Well, it's Thursday morning. Wonder if I'll get any email notifications today.

Thank YOU. I'm very grateful for this forum. It would be nice to have the emails back, but I can survive if I have to without it. I appreciate your willingness to help. Truly. 🌹

I find it interesting that the thread has 156 views but only 20 people voted in the poll.

Thanks for letting me know. I haven't gotten your response yet, but I suppose I could wait a few minutes....

Wonder if I have to start a new thread or if it will send me an email if someone else responds on this thread?

You can use this link at the IRS website.

We got our stimulus check today in the snail mail. I was expecting it mid-June.

Thanks so much for the thread. I just checked my trash and have not received email notifications since April 1st (April Fool's Day joke gone bad?). I submitted a question through the website and have gotten 2 responses. Last one on 5/21 saying it was a known issue and they thought they had it resolved. Not for me. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

I saw this play and later read the script. Speaking with one of the actors, he told me that the play was meant to entertain but also to educate about people with mental disabilities. The Boys Next Door is a play by Tom Griffin, first produced in the 1988/89 season. Set in the Boston area, it deals with four men with various mental disabilities who live in a group home. It takes place over roughly a two-month period and consists of brief vignettes about the men's lives. The play provides a humorous commentary on the men's lives, taking a surprising turn as Barry's father comes to visit and as Jack (their caretaker) accepts a new job.

I just sent you a message with our school profile.

I am wondering what my password is now. It looks like I'm in. I hadn't forgotten my password, but TWTM thought I did. First, I tried changing it to the same one, then I tried changing it to a new one. Am I in? Please say yes. Yay! I'm in. What a relief. I may not post so much anymore, but I'm around. This is about the only place I frequent online.

I didn't know there was a possibility of getting direct deposit since we've paid via paper check for years. I just tried the Get My Payment. Haven't filed 2019, so used 2018 numbers, and it says "The information you have entered does not match our records. Please try again. " 🤔 Okay then.

re: need to control Although my df was the alcoholic, I feel that my control issues stem more from dm. Maybe it was her personality. Maybe it was her way of controlling what she could (her dc vs her dh). I dunno. Dm converted to born again christianity when I was a teenager. I feel the need to say that df never told me I had to pick up a drink, but dm told me plenty that I needed to believe what she believed or I would burn in the fires of hell for all eternity. Df never tried to control, but dm definitely did. So, does my defect of character (ie.control) stem from the alcoholism or the co-dependent? Maybe just the overall system. <shrug>

A functional family is a family of origin that basically equips a child with the emotional, intellectual, and relationship skills to deal with life as an adolescent and as an adult. · Emotional – recognize what I feel, put labels on my feelings, and tell other people what I feel. Conversely, I have the capacity to care about what others feel, to listen to their feelings and respond. · Intellectual – think clearly and accurately without major denial; how to see reality more or less for what it is. · Relationship – relate in a productive manner with other human beings in relationships These notes comes from a lecture I listened to by Terence Gorski. I have never read any of his books, but his lecture made a huge impact on me. It put into words vague ideas in my head and helped me pinpoint the work I needed to do. He went on to discuss the characteristics of dysfunctional relationships, the characteristics of functional relationships, and the steps to move from unhealthy to healthy relationships

I have some of this attitude. I am 1 of 8 siblings. We are all intelligent and educated, and I do think that helps. We are all fairly responsible and functional adults (so far), but I do wonder who will carry the torch. Df was a functional alcoholic. When I started attending ACA meetings, I thought many people were really messed up, and I didn't feel at home right away. But, I had my own issues that I needed to work on, maybe not as many as others, so I stayed and learned how to address my defects of character. My over-responsibility comes from the need to control the outcome. Also, wanting desperately to make the right choices. Maybe some from growing up Catholic as well. I realized over time that I got angry with people for 2 reasons: either they were stepping on me or they were not doing what I wanted them to do (I could not control them). I realized in the first case, I needed to not allow people to step on me. In the second case, I had no control over others, and I had to let it go. The Serenity Prayer helped me here. If you want to PM me, I could email you some material.

