I read the book about the five love languages and realized a lot about myself and dh. I'm still trying to figure out dc though. Dh does a lot of things for me or dc to show his love. He'll run errands or make special treats or do some chores for dc (so they won't have to), and that's his way of showing his love. That's also how he feels loved, if someone does something for him, i.e., cleans his car, fills it up with gas, mows the lawn, makes him a special treat.
I'm more of the showing affection, listening, encouraging, and spending time together kinda gal. And I love to find the perfect gift for them! And, imagine that, that's also how I feel loved. When someone is affectionate, listens to or spends time with me, or when someone has taken the time to come up with the perfect gift for me, it means more to me than doing one of my everyday chores or errands.
The gift doesn't have to be something from a store either. I recently dug up a bunch of pictures of dd from all of her travels, scanned and/or uploaded them, and put them in an online album for her. It was neat to be able to see her not only grow up in pictures, but also to remember where and when she went here or there. I love putting together slideshows and have done it for my parents' 40th anniversary party, my grandma, dc and dh. I've also made a CD for each dc with their favorite songs (this was before they had iPods).
It's funny because we'll slip into our own favorite expressions of love and forget that it's not his/her love language. So it's almost like we're talking past each other instead of connecting.