We're landlords and it boggles my mind that he'd wait months to address issues and really doesn't seem to care how this affects you or his property. Water damage is serious!!! One of our tenants reported a slight leak in one of the bedroom ceilings and our maintenance guy was there within 24 hours. There was a problem with the roof which he fixed a few days later when he could work it into his schedule. I guess we could have waited a few months and let it turn into a mold and rotting wood problem. Uh, no. I'd report it and emphasize how dangerous it is, the crack, the mold, all of it. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

How wonderful! I have a DD with similar struggles and this year she went back to college full time. She's doing very well. Congrats to your daughter! Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Praying! Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Sure, I've done it. I found a college friend that way and even wrote her a snail mail letter. Sadly, she did not reply. I see it as researching, not stalking. It's stalking if you become obsessed with someone. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

My husband has had surgery on both of his knees, ten years apart, for a torn meniscus. He had good results both times and was glad he did it. He didn't try cortisone shots. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

I'm so sorry, Quill! 😞 Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

So so sorry to hear this! Hoping it's Lyme. {{{Hugs}}} Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Dh and I thought texting was odd 10+ years ago. Why would anyone do that?? Then our older kids started getting phones and texting us, so we learned to do it. It's very handy for quick messages. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

I still think she should set up a way to remind herself to check her FB messages. Either have her phone send her a notification or set a daily alarm. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Tell her to set herself a daily reminder, phone alarm or something, to check her FB messages. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

It sounds very hard. Keep your very favorite things, the ones you will use and the ones you love the most, and let the rest go. Find a way to honor what you do keep: a special place for a religious statue, a framed piece of music he composed, maybe a special photo album with pictures of some things you don't want to keep but do want to remember. Your love for him won't go away just because you give away his material possessions. {{{Hugs}}} Aimee. I'm going through the same thing. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Me too, Polly. Books and fabric. Good luck with your books and the rest of the things you are decluttering. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Me too, Quill! I am so ready to get rid of more stuff. I don't remember my mom ever cleaning out a drawer or closet. She'd give away things to people who needed them, but she never did a big purge. She was a BIG shopper and bought multiples of things to give as gifts, so lots of brand new stuff is being given to our adult kids. She was also very sentimental. Neither of my parents could imagine giving away something given to them as a gift, and they received gifts from SO many people. Mom saved all the floral cards from family funerals of decades ago! She tended to put things away in closets and never look at them again. I know my parents were not doing any of this to burden me. They were loving and kind-hearted. But it does burden me. No way do I want our kids similarly burdened. I think our kids' generation, for the most part, does not accumulate stuff to the same degree. They move around more, and they don't have many printed photos, handwritten letters, or greeting cards. Their memories are preserved digitally. Mine will be, too. Maybe we have turned a corner. Minimalism is big right now. Or are we just in a cycle? Will the pendulum swing back? Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

My dh and a couple of our grown kids are helping. With the bigger stuff yes, the help is good to have, but I'm the one who needs to go through the photos and memorabilia. No one else would recognize who the people are in the photos, or know what other stuff I would want to keep. I'm getting through it. It just takes so much longer to sift through boxes of photos, cards, and letters than to, say, empty clothes out of a closet. But I'll get there. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Yes, I plan to do the same thing with Mom's writings. I also have the diary she kept at age 12. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

OK, I just found Mom's little notebook diary of a trip to NYC and Paris that she took with her sister in the 60's. They saw Barbra Streisand in Funny Girl and she wrote how impressive the show was and that it "made us hope Barbra is around a long time." 🙂 Some of these finds are worth all the sorting. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

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Oh my goodness!! We did find some old savings bonds that are worth a few times their face value but not in the tens of thousands. Wow. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

Just found my birth announcement that my mom sent my grandma and grandpa, and I'm 55!! This is like an archaeological dig. It's kind of cool seeing a few things like that, but if I hadn't found them I wouldn't miss them, right? Makes me want to dump whole boxes. Thanks everyone for commiserating and sharing your stories! Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

We have a few very old post cards from my husband's family but we have kept them. If we decide to get rid of them I'll check Etsy or eBay. We'll be having an estate sale to get rid of what is left of my parents' stuff, after family members take what they want. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

I'm sorry for what you've been going through! That is a LOT of dishes. I have the same reaction as you. I want to pare down more, not have things be a burden, and not have our kids be weighed down by excessive stuff after we are gone. It's Lent for us, too. Loved the quote! I may have to post that one on the bathroom mirror. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

I know others have gone through this before me, and many much worse. I don't understand at all why anyone would keep Christmas and birthday cards from people who just signed their names. ??? My mom had several albums from three overseas trips full of photos of flowers and plates of food. I kept one photo of her and chucked the rest. Hope I don't sound heartless. I'm so glad she got to travel, but they were her memories, not mine, and she is not here to look at those albums. I am just tired. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

My father died in January (Mom has been gone several years) and we are slowly cleaning out the house. They weren't hoarders who would qualify for the TV show but oh my, the stuff! The clothes and books and linens and kitchen stuff is bad enough but the boxes and boxes of photos, greeting cards, and papers are going to send me over the edge!! Decades of Christmas cards, letters, photos of people I don't know, etc etc. I am just tired of it and I have several more boxes. We still have work to do on the house, too. Two bedrooms, kitchen, garage, and covered patio have not been touched. My grandma lived with us for years and was a tidy person, but she had some deep drawers full of old cards and letters too! If only Marie Kondo had been around back then, and they had read her book. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

I prefer to get rid of things all at once. Why not try giving away a few boxes or bags to the thrift store/charity of your choice and then see how you feel about it? It's very freeing for me to drop off a load of donations. Less stuff to clean, sort, store, etc. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk

The Speed Queen is 3.3 cubic feet. Sent from my XT1635-01 using Tapatalk