simka2 Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 (edited) Soooooooooooooooo.................................................... if your dh (or you, or your dw) could not cook when you got married, how did you remedy that situation? ;) We have a few dishes that will go down in history: Dh's famous barbecued chicken :tongue_smilie: (completely raw!), and the time the Tuna Helper had crunchy noodles. That said he has become quite the cook. Honestly, I am not totally sure how we remedied the situation. I know we had to break through his perfectionsim, which led to a paralyzing fear of trying anything he was not already good at. I am pretty sure we did that by having me mess up a few dishes :tongue_smilie: and laughing about it. I am also reasonably sure that when we would go over to barbecue's at friends houses I would shove him in the direction of the grill master and say, "Go. Watch. Learn." ;) Sometimes when I am cooking I will pull him over and have an impromptu cooking lesson or he becomes my prep cook! :D That said, I started thinking about the amount of things he can now cook and am rather impressed. Now, he is not going to be making homemade bread anytime soon, but I could leave for a week and he would be able to feed himself and the kids balanced meals. If your dh learned to cook after you married (or became a lot better at it) how did it happen? Edited December 10, 2011 by simka2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 My DH cannot cook. He cannot even boil an egg. He can boil hotdogs, so perhaps eggs will be the next challenge. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Neither of us could cook when we got married. I quickly learned that I love to cook, and I love to try new stuff! My husband can cook now and does cook regularly, but it's always simple stuff. That's cool with me. Luckily no one in the house is picky! ETA: I don't know if Patrick would have learned to cook if I hadn't been in nursing school when we got married. It was either cook or starve. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I had the opposite situation. *I* could not cook AND I was dealing with a health problem. My husband's solution, since I also worked fewer hours and got home first, was that I should have supper on the table when he got home (no, this was not a "has to be done" throughout our marriage thing, just a motivational goal for me in the beginning). I learned a lot during that time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa in the UP of MI Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 For us, it was the other way around. *I* didn't know how to cook when we got married. I learned by practice. And now I'm a better cook than dh and actually enjoy doing it most of the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunD Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I haven't yet succeeded at this. I think I need to improve my directions. Recently I had him make eggs in a microwave omelet thingy we have. I told him to "crack the eggs into it, add a very little bit of water, salt and pepper, mix them up with that fork, and cook them for 1 minute and 45 seconds". In my mind, that's how you do it. They were terrible. My mistakes were not specifying the amount of water (I wouldn't have thought half as much water as egg was "a little bit"), not specifying the amount of salt and pepper (but I don't measure, so ?), and not explaining exactly how you mix them up with a fork. He stuck the fork tines in straight vertically, then moved it around for a few seconds. I should have said you actually turn the fork sideways and make circles that way so as to incorporate air. Bless his heart. But if I spend too long explaining it, he gets huffy. I'll be watching. :lurk5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cedarmom Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Best thing I've done is to get a computer software program and install my recipes on it. I made sure their were basic recipes like spagetti, baked chicken and tacos. If he can follow a recipe, he's good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cammie Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Moved to India where we can hire a cook. Not at all kidding. I hate to cook and he can't/won't cook so it was move or starve!!:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Share Posted December 10, 2011 I had the opposite situation. *I* could not cook AND I was dealing with a health problem. My husband's solution, since I also worked fewer hours and got home first, was that I should have supper on the table when he got home (no, this was not a "has to be done" throughout our marriage thing, just a motivational goal for me in the beginning). I learned a lot during that time. Great point! I completely spaced that this is not a gender specific issue.I will edit the op. