny! So you're saying the dating scene has changed quite a bit then, since 1990? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Ok, now, so, if you were an intelligent single guy, where would you rather pick up women? In a bar? In a supermarket? Or at a library where a pretty woman was waiting, having WALKED there? You've been out of the game too long, darlin'! ;-D I love the way your mind works! :lol: He saw an intelligent, patient, and sweet tempered woman. If he was single, then he was simply smart enough to know not to pass up a possible opportunity. (If he was married, well then I have not so nice things to say about him and "smart" wouldn't be one of them!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 Holy smokes, you're funny! So you're saying the dating scene has changed quite a bit then, since 1990? Oh, probably not. Just that you're so rusty at it, you don't recognize when a man is angling for whether or not to ask you for your phone number! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted March 1, 2009 Author Share Posted March 1, 2009 Oh, probably not. Just that you're so rusty at it, you don't recognize when a man is angling for whether or not to ask you for your phone number! LOL But we have so many more "portals" for rejection now than we did 20 years ago! I just saw the trailer for He's Just Not That Into You. Jeez, I'd hate to be dating now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted March 1, 2009 Share Posted March 1, 2009 I'm sure he's totally harmless, but really. What was that about? This could have been a completely innocent social worker. I work with several who could have done this without anything being "meant". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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