When my children were 9, 7, 5, and 3 my marriage was a mess. I seriously considered divorce. We were both so unhappy. I'm so glad we were both just too tired to do anything drastic or permanent. Now that we have one in college and the youngest is 12 life is so very different. We have time to spend together. We enjoy each other's company again. My mom gave me great advice when I got married. She said, "You will fall in and out of love with your spouse throughout your marriage." I think that's fantastic advice. Just because things are bad now doesn't necessarily mean it always will be. Invest in your marriage and go to counseling!
Prayers and (((hugs)))
Elise in NC