ChristyB in TN Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 No freaking way. Life is short and being passionate about everything is a luxury I will take advantage of at every opportunity. Also, I believe marriage is too hard for people who aren't simply crazy insane about each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 I don't accept the premise that you know you could never love someone. And if I were considering marriage under the circumstances, I think I'd ask to have this thread removed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 Another vote for "talk to him about it again." A lot can change in a person's heart in six years, but you won't know until you ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thefragile7393 Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 Sure, if I felt a decent friendship with him. This. Also, as long as there was fidelity on both parties, I could easily do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susankenny Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 It depends. Do I have to work? Is he wealthy. Define obligatory wifely duties in the bedroom? If those were all in check & hypothetically I was single and my actual age, then you bet I'd consider it! Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susankenny Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) DP Edited May 31, 2012 by susankenny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueTaelon Posted May 31, 2012 Author Share Posted May 31, 2012 SO.........any updates? Come on BlueTaelon, inquiring minds want to know....... Is he a keeper or are you going to toss him to the curb? "Still trying to decide" is also a valid response. :D But come on, we need an update! (And a picture of him in a kilt would be nice, too. You know, if he'll put on a kilt and pose for a picture, I'll bet a lot of the naysayers here would suddenly decide to vote in support of keeping him, so there's a real benefit for him to do it.) Lol, havent even had time to think about it with everything going on tbh, been swamped. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnowWhite Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 But don't you think the love talked about in the Bible is more about our actions than a romantic feeling? Yes. That's why I voted the way I did. Romance, Schmomance. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalynnrmc Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 Didn't read responses, and being happily married myself it doesn't much matter, but... If we believe the same things spiritually, then yes. I believe that in that situation, love would bloom. I would learn to love him. The opposite is a concern - would HE love ME? Of course, if he believes in the way that I do, he'd also learn to love. But if neither of us is in love, why on this green earth are we getting married? :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 Lol, havent even had time to think about it with everything going on tbh, been swamped. Well, don't think we won't keep hounding you. :D Hey, some of us don't get out much, and we need to live through others. Right now, we picked you. Don't let us down -- keep it exciting for us, OK? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiCO Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 No. Having known real love, I could not settle for less. I would prefer to be on my own than sacrifice my emotional integrity. There is no amount of money, security or travel that could make me betray myself like that. I've had real love, and I voted yes. I'm on my own now (widowed,) and I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone- especially after my kids are out of the nest. But since I'm pushing 50, I feel like I'm looking for a life companion more than young love. I would not feel like I'm betraying my emotional integrity to marry a friend. (I can also take care of myself financially, including travel and security, so it wouldn't be about that either.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiCO Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 Most. Important. Question.: Does he own a kilt, and will we be getting pictures of him wearing it? I was JUST thinking this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiCO Posted May 31, 2012 Share Posted May 31, 2012 I know a woman who, more than anything, wanted children of her own. She isn't the most attractive woman but there were a couple decent guys over the years who wanted to date her. However, her standards were so unreasonably high that she refused to even date them and she is past childbearing age now and still alone. Those guys have since gone on to marry others and have great families of their own. It's sad to me. I would have a lot of regrets if I were her. Not comparing this at all to your situation, just sharing "out loud." I know a woman like this also. She's very bitter. I think if she just would have dated men who weren't "perfect", she would have discovered it's not all about looks and social status. My acquaintance did end up marrying, but not well (I think he's emotionally abusive.) He has kids from a previous marriage, and she loves them... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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