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  1. Thank you! I just called them and explained what occurred.
  2. I switched homeowner's insurance and about 7 months after the change to a very good company discovered that I had sustained hail damage during a storm that occurred during the period that I still had coverage with my original insurer. The incident happened while I had coverage with Company A. Many months after I changed to Company B, I discovered that I had sustained damage that occurred while coverage was with Company A. I filed a claim with Company A, and Company A paid the claim. (The area had been declared a disaster area due to this storm.) I am looking at changing my policy with Company B to a cheaper policy. (They are reputable but the rates I am paying have skyrocketed during the last two years.) Company B is asking me to complete a new application to get this cheaper policy. The application asks about claims during the past 5 years. Won't Company B already know about the claim with Company A? Don't they check everything when they get ready to renew your policy? Is there a chance I will be denied because I had filed a claim with Company A for damage I learned of after purchasing the Company B policy? Thank you!
  3. Thank you for all the insightful comments and suggestions. I really appreciate it since I hadn't thought how the documentation that e-mail provides that I've established "no contact" actually would be useful, if not potentially necessary. Thank you so much again!
  4. Sure. I'd get an OT evaluation. And I also would try not to sweat handwriting. I think the beauty of homeschooling is that you can tailor school to meet your child's needs. I started kindergarten with my twins at age 6. We didn't do any writing that year because, despite 4 1/2 and 5 years of OT respectively, my children were extremely resistant to putting pens, pencils, colors, paints, etc. in their hands AND were extremely delayed with their fine-motor skills as a result. We did all work orally and/or I wrote for my child. In 1st grade, we worked a little more on handwriting, using Handwriting Without Tears, but didn't really push handwriting. But now, at the start of 2nd grade, I marvel that my children actually are writing pretty decently. I've felt very good about my decision to delay "pushing" handwriting because I feel my children have developed those necessary skills, though a little later than most without a great deal of agony that I expect we would have had if I had pushed handwriting in K. I'll add that gross motor skills and especially shoulder strength are pivotal for handwriting. We were advised by an OT who specializes in handwriting to emphasize gross motor skills BEFORE even attempting writing. I had my children do gymnastics and swimming, and I think, especially for my son, that added strength greatly facilitated him developing his handwriting abilities. Handstrengthening (working with playdough, picking up items with chopsticks, clothes pins, etc.) are all great in aiding the development of the muscles used in writing. In short, I think I would recommend that you work on these auxiliary tasks (developing handstrength and gross motor skills and shoulder strength) and stop working on handwriting directly for now. And sure, get an OT evaluation if you wish. But especially with a 5 year-old, I don't think you need to sweat the lack of handwriting ability yet, but perhaps respect that she's signaling she's not ready. HTH
  5. I never had her as a friend on facebook. She sends messages via FB, though.
  6. I'm a little old-fashioned in that I don't like having very important "relationship" discussions via facebook chat or e-mail or text messages. A "friend" and I had a very serious issue arise within our relationship regarding her older child's aggressive, violent behavior toward my much smaller and much younger child. She instigated the discussion via e-mail. I responded with a very brief message simply stating that I really needed to talk to her directly and felt uncomfortable having a discussion regarding matters such as that via e-mail. She responded by sending a much longer e-mail "clarifying" the points in her earlier e-mail. I remained very uncomfortable attempting such a discussion via e-mail. We did then talk by phone and my suspicious that her e-mail contained a lot of "careful word choices" that obscured were confirmed. I have had no contact with her since. Having discussed the issue with her directly, I'm very clear in my feelings that I cannot, and do not want to, maintain a relationship with her or her son. (She told me she gave her son no consequences for his actions (which are part of a pattern of very aggressive, violent behavior toward younger children) and denies that anything happened other than my son getting accidentally hit because her son told her the "truth" that nothing happened. Now, I'm getting multiple facebook messages from this woman asking me if I want to remain friends and telling me that she understands if our friendship isn't quite the same. I do NOT want to respond to these messages that I feel are being sent in a forum I consider inappropriate (or at least that makes me feel uncomfortable). I don't like that I'm getting facebook messages (Which to me seem worse than an e-mail) after I have been so clear that this issue is one I have to address directly and not via e-mails. I guess I also don't really want to pick up the phone to directly tell her in response to her e-mails. I don't really want the drama or the energy-waste and time-waste of spelling out what I consider obvious: violent aggressive behavior toward my son that is without acknowledge, apology, and efforts to change creates a situation where we will play no part. We do both belong to a very large co-op, and I've told the kids that we say hello and aren't rude or mean, but we don't really associate with them. (And my son is never alone with them around.) WWYD? Thank you.
  7. The responses I have received here have been so valuable in helping me to process the incident and formulate plans and actions to protect my son. I've appreciated the guidance that has been suggested. I keep feeling that it would be ill-advised for me to detail further actions I've taken, beyond those involving my family and the family of this child and mother. I can appreciate how my silence could be misunderstood as "not" taking further action, and wanted to clarify. I have. I just keep feeling like at least right now, it would be ill-advised to detail that aspect publicly.
