thank you

Did you see my thread on this? I switched it for green tea and don't regret it now (I did at first lol). No headaches because I still have caffeine.

First of all, this is such an interesting thread. It really proves that we have to seek what is good for us and understand that it might look completely different for someone else. For example, some went keto others went plant based. Some found a different church, others decided on no church at all. @Indigo Blue My DH was in a similar position as you. Something about our previous pastor's teaching was harsh to him and depressed him. A change in where we worship is what he needed for his mental health. I really, really didn't want to change but I did it for him and I'm glad we did. I hope this is the case for you. For me personally... 1) I stopped expecting people to speak my love language or love me a certain way. Instead I allow myself to be loved the way they show love best. I intentionally choose to see the love they are giving. This was especially good with DH as he speaks my love language about 0%. He is actually adamantly opposed to verbal affirmation. We've had some discussions around it and he feels that words are fake and the only true way to care for someone is action. But he does action a bazillion times better than any man I know. He does a lot of laundry, he helps with everything around the house, I've never had a honey-do list (he does it before I can ask), have you seen my garden?, he works tirelessly for us in his job and at home. Embracing that instead of feeling unloved because he isn't verbally affirming me has been freeing for both of us. 2) Realizing that I can only control me. I can't control others. I wish some whom I love would make better choices. I could nitpick them, call them out, try to be the catalyst in their lives but all that does is strain the relationship we have and make them not want to be around me. They will learn what they need on their own schedule and I'm not the one who will change them. 3) Letting go of guilt around my IL's and the end of the relationship. This has been easier as my own children have become adults. I don't know how I would respond in every situation but I know this... I would not easily let go of a relationship with one of my kids. I would apologize were needed and try to fix what was broken. I wouldn't just deem everyone else wrong and be done with them. Y'all have helped me to see the depths of FIL's NPD too. 4) I have Hashimoto's and some other autoimmune stuff and what helped me most was going GF + DF and changing to desiccated thyroid meds. I made these changes years ago. 5) Embracing imperfection. Striving for perfection is a losing battle.

I added some dairy free creamer. It was sweetened but I didn't add any additional sugar or syrup, etc. I think I drank the equivalent of 2 cups of coffee a day? 12-14 ounces-ish? I only had it in the morning and no more but my mug is a good sized mug. I'm drinking about 2-3 cups of green tea a day. I'm using the Tazo Ginger Green, steeping it in a quart mason jar with 4 bags and then chilling it and drinking it iced with a little purple juice added for flavor. I realized I will never be a warm tea drinker. I just can't. Like I love warm coffee but not tea. I prefer tea iced. So I've been able to get more tea in that way. I've just embraced the iced tea thing and it has helped me feel more human. Green tea feels like a cleaner energy. I can't really explain that exactly but coffee is more like a jolt of energy and then, bam, gone. Green tea feels less jolting and longer lasting. So overall I think I'm feeling better. ETA: to clarify, I'm brewing a quart but not drinking the whole quart most days. Usually just 1/2-2/3 of it.

wow, I thought I answered this. Haha, they are good. I updated after you asked (in a weight update post). Hope your little man is good ❤️

Gosh, I feel like I should update. I eat super super healthy and don't overeat and can never get the scale to budge. I'm down 5 pounds since switching from coffee to green tea. Hmmmm....did coffee itself just screw with my adrenals? Is that why I haven't been able to lose weight? Also, I'm still alive and haven't caved.... yet. I may play this out longer and see where it goes. Edited to change the number, it was a typo.

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I've tried everything to get away from the plastic and also the toxins. I went down the list of things on ewg and I found a winner, but it took time. We have not so great water (hard) so if it works for me then it will probably work for you. Puracy Free and Clear. It is a small plastic pump bottle and you can refill from the bag refills. I think my original purchase was on their webpage and I've gotten refills on amazon via subscribe and save. https://www.amazon.com/Puracy-Detergent-Fighting-Plant-Powered-Clothing/dp/B09GHYQKTD/ref=sr_1_4?crid=PGAM1CTUW2AU&keywords=puracy%2Bfree&qid=1681493126&sprefix=puracy%2Bfree%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-4&th=1 https://puracy.com/products/natural-laundry-detergent?_pos=1&_sid=107f30064&_ss=r&variant=39369133391968

I may be feeling a little better today than yesterday. I was definitely planning to cave today if there wasn't some improvement. Now, let's see if I can survive the weekend 🙂 Rishi Blueberry sounds good

Yes, everyone is happier all around ❤️ I think it is relief to know that her milk supply is not an issue. They just needed better suction 🙂 Thank you!

