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  1. Our husbands have caring and compassionate wives! Thank you for sharing your experiences. Seekinghim45, we seem to be walking in similar shoes! Part of the guilt comes from feeling like our family is a burden to him, not that he has ever said it in such a way. Zoobie, you said it perfectly. He just doesn't take care of himself. It's so hard to watch!
  2. My spouse seems so unhappy to me. We have talked about the heaviness that weighs around him. It is acknowledged that work is very stressful, but this reverberates through to every aspect of his life. This has been going on for at least 10 years. He maintains that he is not depressed. We care for each other deeply. How do I allow myself to live happily without guilt?
  3. She was very angry about DH and I having access to her texts. Made it quite clear that she was determined to get her way! Which is why I feel it will be very important that she understands that we are on her side, not against her.There is much tension over this issue.
  4. Thank you to all for your advice. Joining instagram, discussing safety,obtaining passwords and educating myself are a priority. In many aspects of her life she has shown to be very responsible, she views my access to her accounts/ texts as a breach of privacy. She is very insulted. She has not posted, seen or done anything objectionable ( other than the recent password secrecy), I am concerned about outside influences. Until what age do I have access to her phone? 14, 16 ? Until she is no longer a minor? Going from a Khan academy and Coursera household to largely unmonitored social media feels like a leap in the wrong direction! Thanks for your advice, off to get informed.
  5. My 12yo has a newly acquired cell phone, purchased with her own money. We have set limits to how much time she is allowed on it, as any other electronic device/ screen time is 1 hour/ day. However, what she chooses to view on Instagram is of concern to me as she now belongs to phan groups and has followers of all sorts. She has set a password to her instagram account that she refuses to give to us! She currently has lost all phone priviledges. Do you read texts meant for friends and new online (only)"best friends"? We need to sit down with her asap, set rules for phone/computer usage! I am fearful of this new freedom, watching youtube videos on her own.. She is still so young! I am not technologically inclined! How do you keep your tween from viewing junk info?
  6. Tall canadian girl here! 5'11" (sooo tired of winter btw!) Do you have a Reitmans store where you live? Their yoga pants have a 34" inseam. Otherwise, Eddie Bauer has a Tall section. I wear shorts or below the knee bottoms from Costco.
  7. Raising a Teenager, Raising a Son, Raising a Daughter, by Don and Jeanne Elium.
  8. I just finished making a batch and used the classic Nanaimo Bar recipe from "Canadian Living". Yum! The kids and I love this recipe. If you can't access it online, I can write it out for you.
  9. I enjoy using SuperTracker. It is from the US Department of Agriculture. It provides a thorough dietary analysis and the opportunity to keep track of your activity level. Under the tab labelled "My Reports" you will find a comprehensive analysis (vitamins, minerals, protein, carbohydrates, etc). I think the daily caloric intake allowance is a little generous but other than that, this site has been very helpful in keeping me accountable!
  10. Hi AimeeM, I have had heart rate irregularities for the past 15 years.(started in my mid twenties) I have mentioned it to the doctor in recent years, and, like you, have undergone a battery of tests; ECG, holter, loop recorder, echo, stress test and a cardiac MRI. Treatment options were discussed and agreed upon. The term "hormone" can mean so many components circulating in your body, I don't believe it to equate menopause. I am prone to arrythmias in the week before my period, when under stress and when I am sick. Caffeine and over the counter cold medicines are a big no-no for me. I know that about myself now and it doesn't worry me as much. Hope you find answers soon.
  11. My grandfather has found a few over the years either in a shoe or a boot.
  12. 1. drinking lots of water 2. minimal handwashing 3. Cerave cream twice a day There are a few Cerave products, the cream is very soothing.
  13. Ooh, I love the cold. In fact, winter is my season for long walks after supper. I love the snow and the cold.(I'm told I am part golden retriever!) I can also appreciate that it is hard on the body. When I don't feel like sitting in an ice cold car, I bring hot coco with me, wear my ski mitts so that the steering wheel doesn't freeze my hands. Do you have hand warmers( little packets of heat)? Layers, layers!
  14. BellaMama

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    Clover Leaf has a low sodium Sockeye Salmon that yields 18 grams of protein and 85 mg of sodium for 1/2 can. It takes getting used to, but I enjoy it now.
  15. Have you tried Cerave ? It is an excellent cream that was recommened by my dermatologist. Less greasy than aquaphor yet very moisturizing.
  16. Hi JoAnn, Recognizing your feelings are more intense than usual is a very big step indeed. What has helped me is talking to DH about how I feel, starting the conversation with the fact that I am not thinking the way I usually do, that in a few days, I'll be in my usual mental state. Then I go through the list of irritants, one by one, describing why I'm angry along the way while DH very patiently listens! Poor guy! Simply venting makes me feel so much better. Sometimes he apologizes for having been a jerk, sometimes he tells me I am out of line. That is most often the case, it is quite evident as I go down my list. I have a good cry by myself and move forward. The day is so much easier to deal with when DH has my back. I find this time particularly challenging as I don't sleep as well during that time. I am up at 4Am for 5 days then go back to my regular sleep pattern. PMS can be very challenging. I hope you get the relief you need! Isabelle
  17. Have you seen a physiotherapist? Perhaps some strengthening exercises could help.
  18. Are his BMs regular? Could he be constipated? Gas bubbles can be painful.
  19. You know, regarding friendships and how she treats her siblings... I used to think along the lines of "if she can't even treat her brother (one of the most important relationship in her life, at least to me) with respect, than forget about being friends with other people" ! Well... that has changed. While siblings are very important, peers are too. They are very important at that age. She will learn to interact equal to equal, not always in the role of the big sister. She is developing her identity through her own eyes but through those of her peers as well and that is OK. That she is thriving socially in her new environment is fantastic! Only 2 weeks in and she is already invited to a party. That, as a parent, is something to rejoice in. Here is the part where I might land straight on your enemy list but, I think she should go to the party. This morning's behaviour can have a different consequence. Have a talk with her about her behaviour and your concerns tell her your expectations/ then consequences. I think preventing her from going to the party will only be making her resentful. She sounds like a lot of work (I have a 10 yr old a well, 'nuff said!) and needs guidance in many areas, but I don't think the two are related. She might have a better attitude inside the home if she has a positive experience as a individual outside the home. The eldest child has the toughest job! :grouphug:
  20. Hi Lisa, 1 week post surgery is not a very long recovery time, particularly if you lost a fair amount of blood. A transfusion will raise your counts immediately but now you must produce new hemoglobin on your own. If you don't have a history of anemia, giving yourself time to recover(a few weeks), eating good quality foods (with a supplement of iron and vitamin C) and getting plenty of rest are what you need for your counts to go back up. Hope you feel better soon!
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