I set a timer for 5 minutes. :blushing: Rest for my weary ears. (They whisper to each other and I pretend I don't hear them.) When the timer rings they pick up a loud as ever!

While Dh and I chop up garlic and take it like a pill with a glass of water ( thank you for this method, it is so much better than chewing it !), how do I serve/hide/present raw garlic to a young child ?

I would not have been responsible enough at that age.

:grouphug:We're in the same boat. My parents have been fabulous once they picked their jaw off the floor! It helps to have at least someone understand. These children are in such a minority.

I have enjoyed and learned so much with "How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

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Charlotte Church? Very classic. Does she understand french? La Compagnie Creole is fun to listen to.

Do you know about Robeez? Leather all around, confortable elastic behind ankle, cute designs.

Lot's of food for thought. Thank you so much!

Thank you. Yes, she is my first ! I've tried speaking to her about it at a separate time and she agreed to letting DS4 get a turn being first with a smile and a wink ( since the whole scenario is staged anyway), but when came the time, she hurried as much as she could all the while assuring me she couldn't help herself for being fast...or she hides. It's for snowsuits by the way. I agree about consequences, although I wish I could speak to her heart to change some behaviours without having to use the ol' "stick/carrot" approach. I end up punishing her sooo much more than DS4. Thank you for your perspective.

I would appreciate some advice about my DD6 behaviour. While she has many wonderful qualities, I am struggling with her habit of insisting on being first/winning. Board games are a disaster as she sabotages the game when she sees someone else is ahead, Legos apparently all belong to her, etc. She is a very smart little girl, again waaay top of her class, with minimal effort. Our point of friction these days is getting dressed to go outside. While getting dressed rapidly is great, DS4 would also like a turn being first (although he's much more layed back). I think it is important for her to come in second graciously and for my little guy to sometimes be first. If by any chance he is ahead of her she throws a tantrum, her world comes crashing down and it is all blamed on me. It is so obnoxious and I am weary and well, angry... All advice, brutal or gentle, is appreciated! TIA, Isabelle