Denisemomof4 Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 I have a friend I met several years ago at a homeschool group. We immediately hit it off and ADORED each other. The group's leader was a real nut job and the group had a lot of issues, and these issues brought me and this friend much closer together. Unfortunately, her dh lost his job and their house was going to go into foreclosure so they decided to sell the house and move down south where it is much cheaper to live. I was devastated and she was sad to be leaving her home, her family, her friends, and was sad that our friendship wasn't going to be allowed to develop. We have remained in contact but only speak maybe once per year or every other year. When we talk it's still as if we were good friends. Other than that, I get a Christmas car from her. I adore her but I barely know (knew) her son. We just got a beautiful invitation to attend her son's homeschool graduation. We won't be attending, but what's the proper thing to do? I normally give friend's kids who graduate $100 or so, but I'm thinking a nice card and $25. Does that seem cheap? What is the proper thing to do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 Based on your relationship, I think a card and $25 is very reasonable and not cheap. That's about how much I would give in that circumstance. To closer friends/family, I give more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susankenny Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 Based on your relationship, I think a card and $25 is very reasonable and not cheap. That's about how much I would give in that circumstance. To closer friends/family, I give more. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arghmatey Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 I think your gift sounds thoughtful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 Based on your relationship, I think a card and $25 is very reasonable and not cheap. That's about how much I would give in that circumstance. To closer friends/family, I give more. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 Card and a small cash gift. It keeps offense at bay and doesn't break the bank. Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2read Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 Just curious, if you give $100 for graduation, what do you give when the person gets married? Around here it's $10 for graduations, $50 for weddings and $100 if it is a relative getting married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 Just curious, if you give $100 for graduation, what do you give when the person gets married? Around here it's $10 for graduations, $50 for weddings and $100 if it is a relative getting married. it really depends on the relationship. For good friends where I live it's $150 for a wedding. In NY/NJ they do things on a MUCH larger scale. We honestly don't have a "set" scale but I come up with a number privately and then ask dh and 9 times out of 10 we have the same number. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 We just got a beautiful invitation to attend her son's homeschool graduation. We won't be attending, but what's the proper thing to do? I normally give friend's kids who graduate $100 or so, but I'm thinking a nice card and $25. Does that seem cheap? What is the proper thing to do? The proper thing to do is to RSVP (if you were asked to do that--is it an announcement or an invitation?). Otherwise, giving a gift/sending a card is up to you. I'm sure her son would appreciate whatever you decide to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 I think that the $25 is fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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