Yeah, the one man I know (a college friend) that was heavily influenced by the manosphere is 45, and when we were maybe 25 he found his fairly new wife was cheating on him. He was one of the few people I know who was into the ideas that I now think of as prosperity gospel & courtship before the I Kissed Dating Goodbye book came out. He had a very weird & sincere conversation with me about it in 1996. When she cheated, instead of blaming her, he threw everything he knew away, including religion. And came up with very red-pill BS about hypergamy. Anyway, he started several businesses and started body building. Last I knew he had a new girlfriend who was pregnant who he refused to marry. It all seemed somewhat toxic, but before anyone in our friend group called him on it he left all the social media we chat through. That was maybe 15 years ago. I think I’ve only heard from him twice since. But I don’t think Andrew Tate was a thing back then.

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What a fabulous idea! Maybe plastic beads in different colors, a couple pairs of tweezers, and a roll of scotch tape to tape the other end either closed or to the table so the beads don’t slide off. If it was the white elastic cord I’d also suggest a couple lighters to melt the ends so it wouldn’t unravel, but I don’t think that’s necessary for the clear kind.

I’ve been lurking on Reddit a fair amount lately and almost every time I look there’s an AITAH post involving a young woman considering ending a multi-year relationship. Sometimes they’re engaged. Sometimes they’ve been married for a few months. Sometimes they’ve been happily married for a few years but the wife is pregnant with the first baby but he is insisting she quit her job and stay home despite her making 3x his salary. Usually the man started out very supportive and normal. But then started delving into manosphere crap online, becoming raging misogynists before the woman had any clue. I feel like porn addiction was a big problem for so many relationships when I was in my 20’s. But it seems sexism is a large problem for relationships for young people now. And not just incels who’ve never been in a relationship. For people who have had previously happy, long term relationships. My kids are too young for this to impact them yet. Have you seen it in young people you know?

Almost all full size SUV’s will do this.

It’s pretty normal to have crazy dreams to help you process anxiety or fears. But since you say you think you’ve had this your whole life, you might try cognitive behavioral therapy. That’s a short process (usually 6ish weeks) where you learn to examine which of your thoughts are true or not. It can help with anxiety. If there’s not a close cognitive therapist, there are some books about it that might help you do it yourself. But it will probably work much better in person.

When your brain is trying to prune old memories, it will bring them up. If you have a big emotional response, the memory is preserved. If not, it’s often forgotten. I notice an increase every few years. If that’s what’s going on, maybe give it a week or two, you’re probably fine. If it seems like more, go in for some bloodwork, a neurological exam, and mental health screening. If all of those are fine, you might consider asking for sleeping pills. Some “healthy” foods can cause an increase in this too. Especially if they are high in melatonin (cherries or cherry juice), resistant starch (any starch that has been cooled after cooking and before eating, especially potatoes), or high in histamine.

I’d leave it up to the bride, but if it were me I’d have him in one group photo, but none of the rest.

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Build a plywood box that matches the neighboring cabinets. Leave enough room for matching ceiling trim. Either put a backer only as deep as your deepest cookbook and block off the back, OR build a false back with hidden cabinet doors for seasonal things you can only reach with a ladder. I’d probably block it off because we’d just lose things back there.

My mom’s side were mostly newer immigrants in the Midwest. For the lines I can trace on my dad’s side, most did not. The three that fought in the civil war did not. A couple had 1-3. My paternal line vanishes before my GG grandfather, but my dad recorded the town gossip about him in the 1970’s. He was reportedly the result of an illegal relationship between an ex slave (mixed race, but the photos looked exactly like my dad) and my GGG grandmother. Who was reportedly disowned and changed her last name to my maiden name. There was a lot of drama, and likely a genetic defect because they all died young and started a long line of people dying in their 30’s from heart attacks until modern medicine extended that to their 50’s with my grandfather. At any rate, that side of the family has a lot of “Indian Princesses” in the family tree. Mostly Creek, Seminole, or Cherokee. As the tribes in the Southeast fully accepted runaway slaves into the tribes for 300 years, I have only the one known mixed ancestor, but twice as much African DNA as Native American on 23&me. Interestingly, DH and I have one black ancestor thought to be from the late 1500’s in NC in common. Which is so far back it’s shocking it could be identified. I think DH’s family didn’t live in slave states but also managed to avoid the civil war as far as I can tell.