Ah, I see. :grouphug: Yeah, that's rough! I don't even know what to say about an adult who intentionally hurts his/her spouse. Well, I could probably find one or two words, but they wouldn't nice ones! So, my two options are a cast iron frying pan upside his head (which might hurt my good cast iron pan :huh: ) or walking away from him every time he opens his mouth. He's not interested in conversation, just monologue. I wouldn't participate. Dh starts talking and/or interrupts; turn around and leave. :grouphug: again

I'm probably being dense here; but, what's he saying "No" to? Disagreeing that he's being disrespectful? Disagreeing that he's interrupting/talking over you? Jean's right. This isn't a conversational style issue; this goes much deeper. Frankly, were my dh to pull something like that, my response would border on apocalyptic. If your dh isn't willing to even acknowledge the issue, let alone change his habit, and you don't wish to go down the mean trail, then I think turning around and walking away every single time he interrupts you is fine. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Maybe this will solidify the upcoming year at least in my fevered brain ( :smilielol5:): MATH 1. Pre-algebra w/My Homeschool Math Class. (This boy is the antithesis of "mathy".) 2. Khan Academy for additional practice, prn Skills Focus: firming up knowledge base and getting ready for algebra ENGLISH 1. Writing - WTMA's Expository Writing 1 2. Literature a. Homemade list compiled from various sources i. Some possibly supplemented w/various TC courses b. Shakespeare - Hamlet and another of ds' choosing i. TC's "How to Read and Understand Shakespeare" (probably) Skills Focus: essay writing; discussion of literature SCIENCE 1. SWB's The Story of Science 2. Hakim's series of the same name 3. TC's The Joy of Science Skills Focus: taking notes from readings & lectures; short essay questions HISTORY 1. Complete his WWII study 2. Big History Project - which will also encompass science 3. MP's Famous Men of Modern Times - this is at his request. We may drop this depending on how the year goes. Skills Focus: discussions from readings, lectures, etc; critical thinking STUDY SKILLS 1. WTMA's Study Skills for the Logic Stage 2. TC's How to be a Superstar Student Skills Focus: study skills, organization, critical thinking FOREIGN LANGUAGE None. He's taking a year off Latin at his request and hasn't indicated a modern foreign language. PE 1. Continue TKD 2. PT for Civil Air Patrol Extracurriculars Civil Air Patrol

Old pre-A/C (and when a hurricane knocks out your power) trick: 1. Get a portable fan or box fan or something and place it blowing directly on you (i.e., on your side of the bed). Oscillating completely optional. 2. Spritz your sheets w/cold water before going to bed. 3. Take a cool/cold shower prior to getting into bed. 4. Make sure your pj's or whatever you sleep in is a breathable fabric. I absolutely die if I sleep in anything other than light cotton t-shirt or pj's (shorts & tank top). 5. Sleep in a cooler part of the house. Probably not very popular with your dh, but sometimes you just gotta do whatever it takes.

Happy Bloomsday! :D

Well, first, I agree with Bolt that you will need to want to improve for you, not for your dh or kids. I'm afraid that if the motivation is external, you won't enjoy much or easy success in breaking this habit. Second, I get the mouthy kids. My almost 14 yo son and 12 yo daughter are past masters at this type of manipulation (and that is what it is). I've learned to say to my kids that there are some things that adults can do/say/etc and to stop being so disrespectful. This isn't a zero sum game unless you let it be one. Your occasional cursing really has nothing to do with correcting/disciplining your ds; so, don't engage on that front. [And I do realize how hard it can be to resist engaging teens - see my second sentence :) Sometimes you just want to :smash: their precious (not so) little noggins. Or is that just me?] It's really disrespectful, in my rarely humble opinion, for your dh to make you feel bad, especially if he does so in front of your boys. I think it's perfectly fine for him to say, "Gee, hon, I really don't like it when you curse like that." But to make you feel bad? Maybe I don't understand what he's saying, but that would royally piss me off and probably make me curse more. Not very mature, I realize that; but (shhh, don't tell anyone as I have a reputation to uphold here :cool: ), I'm only human. So, I think the first thing to decide is whether or not you want to break this habit for you because you want to and not because of anyone else. If you do, there are some great suggestions in the thread.

Hoping your at good children's ER right now. This is an emergency. :grouphug: to you and your dd.

