SquirrellyMama Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 I hope when I'm a grandparent I can remember this struggle, and do better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwi mum Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 :grouphug: I'm right there with you. After 17 years they still do not get that cramming 21 people (including 9 under age 10) into a room to open Christmas presents is not going to work for us. Apparently it is all my kids fault for ruining Christmas. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 Right! I keep meaning to start a running list of notes to my future self. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rutamattatt Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 My husband and I have a list: "What We Will Remember When We Have Grandkids". We have one particular grandparent who seems to think that if she envisions a holiday or gathering a certain way, that is how it is going to play out no matter how we try to explain the pitfalls. Sigh... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 (edited) My husband and I have a list: "What We Will Remember When We Have Grandkids". We have one particular grandparent who seems to think that if she envisions a holiday or gathering a certain way, that is how it is going to play out no matter how we try to explain the pitfalls. Sigh... I think we might be siblings. Edited November 12, 2017 by BarbecueMom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 13, 2017 Author Share Posted November 13, 2017 We're dealing with understanding that all personalities have value. And, just because someone is different than you it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them. So, please don't say, "You never did like xyz, something must be wrong with you." That last comment was said to me, not the grandchild. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted November 13, 2017 Share Posted November 13, 2017 In my experience as people age, they tend to surround themselves with folks just like themselves. If it’s not all family members it church or clubs or whatever. Because they don’t have to work due to employment they forget that it takes all kinds to make a world. So their views get kind of closed of what is normal and accepted. That’s what I’ve seen in older people close to me. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted November 13, 2017 Share Posted November 13, 2017 My mantra for my grown kids and their children is, what would you like to do and what would you like to avoid? Then act on those things to the best of my ability - even if I’m rolling my eyes... :-) Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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