I looked at the other picture she sent and it’s both arms and whole trunk. Dd said it was small this morning.

My granddaughter. That is her arm but she also has some on her back but more spaced out. It is raised. I’m so far removed from childhood rashes I can’t even think of what it could be.

Yes and no. More comical at this point.

We did Christmas yesterday. There’s always next year! Unless he forgets 😂

Lovely! Mine is homemade by a family friend. I’ve had it since I was a toddler.

that my stocking is empty. 🙄 One of our adult kids started filling it 3 years ago when she comes over for our Christmas because it occurred to her. He announced to everyone that he noticed and they were all, “yeah, who did you think was supposed to fill it?”

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmC2NZwpssn/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

You can filter words so that the email goes into a separate folder in email. Things I don’t want seen go in “Notes” in gmail. You can also just delete the email as soon as it comes in. It usually with a couple of minutes. Then go to trash and hit “delete forever” Also archive the order as others have mentioned.

It’s contraindicated for our relationship. We’ve both gone separately.

I went the silent route. Out loud anyway.😂

He came home last night and said, “I’m home but I guess you don’t give a $@?!.” 🙄 Okay.

Right. And I did not say I wouldn’t call. I did think about it a couple of times. I think because I did bristle at his no sleep comment it made it easier to forget. By the time I remembered, I thought, “oh, he’s asleep anyway.” I didn’t take it seriously because it wouldn’t matter to me if someone called or the fact that I don’t relate to not being able to sleep. By this post, I understand that some people do have trouble with that. I also know that if I decide to set a boundary, it doesn’t matter in the least how I say it. People like him don’t take kindly to any boundary, no matter how nicely it is set. That being said, I will absolutely think about how I phrase things because I admit I’m over dealing with his crap so it comes out sometimes. But, I do want to be the best me. I did not need to make a judgment on his feelings.

There kind of is that subtext, in this situation and others. When I told him where I was going he exclaimed, “At 6 o’clock at night?” Lol. Like, it’s not 2 in the morning.

Yes. No. He’ll mention later he went to xyz or whatever while he was off. If he didn’t call me at the time I was driving last night, it’s likely he wouldn’t even have known I went anywhere at all. Thank you for this. When I have anxiety about things or worry I don’t put it on another person to fix.

We also have cameras that he can check. And does. I feel like if someone can find the answer on their own they should. Yeah, I’m broken.

I did not take it seriously that he actually couldn’t sleep. It’s not like I have never texted when I’ve arrived somewhere. It’s the can’t sleep that threw me. I’m perfectly willing to admit it was a flight response to something I felt was manipulative but not a conscious choice to be a brat.

I just woke up to so many replies I didn’t expect. I’ll try to get to them soon, but thank for sharing that some of you have trouble sleeping if you don’t know that everyone is accounted for. I used to worry incessantly about this with my kids and something changed. I have a very lax attitude about knowing where people are. I saw several “in an otherwise healthy marriage” comments. That’s not this one. Because of his behavior, my go to is I’m being manipulated. His reaction when I said it’s not normal escalated pretty quickly. I can see that’s not the kindest thing to say. I can also see that I think I’m broken. Lol. I sleep quite peacefully all week because I don’t have to deal with him.

Adding that I didn’t not call as a purposeful choice. I got home after he would have been asleep anyway and I am notoriously forgetful, besides. I’m really curious about the not sleeping, though.

Not really a good title but I can’t think of anything better. Person A stays away during the work week. Person B decides to go shopping at night. The two have a conversation while Person B is driving to shop. Person A says “call me when you get home or I won’t sleep, not knowing if you’re home.” Person B says “That’s not normal.” Person A says they worry about Person B and repeats they want to know Person B is home safe. Person B says they understand being worried but it’s not normal or healthy to not be able to sleep if you don’t know they’re home. Person A gets agitated and says “do what you want.” Person B is shopping for hours and does not call after getting home. Is this a typical situation in marriages that you can’t sleep if you don’t know someone got home? I understand calling to say “hey I made it home safe. But to put the lack of sleep on another person? Maybe Person B (me) is a monster?

This is the answer. I am one of those that leaves the timer on 2 seconds.

Malicious compliance. Love it!

I love makeup and appreciating the artistry that other women can do with it. I’m jealous of beautiful, winged liner. My hooded eyes could never. 😂 I wear more now that I did when I was younger because I’m about to enter the job market at 50. I still don’t wear a lot lot but I feel I look nicer with it. Pretty much all the reasons Quill posted. Comments from women in my life (MIL and stepmom) used to bother me. Without fail, upon seeing me, MIL would say I look tired. Stepmom told me that my little sister wouldn’t need makeup like me. I don’t wear it because if them but they sure played apart in my self-esteem when I was younger. I spend most of my getting ready time on skincare and that has helped tremendously with how my skin looks with and without makeup. There are lots of cosmetic things that people do but they don’t seem to be an issue like makeup.

I just spent a week with influenza A + people last week. I took 500 mg of C 3x/day and 50mg of zinc in the morning. When I got home Sunday (I was across the country) I started elderberry tincture. No sickness for me but my husband started with it on the drive home Friday. He is now full blown feverish and sick. Not sure why I typed so much about that. LOL . C, zinc, elderberry. And lots of water.

Yes, so good! Adding this to my list of songs.

He thinks that I’m alright. I have stopped bringing things up because it goes no where. No grievances, no problem. IME. I also like the interpretation of “she’s just alright” because that’s how they like to make us feel.