Both dh and I are children of alcoholics. We both found ACA meetings extremely helpful, but we attended meetings with strict guidelines. Counseling is/was super expensive and not as helpful for me. I am the over-responsible one. Dh is responsible, but not overly responsible. On my way out, may try to post more later.

Apparently I can get a lower rate if one or both of us agree to be monitored for fast acceleration/deceleration, speeding, gosh knows what else. It will even beep at me if I'm not driving well. Kind of creeps me out, but for a discount I'll consider it. They monitor for first 3 months of 6 month policy. Anybody have it?

Yes, thank you.

I don't know the difference between health insurance and health care coverage. Would you please elaborate? Thanks.

The very day dh became eligible for Medicare, a salesman came knocking on our door wanting to sign him up for a Medicare Advantage plan. I wish I had gotten his business card because I believe that's illegal or at least frowned upon. MA plans are very competitive here in FL. And the sales folks get a kickback for signing people up. My sister is a Medicare advocate in NY. She says, in general, people who are wealthier or sicker go for traditional Medicare and people who are healthier or poorer go for Medicare Advantage plans. One idea about using the Affordable Care Act is to have only a small income so that you get a premium tax credit. If you have saved and take a large amount of cash out, and have just a small income until age 65, you can get the premium tax credit. However, as Carol in Cal. pointed out earlier, it's a risk to depend on the ACA because it's still controversial. That's why I'm working. I'm petrified to go without employer sponsored health care. Same as your dh, I'm confident we would be fine financially. Seems like a contradiction, but there you have it.

We saw Knives Out over Christmas. I don't see many movies partially because I'm a G-rated kind of girl. I had read the reviews of Knives Out and was a little leery, but the offensive bits were few and far between and quick. All 3 of us enjoyed it. I thought it was amusing/entertaining and clever. A murder mystery but also a spoof of murder mysteries.

Around 1986, when I was 25 or so, I had PCOS (detected by ultrasound). I was normal weight and omnivore. My periods had always been extremely irregular and very heavy for the first day or two when I did have them. I had surgery. They cut me open "bikini cut" and cut off 1/4 of my ovary and called me cured. Eventually, they started doing that surgery laparoscopically (sp?). Eventually, they started using lasers I think. My periods stayed irregular until I got pregnant at 34 without any problem. After I had my son, my periods became very regular. Yay. FWIW: I was on bcp for maybe a year in college, but never liked putting drugs into my body. I went to NFP (Natural Family Planning) classes at the local Catholic church around 24 and used NFP to avoid/achieve pregnancy until menopause. Definitely facial hair. I had regular electrolysis appts.

I feel blessed to have been introduced to The Well Trained Mind when my son was young and to have these boards for support during our homeschooling years. Thanks you.

Ds came home for a week during the summer and a week at Christmas. That's it. He was very involved in basketball. We never expected anything different. We are in FL. He is in CO. 2000 miles. 4hr flight. The school was a terrific fit academically, athletically, and financially. ETA: We spent some time visiting during summers and basketball season. It was very strange in May, leaving CO and not knowing when I'd see him again. We are going for Christmas, but I didn't know it then.

Ds turned 24 this week. He graduated in May this year after 5 years with bachelor and master degrees. We helped him move into his own apartment the day after graduation. He hasn't lived with us since he moved away (out of state) to college. He started his post-graduation full-time job a few weeks after graduation. We gifted him dad's old 2006 vehicle he'd been driving. We paid for his first 6 months of "solo" car insurance. I took him off my work insurance when he got his own insurance through work. We haven't discussed cell phone yet but we will over Christmas. So, 7 months after graduation, he is completely self-supporting (except cell phone) and has repaid us $2000/$6000 loaned for graduate school. Feels like a brag, but you asked. 😉 I use to tell him that my goal was that he be happy, responsible, and self-supporting. It helps that he went STEM.