amy g. Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 when they did not know they were pregnant? I knew my period was way overdue, but I thought it was just my age. Then I started having cramps. I thought, "Wow, menopause is going to be worse than being a teenager." It wasn't until I actually started passing tissue that I realized what was happening. I feel like such a moron. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philothea Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I knew I was expecting with mine, but I did not know it was going to be like mini-labor. I think the fact that I was not prepared for that threw me off quite a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 My son's grandmother had a live birth and didn't realize she was pregnant. And she's NOT a moron by any stretch. :grouphug: Don't feel dumb. I'm sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 I have btdt with not realized I was pregnant and then miscarrying...twice. You are not a moron. I had a pregnancy right on top of a miscarriage a year ago. I was late and the pregnancy test was positive...then I started bleeding...a lot. I didn't even *think* that I'd be pregnant. It was hard. Praying for your comfort... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in Orlando Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 You are NOT a moron. (((()))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted April 20, 2008 Author Share Posted April 20, 2008 Knowing that it happened to someone else really does make me feel better. I wonder why that is? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 Oh I'm so sorry. Yes, I think before our first was born that we had miscarriages before we even knew we were pregnant, and one pregnancy that lasted just long enough for us to tell everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mamagistra Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 Oh, I'm so sorry! :( I have had two miscarriages over the years, though I did know I was expecting each time. After the last loss, I was pregnant again almost right away (a most unexpected blessing). (((amyg))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parabola Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 Actually I think if you talk to a doc, they'll tell you that many many many women have miscarriages and never even know it. When it happens early its very hard to tell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 Yes, I've btdt. You are not alone. My cycles have always been a little off, so it wasn't so easy to track, in my case. Sounds like a similar type situation to you (premenopause can make things very unpredictable). Even though I didn't know, after finding out, I felt like an emotional wreck for a little bit. I guess a mix of the hormones & the wishing for what could have been... kwim? (That was my first pregnancy.) Hugs to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reservejagmom Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 I'm so sorry. ((( )))) I had one a few months before I got pregnant with my only ds. The docs had told us getting pregnant wasn't possible because my dh had a low sperm count/low motility. I had the miscarriage right after we had told everyone, only a few weeks into the pregnancy -- I didn't even need a d&c afterwards. It was really hard because we figured getting pregnant at all had been a total fluke unlikely to ever happen again. I was 39 yo at the time. The first blood tests had shown I wasn't immune to rubella, so after the miscarriage I went ahead and got immunized for it just in case I'd ever (thinking it would probably never happen) get pregnant again. And I'm so glad I did! But it sure wasn't easy at the time. I know what you're going through ..... you are NOT a moron; please be kind and gentle with yourself. :grouphug: Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 I did before I had my oldest. I didn't know what was going on till after too. So sorry you are going through this :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 (((hugs)) I think this used to happen a lot - before pregnancy tests could tell you that you were pregnant so early on. Please take it easy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 Not only did I not know I was pregnant, but I was beginning to think I couldn't get pregnant. We had tried for years to conceive again after our dd had been born. We were at the point of giving up and looking into adoption. My periods have never been regular, so I couldn't use this as a sign. When I started bleeding, I thought it was my normal cycle, then the pain increased so I couldn't even sit and the bleeding was extremely heavy. It turned out I had an ectopic pregnancy. The whole ordeal went on for several weeks and it was so painful and difficult and emotionally draining. I am sorry that you are going through this right now. So many of us have had similar experiences - you are not alone :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fruitful vine Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 I have crazy cycles, so being late can happen a lot. I often give it no thought. I was very late when I found out I was pregnant, it was only a few short days before I lost the baby. So your situation almost happen to me. Sorry for your loss and forgive yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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