Runningmom80 Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 Yes, and we were done by choice. It could have been PP hormones, but I did mourn right after my twins were born. I don't anymore. I'm very content. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erin Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 Yes. No dramatic health problems here, just that we had two, back-to-back, and planned to wait a few years and have two more back-to-back. We waited those few more years and Trap didn't really want to start over. "Remember how much fun we had before we had kids? Don't you look forward to the empty-nest years?" I was really disappointed but as time went by, I agreed with him. I've gotten to where I don't want to start over again, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyWImom Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 Yes. I always wanted a huge family, because I'm an only child and don't have any cousins or extended family that live near us. We had lots of infertility issues, so again, I do feel blessed to have 2 healthy, wonderful children. But I love kids, and that yearning never goes away. Dh is also much older than me and I'm 47, so he did have a vasectomy 5 years ago. Prior to that, I always hoped that we would somehow be blessed with a little miracle, even though the odds were against us. Now that my dc are getting older, that yearning is even worse! Honestly, I feel something must be wrong with me, that I need to work on some things because I just feel this sense of loss. I'm glad they are growing up on the one hand-I mean I'm enjoying these stages with them, but I feel loss. I would love to adopt or be a foster parent, but dh is just not open to that. I really feel for you, because I can't imagine knowing at 29 that that was it. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 Oh, yes, absolutely; especially because I loved every stage of their babyhood. After multiple miscarriages, I just realized that I had simply aged out of the baby-making business. Sometimes I kick myself for waiting so long to have kids (I was 40 when my first was born), and other times I tell myself that had I not waited I likely would not have the particular kids I have. I can say that it has made me more appreciative of what I do have and I value each one of my kids' life stages more now, because I know this is it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merry gardens Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 Yes. We have eight and my fertility certainly wasn't cut short, so maybe "mourning" is a strong word. But yes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 Not too badly. We were content with two, but we had a nagging feeling that we needed to add a 3rd. We had every intention on adopting a little girl, but when that little boy's photo was handed to me, I could not say now. He was so adorable! We have 3 boys. There are times when I look at little girls and feel that I missed out, but then I look at the teen girls and feel that I really didn't! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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