:001_huh: I would insist on NO.

He was desperate. He just wanted a night off. :glare:

Ha! That's funny! I talked to my Dr. about it and she said, "enjoy it while ya' got it!" (and yeah, all of my levels of all hormones, thyroid, etc. are normal.) I will say, though that ever since I've been tap dancing I'm not quite as.....insistent that dh MAKE ME SOME teA, RIGHT NOW!! He has appreciated the reduced level of hyperdrive. He has actually uttered phrases like, "can we just cuddle tonight?" "How about a night off?" and "Ive heard that some wives just like to talk about their feelings. Do you wanna do that?" (to which I replied, "How about we brew some teA while talking about our feelings?") ETA: Hey, it just hit me. Maybe if some of the dhs with higher sex drives than their wives took up tap dancing.....it would help?

Hmmm, how do I say this? :confused: But,....there are practices that some of us 'partake' in in which a wet spot is not an issue. :ohmy: And NO, libido has NOTHING to do with teA assault, which is why chemical castration for offenders is ridiculous. It is a show of power, which is why children and little old ladies and ANIMALS get assaulted. It was not because they were so alluring or that the offender was so worked up. It was about power/force.....not teA.

Yeah, it does make it average out differently, doesn't it? ;)

Yes, THIS.

It probably IS abnormal for a woman, but also,....WE DON'T SEE EACH OTHER FOR AT LEAST 3 MONTHS OUT OF EVERY YEAR, so we try to 'get it while we got it'. In that way, either one of us might not be totally 100% rarin' to go on certain nights, but we warm up as soon as the other person starts prepping the teA pot. ;) I'm more in love with him today than when we met/dated/''fell in love". :001_wub: and that was 19 years ago.

I agree with many previous posters. Get checked. It's not normal for it to go on for an extended period of time. Longer than a month would have meant me running screaming to my Dr. My dh knows that for 27 days out of every month I expect teA or something teA related. I can understand if he is not in the mood or is grieving a death or something, but if we go more than two days without.....I worry.

Not rude.

Yep, I'm with Martha here. Not that complicated. Middle of the night teA is not typically the "wake the neighbours, scare the dog, knock over the lamp" sort. Re: morning breath: I keep a toothbrush loaded with toothpaste on my nightstand. I dip it into some water, brush my teeth and spit into a paper towel. quick, painless and minty fresh! :D Then I turn back to dh and start humming, "brownchickenbrowncow!" :tongue_smilie: Although, many times with middle of the night teA our faces are not facing each other, iykwim.....:001_huh:

Of course! Brew me now, honey! I can sleep when I'm dead! :tongue_smilie:

Well, dh and I recently went to a funeral that was half military/ half biker. DH wore dress blues, as did the rest of the squadron. The deceased's DIL, son and many, MANY friends wore biker leathers. (Is that what you call it?) I thought it was a very fitting tribute. I wore a black dress with black sandals and I forgot that I had green glitter nail polish on my toenails until we were in the car. I dare say that no one was offended by my piggies, nor did anyone notice. I'd never met the guy, but gave his widow a hug and whispered, "Thank you for sharing him with us". (DH spoke very highly of him, but he wouldn't have thought to say anything to her.) I think if you (general 'you') spend your time being upset about what other people are doing you may end up very unhappy. People are always doing something cray-cray.

Yeah, I believe in human nature, as in most humans behave in similar ways. But,...the idea of ME being inherently ****ed to Hell (thus in need of saving) because of something SHE did? NO. That's like, "Martha ran a red light so Cyndi has to pay the ticket" (Centuries later). :confused:

Yeah, that didn't make it any better. :001_huh: I love you, too, Ronette! (I always want to put an 'r' on the end of your name. Ronetter!)

But, even if they had lots of kids......how would it NOT be incestuous if all of mankind started from two people? I'm not trying to be funny. I'm serious. If Adam and Eve had many kids.....the kids had to mate with each other, no? I'm not seeing any other possibility here. :confused:

This is one of those things that never made sense to me. You have to first buy into the premise that we could inherit sin and are therefore due punishment because of it. Of course, that is AFTER the belief that all of mankind came from the incestuous relationship of Eve and her two sons. :001_huh:

I've noticed that some (note I said "some" not "all") xian groups who push for patriarchy and such seem to be trying to bring back a lot of old fashioned ideas. (courting, shaking hands in old fashioned ways, etc.) Unless you live only with other people who have read the blog how are they going to know what you are doing?! :confused:

But, if god is all knowing then he knew it was gonna happen, anyway and just set her up to fail, no? :confused:

To piggyback on that: Why would he give her free will then punish her when she uses it? Why would he give her curiosity then punish her when she uses it? Why punish all womankind forever and ever when men didn't get the same? Sounds sexist and sadistic to me.

I did this and it wasn't necessarily a bucket list. I'm spending the next six years living as full a life as possible. Beyond that.....we'll see.

That's what I've heard and it's why I will never start. It's the same with cocaine. I'm afraid I'd like it too much. I'm hopeful, though that you've recognized your addiction. The first step in getting help is acknowledging that you have a problem. :tongue_smilie:

Ha! I wish! No, right now I perform mostly at open mics in the OKC area. I've had two gigs-one paying, one charity. I love doing it and it is nerve-wracking as all get out, but FUN!

kayaking writing & performing stand-up comedy tap dancing reading

You are just getting used to a new exercise, one in which you can't breathe whenever you want to. I experienced a similar reaction the first time I got back in the pool after many years of not swimming. Your body will acclimate quickly if you keep at it. Also, keep in mind that swimming utilizes SO MANY MUSCLES SIMULTANEOUSLY that it is exhausting at first just because of that.

:001_wub: OMG!! Is that not just the most adorable thing EVAR?! When I was 8 my favourite cousin in the whole wide world got married and I felt all lovey over her dh. Fast forward a few decades since then and I don't know what all the fuss was about. (He did resemble Magnum, P.I., though so I'm sure you could see where I was comin' from there at age 8.)