Allearia Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 It said: MOM I HT YIW or Mom I hate you. :crying: I think he felt really bad when he made me cry. His 7yo brother helped him write a new note that said I Love You but it was a bit too late. Of course, he used to write notes that said "I am mad at you Mama" so I will try to get his little brother to switch to that. We don't allow them to say hate so I assume he got it from somewhere and didn't mean it but it still made me feel bad. Not sure why I am sharing, it just makes me feel a little better to let it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 :grouphug: Aww... that would have made me cry, too. I'm sorry, Mama. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillieBoy Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 :grouphug: I say keep it and when he becomes a world famous author you can embarrass him on Oprah. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnandtinagilbert Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 That would make me very sad too. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LG Gone Wild Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Oh, ouch! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paula in MS Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Maybe his next sentence will be "im sore" (I'm sorry). My dd used to write im sore a lot. I think it was easier to write than to say.:lol: :grouphug: Paula Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mothersweets Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 :grouphug: I say keep it and when he becomes a world famous author you can embarrass him on Oprah. :001_smile: :iagree: I like that idea! I'm sure your son didn't mean it. A few of my kids have written me notes like that. It was just a moment of anger and they got over it. I eventually did, too. :) At least he realized how it made you feel and tried to fix it with a "love you" note. And your 7yo helped him! Very sweet. I think kids just don't realize the things they say or do can really hurt. Don't worry, mama, he loves you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaSheep Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Congratulations! You're doing your job as a parent. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osmosis Mom Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Ahhh, don't worry about it. Today my toddler refused to kiss me. When I pretended to cry, then he went and got me a towel to wipe my nose (but still no kiss). Don't worry about it especially since you guys don't use the word. He probably picked it up somewhere and was testing it out in a safe spot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Ow, that stings. I remember my first "I hate my mom." note. I kept it. It reminds me that this isn't a popularity contest and I'm not his friend. There will be time for friendship later. That doesn't mean it feels good though. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda in NE Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I've immediately responded that it's okay for them to be angry and even feel like they dislike me right then because, until they get over it, I'll love them enough for both of us. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschooltoone Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 :grouphug: the joy of parenthood. There will be better days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susu Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Aw...I do sympathize...it hurts to have someone you love so much say something hurtful, even if you really know they don't mean it. I know that you know that this is a childish, thoughtless act. You know he didn't really mean it...as evidenced by his attempt to make it better when he realized you were hurt. I think at that age they are experimenting with the power of the spoken or written word. But it still hurts. :grouphug: I think though that you are using this as a teachable moment. He is learning important lessons through this interaction. Hang in there, Mom! Susu Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I feel your pain! My dear sweet daughter wrote her first note to me at church, "momy smels. to mom love x." I had to laugh - they are just too funny and too honest. I still have it in the inside of my bible and when I read it I still convince myself it was a *good* smell... It will be funny some day. As an aside - you gotta love boys! The stuff they come up with is unparalelled! (((hugs to you))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony'sMom Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 The first "I Hate You" rocked me. My precious first born hated me. I went to our bedroom and cried. The "I Hate You" I got in the check out line at Walmart because I would not buy him (fill in the blank) I was a bit more prepared for and my instant response was, "I'm not real fond of you right now either." It was one of those days. The cashier smiled and told me, "Hang in there Mom, you will have better days." So, let me pass it on... Hang in there Mom, you will have better days! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 It said:MOM I HT YIW or Mom I hate you. :crying: I think he felt really bad when he made me cry. His 7yo brother helped him write a new note that said I Love You but it was a bit too late. Of course, he used to write notes that said "I am mad at you Mama" so I will try to get his little brother to switch to that. We don't allow them to say hate so I assume he got it from somewhere and didn't mean it but it still made me feel bad. Not sure why I am sharing, it just makes me feel a little better to let it out. Frame it. It's a piece of history. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2cents Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I'm sorry. :( You've got to keep it though. There will come a day when you all will get a good laugh over this. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Ow, that stings. I remember my first "I hate my mom." note. I kept it. It reminds me that this isn't a popularity contest and I'm not his friend. There will be time for friendship later. That doesn't mean it feels good though. I'm so sorry. Well said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-ninja. Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 Don't worry about it especially since you guys don't use the word. He probably picked it up somewhere and was testing it out in a safe spot. I agree. Still ouch though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allearia Posted August 11, 2009 Author Share Posted August 11, 2009 Thanks everyone! I will probably keep it along with ds7's "I am mad at you" notes. At least now he really knows not to use the word "hate". I think it is one of those things where intellectually I know he doesn't mean anything like that but emotionally it just set me off. I am trying to spend time cuddling and being just with him reading books and maybe going somewhere fun. Just to make sure there are no hard feelings on either side, especially mine! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracy in Ky Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 When he was little (probably 6-7) my ds and I were walking happily in the yard holding hands, and he sweetly looked up and me and said, "I hate you, Mommy." I asked, "Do you know what that means?" "No," he answered. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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