Really??!! I've got to research this- it sounds fascinating!

Yes, we have several! 😄 This is definitely an idea to ponder. It would feel awkward at first, but if I'm able to get one of the benches in the back of the room it might work!

They had some chairs set aside in the back. The older folks were already sitting in them. It was very crowded in there with all the decorations so an extra chair would not have fit. I need to just suck it up I think.

And had to walk right back out. 😟 They had it beautifully decorated in a country style complete with gorgeous wood benches where our chairs had once sat. Being that our service is a good 90 minutes long, there is no way my back could have endured sitting without support for that length of time. I'm getting old, aren't I.....

Truth.

I had a lump removed at the beginning of this year- I found it, went in for the mammogram, and the mammogram couldn't detect it. I could feel it. The doctors could feel it. But mammo could not pick it up. It wasn't malignant, and as others have said, odds are definitely in your favor. Frightening nonetheless I know, but you will be fine. â¤ï¸

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And yet, we are to arrive 30 minutes early to fill out paperwork, as I had to for yesterday's appt. I literally walked up to the receptionist, spent less than 5 minutes giving her my info, and sat down to wait. 😡

Since this week is conference week and the kids only go to school for 3 hours (including a lunch period) I'm going to keep him home tomorrow. Tomorrow is the orthopedic doc appointment so I will explain the insane situation to him, what my concerns are, how the school is handling the first "no PE note", and go from there. My hope is that the doctor will provide a more detailed note, spelling out exactly what needs to be done to avoid further risk of injury. Once I calm down, I will pen a very detailed, yet composed, letter voicing my concerns/anger, etc. over this situation. If I went down there now I wouldn't be able to even see the principal as he is sitting in on conferences. I'm just....blown away. ETa- Jann- oh my word. I'm so sorry that happened. What is it with some of these schools?!!!

See, that makes sense. All kids with injuries who have doctors notes excusing them from PE are treated equally and are given an area where they can do something productive, participate from afar, whatever. Nope. Not here. The counselor literally said those with leg injuries are allowed in the library. Those with upper body injuries must still attend the class. Regardless of the doctors note. Since the kiddos are currently learning basketball, the bleachers are stacked against the wall. The only sitting area is the 6 foot perimeter between the court and the wall. They do one sport about every 6 weeks or so. They just started basketball last week. I'm floored.

Thank you for the reminder, Perkybunch. I'm documenting as best I can now. Today the 60 kids were all in the gym shooting hoops. My ds said he just parked it against the wall and watched. He mentioned that the PE teacher came over and joked how he was going to be bored for the next 6 weeks. I think the teacher was just trying to sympathize with him, but it does illustrate my point. he also mentioned that he was hit in the gut with a rogue basketball today. It didn't injure him obviously, but it did hurt when he reacted. Again, not trying to make a big deal out of that, but it does illustrate my other point. 😡😡😡😡

We have an appt tomorrow with the orthopedic doc. 😄

Just heard back from the counselor. She said, per the principal, he will continue to attend the PE class. He needs to, according to her, be there for the instruction portion of the class. I then ask, "since the majority of time spent in PE is active, not instructional time, you are expecting him to sit and watch the kids for the next 5 weeks?" She answers yes. I then became a little irritated and asked why they are allowing kiddos with lower body injuries to stay in the library, while kids with upper, UNPROTECTED injuries, are being required to attend PE. How does that make sense??? I also said look, my son sees this other student active in his own neighborhood who has a "pass" to the library, while he does not. How can that be? How am I to explain that to an 11 year old?? (Okay, probably shouldn't have gone mama bear like that, but seriously....come on!!) She finally said to talk to the principal. Why does this anger me so much??? How did this blow up into such a big gigantic deal? I fully expected to walk in there this morning and them tell me oops, we didn't see the note that said excused from PE. Nope. I got this!!!

Wellll.....according to my kiddo, he was told by the PE teacher on Friday that he could still do "some activities". Obviously i need to consider that I didn't actually hear the teacher say this, but it doesn't bode well in terms of any confidence I have in the PE teacher.

After thinking about it more, if he had a broken arm that had a protective cast, I'd be fine with all of this. But this particular injury seems so much more vulnerable. That's what's bothering me- one bump from an active kiddo, or whatever, and he falls and really breaks that sucker, requiring surgery. Yeah, my mind goes there.....

