These are my two favorites. Also Titus Justus.

Yes. and my dr. agrees.

What an incredibly thoughtful reply. You rock, Mrs. Mungo.

Yes. Once while being guided through a yoga exercise with a true guru. And another time during a Native American ritual dance. Both times I was under the influence of mind altering substaces. I'm not lying when I say I was a hippie.

Thanks to everyone for the thoughtful responses. I so appreciate this place!

Thanks for taking the time to share this, Jenny. Very insightful.

Thanks for all the encouragement and information, guys. Very helpful. I think part of my concern is that I don't really know the coach at all. I just want to make sure I am putting my boy in good, safe hands. I appreciate all the input and tough questions for me. Helps me think this through.

Thanks Bill. He may go into politics some day too.

Thanks for this, Heather. No, I dont'see a boy on a cheer team as being any different than boys doing ballet. So there you go. They are not in my mind traditionally masculine sports. So I am wanting to get as much input as I can to make a decision I can be happy with.

See this is where I am clueless. I am just sort of scared of him hanging around so many fit girls week after week...and approaching the age where hormonally he will be coming of age. I dont' want him to become sexually active young, and feel like putting him in an environment with all these scantilly clad girls is setting him up for failure in this area. I have no experience with healthy male coming of age, but want that for my boy. And I also have no experience with boys as dancers or cheerleaders.

Male nurses and female firefighters and soldiers I have no problem with. My boy hanging out regularly with beautiful girls in short, short skirts who are doing provocative moves I may have. Again, the role cheerleaders play is what I am grappling with...they honestly seem like eye candy to me. So do I want my boy to be eye candy? Not really. I went to youtube to watch some male cheerleading videos to get a feel for what they do, and most of them were spoofing male cheerleaders. I can't change how society thinks...but I will do what I can to keep my boy from things which may not be healthy for him.

Thanks for saying the G word, Astrid. See my comments below. I will support my boy if I believe it would be a healthy, wholesome activity for him. Cheerleaders with their gyrations ick me out, and I am just not sure what role he would play in all of that. I don't know the coach very well, so need to trust that he has my boys heart in mind If I let him do this.

I don't see any of this as problematic. Tell me about your boys. How old are they, how long have they been dancing, have there been issues for them as males, and as boys with hormones?

Interesting. The coach told me that this was his attitude while in high school on the cheer team. I'm just not sure this is what I want my boy doing...hanging with beautiful, scantily clad girls. Call me a prude, but I do not look forward to my boy budding sexually. so I am cautious. and motherly,,,

I guess I have always thought of it as an effeminate activity. And I want to be careful to not steer my boy into things that may not be healthy for a growing pre teen.

The 'ick' factor is because of how I feel about cheerleaders in general...it sort of seems like those who cheer are mostly just "eye candy' and I hate the idea of looks being so important, and one being put on display. But, again, what do I know. I was a Yell leader for a year in high school and people looked at me differently than they had prior to then. It was assumed that I was stuck up and dumb, which I was not. I am also a bit wary of him being around mostly girls so much, and girls who wear skimpy skirts and such. He has not hit puberty full on yet, but I know it is coming. I would rather not have him in a position of being sexually stimulated and tempted on a regular basis. The coach told me that when he cheered in high school it was like having a bunch of sisters, which I don't mind at all. He and his sister are best of friends, so he knows how to have girls who are friends. Really the bottom line is that I have no experience with male cheerleading, so I am a bit clueless. The 'gay' factor is there too, but I don't necessarily correlate the two. He is very good looking and charismatic, and I just want him to have a healthy self image and not become puffed up or warped in his thinking with regard to himself and his looks in any way. Then there is the whole safety issue. I would hate for him to be tossing girls around, esp. if one was to become injured. He is very small, however, so will probably just mostly tumble.

:grouphug: yes, laughter is the best medicine. How very 'green' of you to not be burning fossil fuels right now.;)

So boy wants to maybe act someday, and is now involved with dance and gymnastics. He has an opportunity to join a competitive cheerleading team. This makes me go 'ick' but what do I know? The coach went to college on a full ride cheerleading scholarship, so there is that. But cheerleading for boys just doesn't sit right with me. It is, really, mostly tumbling and stunts. Anybody have a pre-pubescent boy involved with cheer?

Hi Peri, My 14 yr. old daughter was diagnosed with Asperger's about three years ago. It is hard to know exactly how to respond to your inquiry. I would definitely check out some library books on Asperger's if you need more specific information. My daughter does not receive any "treatment' per se. What exactly are you hoping to know or to find out?

3.39 for regular. two weeks ago it was 3.21. Las Vegas Valley.

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feel free to pm me. My divorce was final two weeks ago, but I left with the kids last May. I understand. And the transitional stage will not last.

Thank You for posting this. I sent the email. Unbelieveable that our troops fight to help the people of Afghanastan and one there who converts can be killed.

As the mother of a quirky child with Asperger's syndrome, I loved the movie. And what I thought was most cool was that Temple designed and created a humane tool for animal husbandry as a result of her ability to really focus on one thing...gives me hope for my daughter. I wonder what she will invent?

blech. We don't even bother with all that stuff.