My dogs get better care/consideration than some of these infants. We anticipate their needs. Remove obstacles/barriers/hazards, and don’t blame/chastise them when we can’t adequately supervise/make their environs safe.

How does one ‘teach’ a newborn to lie still for a diaper change?! Never mind, don’t wanna know. Happy with my untaught, independently thoughtful kids.

Most folks here, a handful excluded, R&D, rich/poor, etc. HAVEN’T advocated for or attempted to make an infant stay on a blanket. LET THAT SINK IN. This is FRINGY, abusive, behavior. For those following along at home, do better.

Know better, do better. These discussions have been had here for a decade, at least.

Boys/masc girls: suit jacket and slacks, collared shirt, unbuttoned x2 plus NO TIE, leather shoes. Women/fem boys: fitted jacket, pale dress shirt, unbuttoned x2, slacks or knee-length skirt. IN ALL CASES, hose and heels are not necessary. As a southern resident and hiring committee member, this is PLENTY. Everything else looks like trying too hard and mom/dad advice.

I feel like folks are trying to extend this to older kids, beyond rods, to children in general b/c *they’re* still pushing the envelope and trying to control the behavior, not circumscribe/passively limit, older kids. Maybe just me. My kids will tell you that what broke the cycle of obey or suffer was my (inherited) arthritic hands. In truth, I wanted and hungered for a way to communicate my level of frustration without being forced to use physical violence and yelling. ‘Arthritic hands’ became code for ‘You have pushed mom too far. Or, check yourself, you’d better mean it, because there is no going back.

My kids were never 'trained' to sit on a blanket so... I'm gonna need to bow out while y'all work on this. It is HARD to raise independent and self-directed kids who have a strong moral compass (tethered to religion or not) and treat people well. My experience is that it is worth the effort to RESPECT THEM and check your own desire for control, so I have nothing to contribute to the effort to justify authoritarian ways. Having heard mere snippets of what DD's roomie is doing... good luck!

TRUTH...Long-standing terms can change over time in generally accepted usage. This generally accepted use is in the VERY near term attempting to be redefined to make people feel better about their OTT conservatism. Good luck with that.

So, I feel like this is why we can't have nice things/establish boundaries. Folks want to redefine (not over time but in the present, real time) those things that have definitions. The PEARLS said what they define as blanket training. Redirection isn't it. If that's the case, I'm still blanket training my young adult who no longer lives with me. I AM NOT.

No ma'am. They defined and established the practice. It has a definite meaning.

THAT IS NOT BLANKET TRAINING. Period. As the Pearls and others' described it, it is physically/emotionally harming the child to enforce boundaries. Neither is necessary. Both are abusive. The consequences for ignoring my looks? MORE LOOKS. SILENT ONES. The consequences for ignoring my physical boundary edicts...physical movement. That's it. I never hit my babies, toddlers, kids, or young adults.

Who 'corrects' babies with force for being curious? I redirected all the time, with a look--NO, or a word--NO (and definitely not on a blanket!!), or a physical pick up and relocation (out of doors) but I never struck, yelled at (..OK, maybe heading for the street!), or repeatedly abused my babies for doing what babies do. No wonder the kids end up so confused about what love should look/feel like. There's a difference between training and redirection, IMO.

I never even HEARD there was such a thing as 'blanket training' until I came to this forum. I never used it...any of its 'versions'. I do not understand/compute the assessment that people are judged for using it. Of course I'm gonna judge people who HIT/correct babies for exploring! No one I know did anything even remotely similar. I think this is a fringe behavior that folks don't want to believe is 'fringe'.

TBF, our district has no issue with homeschooled kids in the area taking at at their zoned HS. Registration ends Thursday tho.

As if Iraq has a deep bench of scholars? No.

This part. The cost isn't the issue. The provenance of the relics and their 'informational signage' would ve.

We don't force people to send their kids to school tho either...hence all the homeschooling. 🙂 Our society has and can opt out of providing it at adequate levels and we can opt out of participating in it if we jump through a few (or no, depending) hoops.

Not today, yesterday. I watched the SEC collapse for the second week in a row while my beloved (if doomed) Pac-12 rose to the occasion against other P5 teams. Sigh.

That's not so here. Within an hour radius, there are seven separate cities with seven separate school boards that set their pay and benefit terms independently. Student/teacher ratios are minimally regulated (read: funded) at the state level but they're not, actually mandated as student:TEACHER but student:STAFF. Even in rural areas, you need only travel to another county, an hour or two away, to find different pay/benefit terms. Local pay scales may be similar but it can vary WIDELY within a state and teachers can and do relocate.

From what I was told, repetitive behaviors aren't a requirement (altho DS displayed them when younger and occasionally does when stressed). DS was considered, when we explored it, to be a mildly impacted kid. I believe that to be true but he is still mostly friendless IYKWIM, and has difficulty blending in socially, not academically. He's a natural leader, so talented, and really wants to be more included/bolder than he is. We'll keep plugging away at it and maybe do the eval.

This was my experience. So freeing! As much as I'm afraid of a big name school for DS, intrusive 'Profile' questions, and cost!! It's probably the best combo of all the things he wants. So, we'll look at big state Us and big private Us but, in the end, compromises will be made. To be fair, within the MUSIC program at DS's school, he's killing it and exceeding expectations in honors band so there's that. His academic teachers this year (x2) are also cheer coaches and (SERIOUSLY!) tend to be more familiar with a diverse range of student needs, personalities, and habits than the AP teachers so there's that. I just know this is going to come up again next year.

Seriously, if it weren’t for band and his desire to work in film/tv scoring I would send him there in a heartbeat.

These are things that colleges and universities can standardize or provide universal recommendations to address…IF they know/hear it’s an issue. Is it possible to forward this concern/issue to their DEI/Accessibility office with a direct ask that they do that, develop some best practices/guidance that will help improve communication with all students? Preferably coming from the student.

I hear this too. The issue for me is that it’s so minor it’s dismissed. It doesn’t need extra time or a written report. It just requires someone to answer the darn question or say, hey, is anyone willing to stay after class five minutes and show x how to y? Thanks! Done. Basic human stuff, rather than assume everyone is following along because they’re nodding. I have taken it upon myself to push DS to ask more explicit questions to compensate for this too but he’s 15 and still learning. If I email a teacher with my concern, tell her I’ve asked him to do x, and he goes and does that and STILL doesn’t get what I, and he, asked for? Like, ‘Can you tell me if I’ve registered correctly?’ Doesn’t get answered…Whose fault is that? DH and I do not mollycoddle our kids and I was totally prepared for DS to suffer the consequences of not being a more forceful jerk about expressing his confusion (even as I also read the teacher the riot act). Turns out he did pay with his test score and grade but at least the principal stepped in and let me pay the late test fee so he could get that far. What happens to everyone else? I feel like I should get him a tshirt series that says, ‘Humor me and answer the damn question.’ That he can point to. And ‘Humor me, show me/point me in the right direction.’

That is exactly DSs issue. He doesn’t have any other obvious challenges. Just language and ASD.