bethben Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 So, I'm talking to MIL about how proud I am of my ds's initiative to have a lawn raking business in the neighborhood. He's conducted himself in a very professional manner with his clients and made sure they were satisfied before he accepted payment. He's one of those kids who will be an entrepreneur someday (well, I guess he is now). Anyhow, MIL says, "And that is why he should be in school! He could be the class president, a leader in the classroom, a leader in his school! You should really send him to school." So, apparently, he's well socialized in her opinion so therefore, he needs to use his excellent socialized behavior with the rest of the world! Yes, he is a leader. He has all sorts of ideas for fun with the pack of neighborhood boys he hangs out with. Yes, he could be one of those kids who leads the pack and is when he's around others. But, I still homeschool because knowing that he is a leader, I want him to be able to continue to think out of the box and learn how to follow God so that he is not "just" a leader, but an excellent one who understands how to first be submitted to God. Somehow, homeschooling has gotten him to this good point in his life, why would we want to change that. Have you ever run into this argument before? Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 bethben: So, I'm talking to MIL about how proud I am of my ds's initiative to have a lawn raking business in the neighborhood. He's conducted himself in a very professional manner with his clients and made sure they were satisfied before he accepted payment. He's one of those kids who will be an entrepreneur someday (well, I guess he is now). Anyhow, MIL says, "And that is why he should be in school! He could be the class president, a leader in the classroom, a leader in his school! You should really send him to school." So, apparently, he's well socialized in her opinion so therefore, he needs to use his excellent socialized behavior with the rest of the world! Oh, that's hilarious. Maybe he is only like this because he is home and has to use his own initiative - something that is often removed by institutional schooling. Did Grandma ever think of that? Yes, he is a leader. He has all sorts of ideas for fun with the pack of neighborhood boys he hangs out with. Yes, he could be one of those kids who leads the pack and is when he's around others. But, I still homeschool because knowing that he is a leader, I want him to be able to continue to think out of the box and learn how to follow God so that he is not "just" a leader, but an excellent one who understands how to first be submitted to God. Somehow, homeschooling has gotten him to this good point in his life, why would we want to change that. Yes. Have you ever run into this argument before? Not really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karis Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 Sadly... Yes, yes I have. What do you do with that kind of statement? (other say "WOW..." and shake your head incredulously because THAT takes the cake!?!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psychmom Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 That makes no sense...but I think for someone dead set against hs, they will use whatever you tell them, however illogical the argument is. I guess I'm just glad my MIL is silent on the issue of hs (other than her initial comment, "Oh that's a shame."). :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 I think it is more about your MIL advancing her "they need to go to p.s" agenda than a well-thought out argument. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bethben Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 She's been fine with it so far, but I've seen a shift since my oldest homeschooler is now junior high age. She wonders how I can keep challenging him. Um, this is the 6th grader that is doing Algebra? And I was a secondary math education major, and one of my good friends who I am co-oping science with got a degree in secondary science education? But, even without all that, ds seems to be doing pretty good. Even when I told her that despite being a "good" junior high, there are definite issues there that make most parents cringe when they know their child is junior high age. She said, "well, that's life - it's in most places." Nope. I've never heard of my husband getting beat up in the bathroom because that's the only place free from anyone in authority. Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 My middle one is a leader. She is now leading activities in our church. She organized all kinds of activities for the summer college group and now she is organizing a can drive for Halloween which the young adults and the high school group will participate in. She never needed to go to school to lead either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 I hate being told I "have to" or "should" do sonething. Meh. Give meddling MIL a pat and say, "I'll give that all the consideration it deserves." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carriede Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 He will indeed be out in the world in a few short years. He'll be able to lead his peers then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alphabetika Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 Not that one specifically, but along the same lines, the "homeschoolers are the brightest kids so when you take them out of school you're making the schools worse, not better," or some such nonsense.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 He will indeed be out in the world in a few short years. He'll be able to lead his peers then. :iagree: This is a good response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southcarolinamom Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 If he's dealing with grown-ups in his lawn care business, and handling himself well, he's already a leader !! We're raising our children to be productive members of society, among other things .... and it sounds like he is well on his way, without any help from the P.S. system. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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