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgialee Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I honestly believe anyone can cook... just follow the directions in the recipe. DH does not really cook. He does eggs, bacon & pancakes. He'll grill and does a mean pork butt on the smoker. I let him stick to what he's good at & likes doing and I do the rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Classical Country Mama Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 My dh couldn't cook when we got married. And almost 12 years later, he still can't, so hats off to those of you whose cooking instruction classes (whether subtle or overt) succeeded. My dh's claim to fame (or rather, one of the stories I've made him famous for :D) is one time when he was trying to saute hotdogs, he spilled the oil on himself and had to go to the ER. Yes, he went to the ER from making hotdogs. Now that's a gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 We met in high school and neither of us could cook well. When we first lived together, I did Thanksgiving for his family (it was good) and then didn't cook again for a couple of months. He learned to cook & we've both improved since then. So for me it was just simply not cooking. He picked up cooking in self defense. :) But I was perfectly willing not to eat at all (my response to stress) so he had motivation to pick up the slack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted December 10, 2011 Author Share Posted December 10, 2011 My dh couldn't cook when we got married. And almost 12 years later, he still can't, so hats off to those of you whose cooking instruction classes (whether subtle or overt) succeeded. My dh's claim to fame (or rather, one of the stories I've made him famous for :D) is one time when he was trying to saute hotdogs, he spilled the oil on himself and had to go to the ER. Yes, he went to the ER from making hotdogs. Now that's a gift. :lol::lol::lol: Very funny! ....but I have to ask, you sautee hot dogs in oil? :confused: I have boiled, grilled, broiled, microwaved, browned in a pan, and cooked them over an open fire. I have never heard of sauteeing in oil, is this a "secret" family recipe? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXMomof4 Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Dh used to cook. I do most of the real cooking but he'll make quesadillas, sandwiches, etc. He likes to make up stuff and it usually involves lots of cheese and ranch. It will taste good, but you have to be brave enough to try it. My favorite story is the chicken tetrazzini he made substituting fresh jalepenos for bell pepper. They're both green peppers, right? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Classical Country Mama Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :lol::lol::lol: Very funny! ....but I have to ask, you sautee hot dogs in oil? :confused: I have boiled, grilled, broiled, microwaved, browned in a pan, and cooked them over an open fire. I have never heard of sauteeing in oil, is this a "secret" family recipe? :D Yes! It's so secret, in fact, it's a recipe only my dear, dear dh knows, and I'd never dare to ask... :D From what I used to see, however, he splits them open and stuffs them with cheese and fresh garlic, and then sautees them. Or he might sautee them first, then stuff them, then saute them a little more. I'm not terribly sure, especially since I'm usually hiding myself in a closet somewhere until he's done.* I'm more of a squid hotdog person, myself. * This also goes for when he attempts spaghetti. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in Florida Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 We married young and neither of us could cook. :glare: I learned out of self preservation. My mom would teach me things when she and my dad came to visit. (we moved 350 miles away in order to attend college after we got married) Dh theoretically can cook. hmmph... every thing ends up overcooked and salty so I prefer to do it myself. :lol: Seriously, even when we had backyard chickens he could make the eggs rubbery, tasteless and salty, it is some kind of evil gift. Ha In exchange he does all the car maintenance and yard work so I really can't complain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhotoGal Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Dh does most of the cooking at our house. It is for the best. One time he was out of town and I tried to make popcorn on the stove. Somehow I managed to set the pot on fire.... :blushing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I'm a single mom and I don't really cook. I mean, I was taught the basics of cooking as a kid, and I "can" cook (i.e., follow a recipe), but I don't enjoy it at all. I find that there are actually plenty of ways to have a healthy diet without really cooking. Before kids, I was hoping to meet a compatible guy who also liked cooking. Didn't happen. So then I thought, ugh, I'm gonna have to break down and start cooking like a traditional woman. But so far, I've managed to avoid it, and my kids are 5 (and very healthy). They get their share of good home cookin' since my sister, who is my Sunday babysitter, cooks for us almost weekly nowadays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Dh really only knows how to make a few things. He's good at grilling, so I take advantage of that. He cooks eggs using his own method that we refer to as "scramble-frying" or "Dad style". I like to cook, although I seem to go through periods where I just make whatever's easiest, then suddenly get a desire to try out new recipes. Dh is happy with whatever. Wendi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I married a guy who was already a very good cook. His dad was the cook in his family, and also cleaned the house, so dh grew up thinking that was just normal. Did I luck out or what? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 DH used to cook a few things but developed domestic amnesia after the wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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