Purple Cat Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I have written previously about difficulties I am having with the therapist my DS6 started seeing a year ago. To summarize, she called my son and his twin, my daughter, "freakishly intelligent" and told then "other people were normal, they were the different ones." She also told me and my children together that I had "no rules for my children when I started." (Absurdly untrue.) She told me she worked on the gravitational insecurity she acknowledges my son has by dangling him near a window of a high-rise building and telling him he could trust her. She frames his continued anxiety as "difficulty and being slow trusting adults." She wants him medicated because he feels anxious when she dangles him near the window. To add to it, she repeatedly adamantly and persistently tells me that I have to teach my kindergarteners to write NOW. (They have significant fine-motor delays despite intensive and prolonged OT.) She tells me my son "hates home schooling" and he really needs to go to PS. And all that was BEFORE her disrespectful treatment of me intensified. Now, she does things like learning that my daughter has a wart ORDERS me to get it removed IMMEDIATELY because it's highly contagious. I tell her I already am taking care of it, only to have her respond by even more emphatically telling me that I must take care of it immediately and admonishing me to be sure I take care of it right now several more times. I did tell her about six weeks ago that I was terminating my son's therapy because I preferred to treat gravitational insecurity with occupational therapy, not psychotropic medicine. (He had previously had 4 1/2 years of OT for SPD, with grav. issues now emerging for the first time. His sister's sensory issues flopped, too, at one point from grav. insecurity to sensory-seeking.) I also pointed out the reason I had brought him to therapy -- unhappiness following several very stressful situations/changes -- greatly had improved. We're still seeing her, right now, though, because she offered to do IQ testing with ins. reimbursement. She also was willing to test in a way that minimized the impact of their fine-motor delays and to use out of level tests and extended norms. WONDERFUL! GREAT!!!! But the disrespectful treatment of me has escalated during our weeks of testing. (Maybe one of the kids repeated something I said about how inappropriate it was to call small children freaks or to use medicine to treat gravitational insecurity?) Anyway, I have to meet with this woman to get the test results. She won't just give them to me. I did send her an e-mail asking her not to state the reason for therapy was my complete lack of rules for my children because it was untrue. She apologized for "my feeling offended." She had no response to my telling her that while I appreciated her willingness to discuss my children's test results that I had strong feelings about how it was done and did not want them to use terms like "freakishly intelligent" either self-referentially or with others. I generally find myself explaining, defending, justifying to no avail. I find myself doing so in the face of, frankly, specious, ill-thought, spurious assertions that she pounds like they are divine revelations of truth. E.g. "PS is best" for a little boy with sig. sensory issues, sig gross motor delays, sig giftedness" in a poor, rural, provincial school district. I don't ever plan on returning again. How would you handle the meeting? How would you handle the boundary violations and the disrespect? Silently sit with an eye-brow raised and refuse to respond? Say I need to focus on the test results and refuse to discuss other matters? As you can probably tell, I'M BEYOND DONE!!! Thank you for reading and letting me vent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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