Junie- you have a valid point. However, if ALL injured kids were required to sit on the sidelines, it would be different. I would still resent the fact that he is just wasting time, but I wouldn't make a stink of it because he would be expected to do what all kids are required to do. That isn't the case here. They are classifying the injuries, and it's making no sense to me.

Their retort to that, happysmilelylady, is that he needs to attend the class so he can be there for the discussions when they learn about basketball, or whatever the sport is that they are focusing on for the month. 🙄 We have a girl in our neighborhood, who is friends with my son and is in his PE class, who has been in the library since the 2nd week of school due to a knee injury. I don't know the extent of her injury. I just know that she has a brace and absolutely can walk and run with ease. She doesn't have a cast, she doesn't have crutches, and she is active. And yet, she is allowed to work in the library. I'm wondering if this is somehow coloring my view of this.

Thank you, Anne. It was even more frustrating to immediately sense the shunning and disdain the office staff started showing me once it was clear that I was going to hold my ground in pursuing this. I instantly became one of " those parents". It didn't matter that I was polite and cordial.

Alrighty hive- I posted last week asking if I should bother following up with a doc for my son's clavicle bone break. You helped me talk it through and made me realize that yes, I need to take him to the doc. So I did. I was immediately referred to an orthopedic specialist and given a doctors note excusing him from PE until cleared by ortho doc. DS returned to school Friday (he started PS this year for first time) with note in hand. They still sent him to PE. I know that kids with notes go to the library. I want hm in the library for 2 reasons.... 1- the break is borderline displaced. Since clavicle breaks aren't casted, I feel he is extra vulnerable to making it worse, especially in PE. 2- I don't want him spending the next 5 weeks watching the other kids in his class do their activities while he does absolutely nothing. To me it is a waste of time. I'd rather him be in the library reading or doing school work. I just went to the office to politely inquire as to why he was still sent to PE with his doctors note. I was told library kiddos are those with leg injuries only. Since he only has an arm injury, he can still participate in that if the other kids are running, he can walk, etc. i reiterated that I want him in the library. They are speaking with the principal and will get back to me. i feel like there is a disconnect here. What am I missing? ETA- this is not a JAwM. I would really like to hear any insight or other views that I'm not seeing at this point. Update- after calming down quite a bit I wrote an email to the principal outlining the sequence of events, the issues I took with said events, and reiterated my request for a safe location for ds to stay during PE. I also sent a second doctor's note into the office. The principal apologized and is now providing an alternative location for ds to stay until he is cleared by doc. Ds commented yesterday on how he felt such a big ordeal was being made over this. 😟 Thank you everyone for your help with this!

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In my mind, her figure, etc. doesn't matter to the issue at hand, but to answer some questions... She is NOT a developed 12 year old at all. She was covered head to toe in some kind of fabric. The neckline was not low, nor was the dress short. It was just super, super tight. I'm guessing that was the issue our coordinator took with it. Her mom, one of the PiPa leaders, was there herself for the activity, so obviously she had no qualms about it. Again, Im not speaking ill of AHG. My dd loves it and I think it is a good fit for her. I'm not crazy wild about some of the restrictive protocols it has in place, and it does seem to be a bit conservative for MY family (at least how my coordinator implements it) but neither of those are big deals or grounds to leave. My particular issue was how this particular individual was planning her "dress code" intervention.

RebelYell- To answer your question, The other girls were wearing pants and T shirts/sweatshirts (it was kind of chilly)

Scout- I agree with addressing the issue of uniforms and leaving the parenting to the adults. Full stop. 100%. Our AHG troop does have guidelines for clothes other than uniforms in our policy handbook, and it was taken directly from national. Honestly, it basically mimics the local school's dress code, and I think it is pretty generic. However, I could also see where leadership would read further into it. Also, there's a badge, Daughter of the King, that addresses modesty heavily at the PiPa level. The resources they suggested for use at that level were pretty conservative.

Oh yes, a real broken bone. My dd had broke her collar bone when she was 4, and her films just showed a slight "fracture", but no displacement, so to speak. My ds however, oh my word. That sucker broke, and went up into an angle formation. his X-rays are painful to even look at. Hmmm.....hearing myself speak....I think I gotta definitely put a call into a pediatric ortho. If I'm going to take the time and spend the money, I may as well at least try to get the best doctor I could get, right?

Very good points. Ideally I will be able to gently steer the coordinator's perspective towards that direction.