klmama Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Okay, for some of you tough-minded gals this is a no-brainer, but for me, it's a huge step. I have a hard time saying no to people, but today I had to. My neighbor (whose dc are my dc's best friends) wanted to get our dc together today so she could do some things. Normally, that would be fine, but her ds is sick. Tummy ache yesterday, fever last night, sore throat today. I found out about the tummy ache because he was with us yesterday when he started looking a little green. Literally. So, I asked how he was doing today and she told me the rest. "But really, he's feeling pretty good today, except for the sore throat," she said,"so let's get them together after lunch." Aauuugghh!!!! I don't think so!!!! It was hard for me, but I sucked it up and said we won't play until her dc are all 100% well. She was fine with that, seemed to understand, and said maybe later in the weekend we could try again, if everyone is healthy. So, I'm here doing a little happy dance because I stood up for myself and my dc, because my neighbor seemed to understand, and because I've gotten my first reminder of the season that I should always ask if anyone has symptoms before we get together. It seems everyone we know thinks it's fine to have playdates if they give their feverish dc some motrin, and my dc end up paying for it. I'm going to put a note by the phone to remind me to ask about health before we make playdates! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DB in NJ Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 :hurray: :party: :cheers2: Setting (and keeping!) boundaries IS hard for some of us....how I admire those who can just say no without even blinking. Amazing. Good job! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetbaby Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Good for you! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Good for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Good for you - now remember to keep this up! You can do it! You may have just dodged a strep bullet!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 That a girl! Good job and keep it up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Way to go !!! And it will get easier and easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asher Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Yay!!! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Good for you! I completely understand. My girls almost never get sick. However, my son and I get everything. Plus, he has severe asthma and what might be a little cold to one kid can put my son in the hospital. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in FL Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 I just don't get parents who think the kids are OK to play when they are sick! My neighbors try that a lot. Even if their kids are to sick to go to school they still try to play after school time. I've had to get used to asking the kids how school was before letting them play. If the response is "I was sick and didn't go today" I send them straight home and let them know my kids can't play when they are sick. You would think if a kids can't go to school because they are sick the parents wouldn't expose them to neighbors, but NO. Personally, I think it's because the parents are tired of being with dc and want them out of the house for awhile, which is just sad! Rant over- Melissa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Good for you. FYI: kids are considered contagious if, within the last 24 hours, they have vomited or had a fever over 100.(If they are taking meds to keep it down, you go with the unmedicated temp.) So even if a child threw up the day before and feels fine today, you still should delay a play date. With your neighbor's kiddo, your kids have already been exposed, but no point in trying again, in case they missed it yesterday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 Way to go!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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