  8. I didn't think I could be even more sickened, but I am. I did speak with his mother, and she told me that she had told her older son that she would NOT give him any consequences for anything he did to my son, but that she did want him to tell her what occurred. Can you imagine a more effective way to communicate the irrelevance of his violence toward my son? As you might imagine, he told her little to none of what occurred. He claims they simply were clashing Star Wars sabers and gee, some times, my son might have been hit by accident. She stands by his version. The prolonged, hard sobbing, the bruises all over his body, and his rigidity about exactness and honesty tell a far different story. His younger brother was kicked in the privates after telling the older brother, "Sorry. I had to say something." He told his mother it was simply an accident, and that he never intended to kick his younger brother in the privates. She stands by his claim that it was an accident. The 5 year-old she babysits has been kicked twice in the privates by her older son, once right in front of her. She maintains that the 5 year-old, and his sister who confirmed it, are simply lying that her older son kicked the child in the privates. She told his mother that he was lying because she knew nothing like that had occurred. Funny how everybody else is lying about her son's violence. She had no response to being told that her older son had shoved my daughter against the wall. She had no response to being told that her son threw away my son's robotic toy when he lost a game. Ironically, she wants me to prod my children to see how he played with them on other occasions. (Yet, she believes only exactly what her son told her and dismisses everything my son said as a lie, by yet another child, about her son.) She told me that she doesn't want to say anything to her older son about his assault of my son because she doesn't want him to feel bad. . . . He's too dangerous for us to be around. And the parental response is so sickening that I don't know how to have any type of a relationship with that. To maintain any type of relationship would simply be to validate and agree that nothing happened to my son and to communicate and support that viciously assaulting him is permissible and to be encouraged. I'm thoroughly sickened. As horrific and chilling as this older son's behavior has been, I'm more sickened and horrified by the mother's response.
  9. A heart-felt thank you to all the people who took the time to share their concern and ideas. I appreciate the validation. I spoke with his mother more. She promised him that he would receive no consequences for anything he had done to my son. She just wanted him to tell her. He omitted many, many details (sitting on my son, hitting after taking away my son's weapon -- a toy that when so horribly misused could have injured someone, telling my son he wanted to play this). She stands steadfast by his version that "we were just playing, and gee, I guess we might have gotten a little cared away." She doesn't want to upset him by even asking him about the details that my pathologically honest son gave -- many without even being asked (such as "who started it."). She even denied that her son weighed what he told my children that he weighed, saying last she weighed him he was 8 pounds less, though she adds that he has grown, which to me seems more minimization/denial. I'm chilled to the bone. My son, simply put, could have been killed. I'm ill that I didn't know. Raised with 3 brothers, where I felt like I had seen it all on boys being boys, it never even occurred to me that someone could or would do that to my son, let alone an appreciably older child more than double my son's size. My son is now scared of him. And I think that fear is wise. Thanks for pointing out that even if stayed eyeball to eyeball on my son if the older child was anywhere around that I could never prevent a kick to his privates, etc., because it could be done so fast. Very sad because they really like the younger child.
  10. We have somewhat known some fellow homeschoolers for a year or so, but have recently started becoming better friends, doing a few things together. She has two sons, one almost 3 years older and one same-age child. At the end of a playdate at our house, her younger child came out and said her older son and my son were hitting each other with toy weapons. We immediately went in. My son was sobbing uncontrollably, and did so for some time. Her older son then went in and kicked his younger brother in the private parts, making him cry very hard. My son told me her older son, (age 10), said he wanted my son, (age 7) and him to hit each other until someone gave up. My son is literally less than half his weight. He's teeny for his age and his weight is abnormally low. Her son is 92 pounds; mine is 43 pounds. Her older son took away my son's weapon during this game he suggested and beat him with a weapon 3 or 4 times. Her older son also sat on my son. I was told that very recently her older son kicked a 5 year-old in the privates, twice in a short time-period. I deeply regret not watching the play very, very closely. At the same time, I cannot even fathom that type of behavior. The mom just defends that her son doesn't know his own strength, and while upset over him kicking his brother in the privates, views the weapon fight as both boys just rough-housing. I view it very differently. I'm disturbed that her son would suggest that game and continue beating my son with an object after taking his weapon away, 3 or 4 times. I imagine if a boy/man 200 pounds hit her son that she might feel the chill that is going up my spine. I'm frankly scared that her son has this apparent pattern of such treatment of younger, much smaller children. I find his behavior disturbed and disturbing. I won't ever allow my son to be near him without my eyes on him. I welcome thoughts and reactions. Am I overreacting? Or is this type of behavior as scary as I feel it is? Edited to clarify age. The aggressive child is NOT 8 like some posters had understandably misunderstood before I made the ages explicit.
  11. A big thank you! I also appreciate the validation that the OT's position that it was too late to fix the grip in a kid who has been writing less than a year is absurd.
  12. A big thank you! Where do you find the grips? I looked at Amazon, and it looked like I had to buy like six of one type. Do you know a good place to get a large assortment of individual grips?
  13. My 7 year-old DD had an OT evaluation today. The OT said she isn't holding a pencil properly, but it was too late to do anything about it. That really isn't sounding right to me. I thought there were grips that helped correct improper pencil holds. Any experience or thoughts about this? Thank you
  14. My little kids had a miraculous response to supplements. But then my son became convinced he would choke if he swallowed them. I simply cannot get him to even try to swallow them with yogurt or applesauce. He suggested chewables (smart kid!). Both kids become unglued, though, at even a hint of fish smell or taste. Can anyone recommend some chewable Omega 3 without any fish taste or smell? Thank you!
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