It is an interesting story. A friend of mine has cleaned this house for years. An older couple ...the wife left him several years ago and lives with her son now. But they never legally divorced. He died suddenly and since her name is on the mortgage she had to scramble to sell it because she could not pay the utilities or mortgage. Thus we are getting it for quite the deal. Roughly 50k below what it would sell for if she had even 5k to put into it which she doesn’t. She asked for a few thousand more than pay off which she prefers to foreclosure. It was full of stuff.... his daughter broke in after his death and took anything of value. That left the wife to clean out the junk... Anyway that is the story.

A house came up for sale that we could not pass up. It is not next door but close to my parents....in town. Nice half acre lot in a very very nice neighborhood. Has a building we can easily convert to an apartment for rental income. Beautiful yard —neglected but beautiful. 1900 sf 3/2/2 plus an in-ground pool. It is not a fixer like our current one was, but it needs immediately popcorn removed, carpet replaced and interior all painted. The rest of it is a bit dated but not gross or in disrepair .

I put it on Craigslist, Facebook and we put a sign out front. The buyers saw it on Craigslist.

Totally rude. Beyond rude. If it is a teen or young adult they get a small pass...if it is your husband he needs to grow up. I had a husband like this for 26 years. I would ask him a question and he would TOTALLY ignore me. So I was left thinking...did he hear me? Should I ask if he heard me? Ugh. Flashbacks. Maddening way to live.

And we made an offer on a house. Waiting on written offers/contracts, but yes, I believe it is a done deal. Update: Ugh. Buyers are flaking out on me. They are trying to strong arm me for some closing costs. We said no. Now they are 'thinking about it'. Update November 2. This same buyer called me yesterday and told me they have been looking. And looking. And she offered me 2k more than we accepted last time. I said, ‘to be clear you will pay your closing costs and we will pay ours?’. She turns to her husband, ‘ is that right honey?’ <insert me smashing my head into a keyboard>. So I had her call her bank and get a quick estimate of her closing costs since she acted like she had no idea. I told her we would accept the offer of 2k more than original offer and we would pay 2k of her closing costs all contingent upon us still being able to get the house we wanted in town. She said ok. So I called the owner of the house about to go into foreclosure and she said the bank is coming to change the locks on Nov 7. I had her call the bank and see if they will stop the foreclosure if she has a signed contract....she did but by then it was late in the day and she didn’t get a call back. So now I am pulling my hair out not knowing quite what to do. I think I am going to write up the contract to sell ours and try to get the buyers out here today to sign it and give us Ernest money because they are obviously flakey. If I get that out of them I will in turn get a signed contract and Ernest money to the seller so she will have that first think Monday morning to see if we can stop the foreclosure. I got on line to look for other options just in case and there is no inventory. I have never seen so many houses pending on realtor . Com. So I don’t know what we will do if we can’t get the one we want. Not sure if we want to sell with no where to move. And to add to that Dh is having surgery in a week.

I take paperwork with me to work often and do it during down time. Just get a portable little accordion type thing to keep everything together.

I have a HE and most loads take an hour. Some more. So it does take focus and getting started early. I love doing laundry. But during every load there is time to do other stuff. Some loads might only take 30 min to dry, so 30 min on a project, stop, fold or hang and put away. Then back to the project. Then in 30 min or less the washer stops and on and on. It also difficult for me to take an hour out to relax in the pool... I feel so guilty, but really the work in the house is unending and I would never get time to relax if I tried to wait for the work to be all done. Thanks everyone for making me feel better.

I have AC in my house. My car AC was broken. Fixed now.

The 7 loads yesterday did not include my boss’s.

Do you just mix everything together?

We generate a lot of laundry. Dss does his own. Probably 2 loads per week. I do mine, dhs, ds19, and my boss., ..today I did a load of sheets, a load of shirts, a load of jeans, a load of whites, a load of dish towels, and 2 loads of towels. Wednesday I will do 3 or 4 loads of my boss’s clothes. Also I do a load of rugs each week...

Yes. Both. It is a terrible feeling.

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I almost posted....but I didn’t get my new ironing board cover put on ( cat shredded the old one as it hung on laundry room door) and thus got no ironing doe..,

All 7 loads washed, dried, folded and put away

Well, yes, but did you care for small children? My boys are both grown and I just felt so worthless. I think I have issues.

No! No sarcasm. Monday is my big laundry day, but it feels like I should have got more done. I wondered if my perception is screwed up which is why I posted, so thank you for saying it is a lot.

I guess I am getting old. I just always feel like I should get more accomplished when I am home for the day than I actually do. This morning Dh and I left the house about 8:30 to look at a truck for sale. Before we left I put our sheets in to wash. Before we looked at the truck I dropped my vehicle off at the mechanics because my ac is not working and it was about 100 degrees here today. Dh brings me back home by 9:30 and he goes to work. I started washing clothes....the 7th load finishing up now. Put sheets back on our bed. Vacuumed cat hair off our comforter. Vacuumed living room area rug. Clean out litter box. Cleaned the kitchen.....a few things from last night,.,and this morning. Cleaned put the refrigerator. My break was an hour in the pool. Came in and showered. Then made dinner. Now it is 7:30 and Dh is on his way home. I just feel like I should have accomplished more. I have to go get my car in the morning and do a run into the city to buy supplies for my boss...... ok whine over.

Thank you for the updates. I am very very hopeful for you for a great outcome with the info you have given. And yes exhaustion is part of this emotional process you are on.

Thank you! I think this might be what I am looking for.

I am sorry. I hope it goes well.

I mean, I am old. LOL.....It is startling sometimes for me to face that, but hey it is what it is.

Things are different in the south for sure. But like Katie said I don't think they are stuck in some hierarchy...i think it is just different.

I would send a cheery text, 'thank you so much for thinking of ds's needs for college! 🙂 Unfortunately it was too stained up to use--which I am sure you didn't realize when you sent it.' If nothing else it might keep her from sending you stained up crap in the future. Ugh.

I went through a fast food drive through today....lady behind the speaker said, 'That will be $6.89.' I said, 'thank you.' And she said, 'no problem.' LOL I almost burst out laughing.