I quite literally saved both my and my partner's lives by listening to my instinct. As we walked into the residence of the person who had called 911 my instincts started screaming to Get. Out. Now! On first glance there was nothing discernible that could explain the feeling. I stopped and started backing up as my partner walked into me - we were in a narrow entry way. I pushed my partner back outside and slammed the front door. Turns out the person who called 911 was going to commit suicide...and take out the first emergency personnel who walked into the living room. He called for chest pain.

Woot!! Wonderful news!

Darn it!! The plan's been outed. <goes off to plan Agenda 22 wherein Operation Brave New World is executed>

Erm, actually, no. That wasn't even an option. Did I just date myself? Not that there weren't other things newly "free" young adults could and did sample.

Sending you both healing thoughts.

I can't even imagine having to estimate taxes NOT paid when filling out state income tax forms. Actually, I can't imagine dealing with state income tax forms. ;)

How wonderful! Thank you for sharing.

You're behind in essential parts of your homesteading endeavor and aren't prepared for winter. You're already homeschooling young kids who are still at the age of needing lots of direct instruction. You're pregnant with your 5th child and have 2 toddlers running around. You don't have the resources to direct a high school education. Your dh doesn't seem to have a firm plan for an official custody change. I'm very sorry; but, I just don't see how bringing your dsd to NH for her senior year is practical. Other posters have probably hit the nail on the head - it sounds as if your dh is feeling a little bit guilty for moving and has put blinders on and can only see the ideal, not the reality. Maybe dsd can visit for the summer to help prepare y'all for winter, attend her senior year in WV, then come back yo NH, if that's what she wants. Does dsd have any college plans? Moving now could really mess them up.

Oh, and chirrguire, tell your friend that of all snakes cottonmouths are NOT the kind you want to go after unless you're positive you have a kill shot. Those suckers are V.I.C.I.O.U.S and will go after mere mortals.

Huge storm the other night, but nothing last night in my area. BUT, we are under a flash flood watch until, I don't know, an archangel blows a trumpet or something. So far, there are nice blue skies. DS13 is cleaning out the chicken coop and laying clean and dry (!) bedding in the nests & on the ground. Our creek is still running, but is no longer over the bridge. From being at historic lows (and after several archaeological digs there) Lake Travis is almost full. I don't think Buchanan has filled as much.

Central TX - I wish I could come. Alas, it's too far & I can't get off work.

Holy Rotation, Batman! We had to shelter a couple of hours ago as a rotational cell (though, fortunately, not a tornado) passed right over us. A huge tree branch fell on the deck during the wind storm. Later dh and the older kids walked part of the property to assess damage. He took video of the creek rushing over the bridge on our property. if the water doesn't recede I may not be able to get to work tomorrow. He also saw that the corn and okra in our garden had been blown over in circular patterns. :-0

Lanny, you're absolutely right about not driving through water even if it looks calm. I do want to note that last night most of the people I helped rescue were stuck in their houses. Most of the people in Hayes and Blanco Counties were similarly flooded out of their homes. The storms were torrential and the water rose very fast.

Lake Travis is up some 7 feet since last night - its highest level since 2011. Onion Creek expected to reach flood stage later today for those you in south Austin.

Just walked in the door from work - multiple swift water rescues, wrecks, sick people, and a tornado warning with no sleep. Drove home to water over my bridge (though passable) and the ladies very unhappy in their run/coop with water flowing through their yard. Standing water in the garden. More rain forecast.

:grouphug: :grouphug: You are NOT a crappy mom! You are a wonderful, caring, stressed beyond belief, loving mom who's doing an awesome job! Listen, hon, you and I both know what some nurses can be like (not all of them, certainly), especially when they've made a couple of med and other errors, and you know the magic words for getting what you want/need: HIPAA, JCAHO. You keep on being baby C's best advocate. They knew what they did was wrong. <grr...> I once forgot one of my kid's birthdays. Completely forgot, as in didn't remember until several days after the big day. She's fine. You hang in there and rest! I hope C. starts doing better soon.

Corraleno, if I remember the news reports correctly, the father's presence at the committee hearing was what tipped at least one if not more senators (?) over to supporting the bill.

I think you'll need something a heck of a lot stronger than coffee, if ya catch my drift. I assumed Crown Corporation was this group's code for government (an amalgam of government and business). I did note the use of the British 'u' in words such as DISHONOUR.