I don't think 7 is a magic number, but marriages go through seasons. I've been married for almost 14 years, and I've learned a lot. There are seasons where I feel passionate love for dh, and then there are seasons where I think "What did I ever see in him?":001_huh::lol: We've gone through major life events together: he adopted my ds5 when we got married, then we had two miscarriages during the first two years of our marriage, then we had two healthy babies (praise God) during the next 2 years. That's a lot of change taking place rather quickly, & we had to learn how to weather those seasons together. Also, we adopted a visually impaired & developmentally delayed little girl from China in Dec. 2009 & then our oldest graduated in 2010 & joined the army & immediately after graduation he headed off to basic training. He is now in Afghanistan. Talk about stressors! I've learned to be honest with dh about what I'm feeling. Communication really is the key. There have been times I've stifled what I was feeling, mostly due to pride, and just sat & stewed & resented dh. But then when I open up & tell him that I'm feeling distant from him, or that I need for him to talk to me more, or I need him to help more around the house, he responds. I've also asked him to be honest with me. And, about the grass is greener.....well, I've come to realize that of course it's NOT. Eventually you'll run into these feelings & issues no matter who your significant other is. Commit to loving your spouse-it's a choice, not a feeling. Try to make time for each other, even if it's only 15 minutes each day. Hang in there!