I haven't read the other replies but if you're used to larger breeds then what you may not be prepared for is bladder size? One of my best friends has a yorkie and the bladder is the size of a tablespoon. They have to plan their lives around making sure they can get there every 4 hours to take the dog out. With my larger breeds we can crate them and leave for the day if needed. Just a heads up if you've never thought of it.

Oh and here’s a pic ❤️

Pediatrician appt yesterday. Peach is now 6 pounds 10 ounces and Nectarine is 6 pounds 6 ounces. That is 8 ounces each in 10 days 🙂 The lip and tongue tie release was most definitely the solution. Thanks to you all for your help through it all ❤️

My life has been all over the place the last few years. I had a bustling house full of people with my oldest three all in relationships and somehow we were the place to be for everyone. It wasn't uncommon for me to feed 8+ people most meals of the week. It was crazy but fun. Oldest DD got married a year and half ago. She was to me as your younger DD is to you, we just click, it is easy, she is my best friend in the whole world. She still spent a good bit of time with me at my house and they ate dinner with us a few times a week. They bought a house 4 miles from us. Then younger DD (we have the same sort of relationship that you have with your oldest dd) got married last June. So that was a fast move down from 4 to 2. She and her DH spend time with us but not as much and it has been very beneficial for our relationship to have space. We get along much better now. Then oldest DD got pregnant and so sick and her DH would literally just drop her at my house every morning so that I could feed her all day, she also just hates being alone. So we were back to having 6 for most dinners. Now I practically live with her to help with the twins and my house is pretty quiet. It has been such a ridiculous amount of change and so, so busy with two weddings and then babies that I haven't had the time to process it. Not much quiet time or down time to really think on it. Still just as busy, just a different kind of busy.

A lot of women in their 40’s and 50’s steer away from make up or at least use less. It can hang out in those fine lines and actually make you look older. I say go for it 😊

Yes, yes it definitely feels like an insane and demented journey. But I also feel like it is necessary? I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't 😞 Years and years go I did it for a few months when I was AIP. Months in I still felt tired and joyless, I finally caved and did it as AIP plus my morning coffee. Months didn't make it better. But now, it seems my stomach is at stake so I have no clue what to do.

ok, I'm so glad it isn't just me then. I feel like I should be making up the difference in caffeine but I'm still dead in the water here.

I can have caffeine, just not coffee. So I've been trying to drink Green tea but it simply isn't the same. Maybe I'll just drink more of it.

Yes, still full time baby duty and it is super hard when you're tired. I have an autoimmune stomach diagnosis and coffee was considered an agitator. I'm not one to drink it all day though. I usually only drink my morning cup, which is large and probably equivalent to two cups?

I had a stomach bug and couldn't stomach it or keep it down for 4 days so it just seemed better to stay off of it rather than taper.

Coffee IS joy and there is no joy without it. Yes, I want to do it for health purposes but I don't think I can go much longer.

There isn't enough green tea in China to fix what I'm feeling. Please send help. “Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome.” ― Isaac Asimov ETA: Will this get better? ETA2: Update later down the page. I wish we still had post numbers 😞

I've homeschool for over 20 years and never heard of it but it sounds like I didn't miss out on anything.

I haven't read other replies. But to this I will say it is ideal but also say it is actually difficult for those actresses that are not tiny but also are not obese to find work. The TV show Shadow and Bone, for instance. They cast Danielle Galligan as Nina and we think she is wonderful. She is a good in between size, not obese but not a typical 00. She frustratingly was deemed too large for parts in the past even though she isn't too large and then she was so happy to be cast as Nina. She ended up getting a bit of a backlash from some book fans that were not happy because they thought she wasn't large enough. So, the in between people can really struggle.

That was my point earlier, as long as it is consensual of course.