Surely I'm not the first to think of this, so if anyone else has heard of anything similar to this, please point me in that direction.
I'm struggling with my older constantly pecking at each other; neither want to do anything because they are afraid of doing more than the other one. They ignore each other when someone asks for help, they sometimes make things more difficult for the other (moving the thing they know the other one needs, or dropping it on the floor instead of handing it off, just blatant disrespect for each other). I want to change this.
I need to come up with something (a project of some kind) that requires them both to work on it. Obviously, I don't want it to take TOO long, like the whole summer because they would lose interest. but I need it to take longer than a day, or even a week, so they can really grasp the issue with them not working together. I need it to be something completely independent, so the finishing of the project doesn't hinge on me stepping in at all to finish it. I need it to be something they both would be extremely excited about doing, or at least motivation enough to keep at it, and it needs to be something where they are required to help each other, work together, not snipe and snark about who did what and how much and whose working harder etc.
ever heard of anything like that?