I always joke that my parents are hermits, although it is slightly true. We were allowed and strongly encouraged to do school sports. Problem was in a small town that meant the options were softball and basketball, nothing else. I am not gifted in the least in either and in fact pretty horrible. I did cheerleading for a few games but had to quit because I was too shy it was painful to think of having to get in front of others. My one year of basketball the coach wanted to put me in for 1 game(as we were really ahead) I begged to be kept on the bench. I did Girl Scouts for a short bit, not sure what happened to that.
We didn't have friends around to play with we lived in the country. My parents didn't have friends that ever visited w/ or without kids. It was extremely rare to do any kind of family activity. I remember going to the movies once. A family outing was a trip to WalMart and maybe Pizza Hut or Sonic very rarely. Vacations were ALWAYS camping to the same place, where dad had relatives.
My biggest memories were spending time playing outside at Grandma's house, that was the best. I wished that I had the opportunity to do anything else beside sports. My goal is to have some balance w/ the kids(of course balance is defined differently for everyone). Sports are not a big goal for me or my dh. Neither of us were gifted in that arena and frankly a lot of the people involved in those around here are not the type we really wanted to associate with- I am sure there are plenty of people that take those experiences and it is positive(one of my best friend's husband is a wonderful guy and was a big jock). Unfortunately most the other ex-jocks I know are arrogant jerks and really focused on the material things- not that everyone is I am sure- just the people we know(both sides of the family). So, admittedly we are very biased on this.
However, if any of the kids showed interest we would like for them to pursue it- I just don't want to force it though. We try to do lots of kids activities, especially the free ones. However, I don't want to be gone away from home several days a week. As it is we do library/park on Tuesday and Co-op on Fridays, Church on weekends. Try to have one decent family activity a month. I would like my son to do Boy Scouts when he is old enough. We will be doing swim lessons at the city pool as they are a lot cheaper, I never learned to swim at all and would like my kids to have that.
Both of the older kids so far love being around people so we have to work on balancing things they enjoy while keeping a relatively calm family life.