Kirch Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 I'm about 6 1/2 weeks pregnant, which I'm thrilled about. Or at least, I would be if I could relax a bit. It took us almost 3 years to get pregnant (we weren't actively trying the whole time, but we were never preventing) after a very early miscarriage, and I had pretty much come to the conclusion that it wasn't going to happen without some sort of medical intervention. But I'm feeling so much anxiety. I'm 34 now--if something happens this time, what if it takes 3 years again? Or more? Things seem to be going really well so far--no bleeding, lots of lovely pregnancy symptoms (blech). I think my biggest fear is an eptopic pregnancy, which is probably on my mind more since the recent threads here. Any time I feel any kind of a twinge, I worry--which I know is stupid, because it's normal for things to be "twinging" down there right now. But then the non-rational side of me argues that it's still so early that all I'd be feeling right now would probably be twinges anyway . . . Pregnancy hormones and emotions are NOT helping right now--I know I'm being irrational, but I can't seem to talk myself out of it. Ugh. My first doctor's appointment is two weeks from Wednesday (I'll be about 9 weeks along). If I can't snap out of it I'm going to be a basket case by then! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug: and congratulations! I know how hard it can be to struggle with fear at every twinge. I had three miscarriages prior to having my three and I was pretty much a basketcase during my pregnancy with DS9 (and only slightly less frantic with DD). Some things that helped me were deep breathing exercises, listening to CDs of nature sounds (doctor recommended for me at the time), meditation, and verbally telling myself rational thoughts about the normalcy of the twinges and cramps inherent in a healthy pregnancy. It also helped to distract myself with great novels and lots (truly, LOTS) of sitcoms. Honestly though, nothing beats the comfort you will get from hearing the wee one's heartbeat or seeing a perfect ultrasound. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 Will they let you come in earlier? After my m/c I came in right away for the next little one and we did blood draws to check my hormone levels. It may have been unnecessary, but I needed the reassurance. :) I think it's is hard to get through the first one after a m/c, you just don't want to get too excited, but it is exciting. Embrace the moment, love the child who is there now and hope for the very best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skirch Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug: It's hard not to worry once you've had a loss. Once you see baby on the ultra sound and that she's okay, you will be able to relax and enjoy the rest of the pregnancy. We are praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KristenR Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug: No advice but my thoughts are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mbholly Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 First, Congratulations :). Second, I agree with a previous poster, see if you can get an earlier appointment. We had several miscarriages and the truth is I just needed my hand held more after that. When I was last pregmant (with my now 4 year old) I went to the doctor's as soon as I knew I was pregnant. I had an ultrasound at like 5 weeks and it was good to know things were progressing as they should be. If I were you, I'd call the doctor's office and tell them what you posted here. (When I was pregnant, I surely would have been crying when I did it, but I think they are probably used to that). I wish you the best. Pregnancy after a loss is just really emotional and sometimes scary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 Congratulations! And :grouphug: I had a miscarriage and I remember in the early stages of the two pregnancies after, I always looked for the blood to start and almost expected it to be there. It is so difficult. Wishing you all the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Go see your doc. If you can. Get reassured. :grouphug: It is hard after a loss .....I was nervous with my youngest 2 until they were 5......sigh....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirch Posted April 30, 2012 Author Share Posted April 30, 2012 Thank you all. I'm feeling better today. I think part of it was that yesterday was a really feel-yucky day, which makes everything seem so much worse. I think I'm going to try to tough it out two more weeks unless I have a clear sign something's wrong or those twinges get more consistent or painful. It helps to have it out there and not just in my head! Thanks for letting me spill. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 :grouphug: Congrats!! :grouphug:Glad to hear you are feeling better today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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