hsmom2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 n/a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BetterthanIdeserve Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I don't know what proper etiquette for that situation, but personally I would enjoy getting a personal note about a friend I hadn't heard from in a long time - even if it was with a sympathy card. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Definitely send it. The personal note is more important than the card. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieJ Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Our family recieved many many hand written notes within the sympathy cards when my father passed 11 years ago. They were so precious to read and share as we went thru that week. Send it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I would do it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Yes. Send it. I sent a personal letter along with the sympathy card for some friends who lost a child. About a year later, the father told me it was the nicest card they received because of the note. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I would send it if it's not a chatty, "everything's great in MY world" kinda note. That's the last thing someone who's grieving wants to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 A few years ago, a friend's husband passed. In the day or so between when it happened and when I found out, I had sent her a longish chatty email. I was sort of aghast and told her so when I went to the shiva house, but she actually laughed and told me it had been relief to get something other than sympathy wishes. Probably not everyone would feel that way, but I think it's fine to try to use it as an opportunity to say a more general hello to your friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kesmom Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Personally I wouldn't. (from my personal experience of having that happen when our DD died - it just didn't come off well the way that person did it) What I would do is send a second card in a month or so (like a Thinking of You type card) and then include the letter. It means a LOT to get something in the mail when all of the initial support is gone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I would send it if it's not a chatty, "everything's great in MY world" kinda note. That's the last thing someone who's grieving wants to hear. I guess I was assuming it would be a "I know that we lost track of each other but I am so sorry for your loss" type of a note. I do agree that a chatty "let's catch up" note wouldn't be appropriate right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Yes. A personal note would be a loving touch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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