dragons in the flower bed Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 (edited) A mutual friend introduced us at a coffeehouse. She was wearing all black and crying. I thought, "I can make her laugh." I did. She called me two days later. I ignored the phone. Six days later. I ignored the phone. Ten days later. I locked myself in the closet so I could hear her over my four-year-old and one-year-old. It went uphill from there. The key, I think, was that she was persistent. Every time I went introverted on her and tried to ignore her calls, she refused to take it personally and called and called and called. "I'm bipolar," she screeched at me once in a super cheery tone of voice, spitting the words out at rocket speed, "and I'm manic now but I know what it's like to self-isolate! I won't stop calling! Don't worry! Can I come over after work?" Other friends I met at the secular homeschool support group. Then there's this one friend who I know from here, church, LibraryThing and our local homeschool group, but the first place I met her was a used book sale. She was bouncing an unhappy baby in a sling so she could just get through another box of kidlit before needing to nurse, and her husband was standing nearby with his arms out so she could load him up with books, and her two other kids were playing a very imaginative game using excellent vocabulary, quietly, in a corner of the room. I knew right away she was One Of Us. Edited September 8, 2009 by dragons in the flower bed more content Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 My best friend (other than dh), I met at church. Me too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Aside from my husband, I found mine online LOL! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 The key, I think, was that she was persistent. Every time I went introverted on her and tried to ignore her calls, she refused to take it personally and called and called and called. "I'm bipolar," she screeched at me once in a super cheery tone of voice, spitting the words out at rocket speed, "and I'm manic now but I know what it's like to self-isolate! I won't stop calling! Don't worry! Can I come over after work?" :lol: I'm an extrovert and I have an introvert friend I do this to. She never answers her phone (NEVER! Not for anyone! Not even her mom!) I'm always yelling in her answering machine "I know you're home, I'm planning X, just pick up the phone, it's so much easier than emailing back and forth!!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 my two best friends AFTER marriage I met at church, but one of them, a kindred spirit from the second we met, I would have met at a homeschool group. The other, a kindred spirit, too, I would not have likely met outside of church. I also have two best friends since before I met dh. They are like family. Both I've known for 25 and 34 years. Dh, by far, is my best friend, biggest supporter, and biggest fan. What can I say? I pity the fool. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 :lol: I'm an extrovert and I have an introvert friend I do this to. She never answers her phone (NEVER! Not for anyone! Not even her mom!) I'm always yelling in her answering machine "I know you're home, I'm planning X, just pick up the phone, it's so much easier than emailing back and forth!!" I am the introvert that does this.:tongue_smilie: My family tells me that they don't even know why I own a cell phone. I tell them it is in case I ever need to call someone (you know, in an emergency). I currently have the number 17 blinking on my answering machine at home. That means I have 17 unheard voice mails. I have been meaning to get to that but . . . . I don't even know how many missed calls I have on my cell phone. Everyone important knows to email me or call one of my kids and tell them to tell me something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeefreak Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I met mine 3 years ago at a funeral. I haven't seen her since, but we've talked every week at least once a week since. She's coming to see me in October.:hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisasaysto Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 At a La Leche League meeting! It was the first meeting for both of us, and now the little babies we were learning to nurse are 9 years old! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Year Round Mom Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I realize it's easier for me to be vulnerable and communicative over the phone, partly because I have three wee ones, mostly because I'm discovering I have Asperger's! So, even though I met K when we were missionary teachers in Korea, we didn't start going deep until we started talking over the phone (I'm in the East, she's in the West) every two weeks. Now she's in Uganda. I just got Skype and we've set up a monthly time to talk. Quality time is very important to me. I met P through chapel and Bible study on post. Even though both our hubbies were deployed, and we had time to get together, we still talked mostly by phone daily. Therefore, we went deep. I was more her encourager/mentor...she moved last year and we've kept in touch (but not daily). I've found that she's matured so much in her faith that our friendship has become richer, as I can share more of my struggles with her and receive her counsel and prayers. This is not because I willingly chose to keep stuff from her when we were developing our friendship; it's because my stuff never came up in conversation. I think, too, P didn't believe I could have issues! Now she understands that all believers have issues. Woo-hoo! NOW we can talk turkey! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Church-we sang on the worship team together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saille Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I met K at a car seat check. We were both volunteering. My baby was in a backpack, hers was in a sling. They're best friends now, too. It was one of those "instant best friend" things, although it was months before we saw each other again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbie in OR Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 College. Twenty-eight years later, still bff! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BMW Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Two bffs.... one from college, the other I met at church when I was 31 and she was about 51... I SO needed a local friend and she has meant the world to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Wow! You all have best friends?? You're lucky! I have not one friend beyond the ones you talk to because of some activity you're in.... I am trying to grow some:-) Carrie:-) (My mom is my bestest friend:-) She even helped me can pears just because I wanted to.... :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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